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Black ring means you are in the lifestyle?
Saw this on someone's profile. Never heard of it before. Just wondering if anyone has heard about it before. Wearing a black ring on any finger of either hand signals that you are…
by Ymichael1414replies1,969viewsMy Gal Slept with a guy
So this is your first post.. welcome but sorry if you have not worked out these issues prior to swinging and coming on SLS do so.. take a step back and talk about all issues. Only…
by RonKathy10replies1,928viewsUnderperforming .
So my wife and I had our first experience last night and it was amazing but I was only hard like 10% of the time, which is really weird for me cuz I can look at a loaf of bread an…
by HotinND11replies1,924viewsHow and how not to flirt
It dawns on me from a prior post that some guys may have no idea how to flirt. Others might be doing it without even realizing it. For example, I smile a lot, and have been told b…
by mayhem816replies1,921viewsBLOCKING PEOPLE
I periodically block people. There are those that never respond, those that keep viewing us looking for new photos, many of them state they are looking for a female but advertise…
by MNJFLA17replies1,912viewsWhy You Don't Get A Response Message Back ?
I had seen this list on another platform which is kinda interested of reading, and it's a reason why some people do not get a reply message back who they write to. I hope people t…
12replies1,894viewsSwinger signs
My sister in law Where's a pineapple t- shirt and a toe ring...not sure if she is open to swinging but sure shows signs....what do you think??
by J5918249replies1,880viewsShow the EFF UP
Yes- we've been doing this long enough to know 'IT HAPPENS'.. But still the window shoppers, and the people who aren't serious are driving me insane. We are not huge picture excha…
by justjj6616replies1,858viewsThe no drama couples
In our experience over the past few years we have noticed something. Why is it the couples that say "no drama" are the ones that bring it? Anyone else notice this too?
14replies1,825viewsHow long did you date your significant other before you got physically intimate?
Call this a curiosity poll. Because I cannot understand why, in a community that's about sex, so many profiles read like people are afraid of sex. So, I want to know... how long d…
by Esperanza91123replies1,820viewsCertifications
We were never the couple that would ask for certifications, and never thought about giving them unless the other couple asked. They just never seemed that important to us. Then a…
by NCmtncpl605630replies1,801viewsCouples Dating
We have been in the lifestyle for over 12 years now and have made many friends along the way. We recently have become very good friends with another couple who brought up the idea…
by cpl4newfun310replies1,786viewsCampground fun
Why not invite him over for a drink and in the conversation bring it up.
10replies1,785viewsBuying gifts
" Am I wrong? Is this a line that shouldn't be crossed?" There's no manual for open/poly relationships. The determination for what step is too far is with you. And you're not happ…
18replies1,778viewsOur first hotel takeover
We have enjoyed many evenings out, met some really nice couples, and had some fun, but for New Years we are attending our first Hotel Takeover. We are approaching this much like w…
by FredTammy15replies1,764viewsWe give up!!
Ok, we're not really giving up but damn it gets frustrating. Why in the world would we agree to plan a hook up without ever seeing a face pic? I mean really people.. What the fuck…
9replies1,741viewsReal identity questions
If you're hosting someone, don't you want to know who is coming into your home? Recently had someone bail out on getting together because we wanted to know their real name. Red fl…
by bfwp4u29replies1,731viewsWomen run the lifestyle - but men drive it (observation)
We've been in the lifestyle for some years, and from time to time it seems to dawn (and re-dawn) on me that the old phrase of "women run the lifestyle" needs to be updated to "wom…
by Interlude22224replies1,725viewsUnsolicited advice from me to you.
It would be a bare minimum, if swinging actually worked in the manner you believe it should. :-) ~Allen
by 888eatme88811replies1,725viewsReminiscent
So hi! I'm Pebbles and I'm quite shy compounded with anxiety, people say "don't be shy", it doesn't work that way. BamBam isn't the least bit shy, but he's very quiet, is uncomfor…
by AZBedrockers13replies1,725viewsWaterproof mattress covers?
Wasn't sure if this was the forum this should go in...but we are looking for advice so.... We might be hosting this weekend or next. Just in case the gal is a squirter, we would l…
14replies1,711viewsHow can we not be rude
We know this is an age old topic. But for the life of us we really understand that all single men are not bad. But that stigma follows them due to others just not getting the hint…
20replies1,708viewsAre my expectations too high?
Ok.... let me set stage... we host parties. This time around everyone has a kik handle so we started a kik group. I started the group to allow for some chatting and pg13 picture s…
by kinksterhere17replies1,705viewsHow long before you brought up LS?
We’ve been together for a decade and it took us about 2 years into it before it was brought up. After much fantasy chat during love making did we get serious about our LS fantasie…
by Nickindela18replies1,704viewsWhat to expect at Parties, Clubs, and Events
I have never been to a swinger party, club or event before. What am I to expect if I am ever invited to one? I do not want make a mistake and cause a misunderstanding.
by Newstuff2427replies1,693views- 5replies1,674views
Meeting others (swinger signals)
So we have read many articles and posts about black rings, anklets, and pineapples but we dont see too many of those signs when we are out. Being in the LS, would you be opposed t…
by scorpionbull7replies1,649viewsEmbrace Being Rejected. They just saved you a bunch of time and headache :-)
I know everyone is naturally disappointed being rejected by another couple but if you think about it they just saved you a lot of unnecessary chatting and time. When we have a cou…
by FunInMidwest11replies1,649viewsshared wife first time
Recently shared the wife for the first time at a party, it was amazing to watch....afterwards we felt closer to each other,more that usual. We have a great relationship, so we did…
1replies1,633viewsGhosting
Yes it is.. some want a one and done.. some just didnt like what happened.. some enjoyed the moment.. get over it and move on.. its life! Swinging well over 24 years and some have…
by RonKathy12replies1,620views1 to 1 of 1 TOPIC: How was the first time you watched your partner with someone else
We all have Fantasized about watching our partner with someone else and the thought of that is extremely exciting! But when you actually set this up and it happening how did you f…
by Insatiable612replies1,617viewslooking for advice
HI, My wife and I have been together for roughly 20 years, happily married for 14 years with 2 children. We talk about everything and I believe have a very good relationship. Give…
15replies1,612viewsWhy do people incorrectly identify their own sexuality, and what can I do to avoid fakers?
I'm going to answer this in regards to why my wife has marked bi-curious. The fact is she loves sex with men and has no problem finding one or more volunteers without having some…
by RusticMagic10replies1,603viewsTo say, or not to say?
I'm looking for a bit of etiquette advice, realizing that many people may be shy about mixing their vanilla and lifestyle worlds. I've noticed a couple on SLS, whose pics, even th…
by bobbyjoelong10replies1,597viewsNew!
Hi! We are new to this lifestyle. It's very exciting but it seems that we are fumbling our way around and trying to learn the ropes, via online, and meeting people in general. We…
by DestimY1510replies1,594viewsAttractive or not
We have been swingers over a year. Been on SLS over a year, we have been to the swinger clubs also. I have asked what it takes to attract other swingers and couples. Seems the sta…
5replies1,585viewsWe seem to have no luck on here
Hey!! We have been on the site for a year and nothing has been legitimate. Chat back and fourth here and there and then nothing.. is there a secret we don't know?! Help us out? ???
8replies1,566viewsHow many ignored no's before you block a profile?
After about 5 and a respectul "not a good fit" then a "im not interested in what you're looking for" he was still persistent. He's totally out of the scope of what my profile ment…
by magjoy12replies1,549viewsMixing LS friends and family members
Your request was reasonable , honest and clear cut. As to the couple bad mouthing you. We have found that those who speak ill of others are to be avoided. They are for the most pa…
by lcmim14replies1,546viewsbi female in a couple.
Is being A bi female/straight male couple looking for a female swinging? If not please let us know. Couple/couple swinging is not my thing.-Ericka
by KINKYGOATS16replies1,531viewsJealousy
Hi, my partner and I are new to this site. My partner has no problem, and encourages me to be with other men. Hence, my question. Why, when he is going to be with another woman je…
10replies1,518viewsWhat is the best swinger vacation destination?
We were going to try and travel to someplace like Hedonism for a vacation over Thanksgiving. Can anyone that has been to one of these suggest which may be best and why?
8replies1,505viewsIdeas About Starting Up Again
With all this virus stuff going on we’re struggling a bit with how to decide when to start playing again. We’d like to make an objective decision while recognizing there won’t be…
14replies1,482viewsWife
Not sure how to start this. However, over the past few years like most couples the spark has diminished in our sex life. As you get older, that sometimes happens but the desire is…
7replies1,481viewsEttiquette - splitting the room
Ok - we're new and have a question. We met a couple a while ago with who we hit it off. After weeks of life getting in the way on both sides we've finally scheduled a play date fo…
by AandJinNNJ17replies1,473viewsHave you seen swinger tiktok
People here freaking out over a face picture and there are full on videos over there
by Esperanza91116replies1,466viewsExcuses to give “pants on” friends?
We live in a very small community where everybody knows everybody. We have a few very close friends that are definitely not in the lifestyle and they have a very tight pulse on wh…
by Ballgamers10replies1,457viewsDeclining ettiquette
On a few occasions, my husband and I have met a couple and we're just not attracted. Typically, I have been very kind, but truthful. I'll normally say something like, "we enjoyed…
6replies1,455viewsReaching out for the first time
Just a piece of advice. For the love of all that is holy, if you're contacting someone for the first time via email, say something more than just "How are you?". I can't speak for…
by sorillo100012replies1,453viewsPolite communication of hygiene issue?
We are huge fans of eating pussy and ass....in that order as to help avoid a bacterial infection! However, if we encounter a hygiene issue somewhere along the ride, what's the bes…
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