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Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
I'm not aware of a site that mixes the LS and looking for a relationship. I'm in the same boat. After taking a break from the LS I realized that being 100% vanilla isn't working. Finding a single woman in the LS that fits in a relationship…
Hot dates
I only post my house parties on the Hot Date section. Because of bad behavior by some single me we have a poor reputation. I've had much better success meeting others by building a solid network of LS friends. When people like and trust yo…
House parties
I've been hosting small house parties for quite a while and have been to other parties hosted by friends. Every one is different but I have found them to be a great way to reconnect with LS friends and meet new ones. The first 90 minutes o…
Black rings
Some do. I've been wearing one for quite a while and get a lot of interesting questions. It's a fun conversation!
Fakes, Flakes and Time wasters
Unfortunately, this happens fairly regularly. I try to get a good vibe for someone before I agree to meet them. And when I do it's always for drinks or lunch so that I don't waste too much time if they flake out. Here are a few things that…
Does open minded mean bi?
I feel as though "open minded" means something different to everyone. I think I'm more open minded than most. I'm definitely not bi but respect everyone's wishes. It's always best to give and ask for specificity. Good luck.
do you swing with those who are Bi
I would never play with a couple that has a bi male. Maybe that's homophobia. I will own it. Outside the bedroom it's all good. We can chat, hang out etc. But I could never be comfortable in a sexual environment with a bi male. Robert
Does age matter when meeting a new couple
Age is one of many factors. However, as always, it depends on the person. As mentioned below I have seen some 35 year old women that are overly tanned, aging prematurely, out of shape and have a horrible personality. I have also met 60 yea…
She says 'I don't orgasm'. I'm perplexed
I have a LS friend that can't orgasm due to the side effect of a surgery. She is still fun and although it's different this does not get in the way of a great time.
House parties
Every house party has its own vibe. I tend to invite experienced LS guests and many of them are regulars. While play is never expected I work hard to create a comfortable environment where everyone feels safe and secure while having a hot…
Deceiving Physical Attraction
It's human nature to look as good as possible. Unfortunately, some take this to far and cross the line to deception. All vanilla dating sites have this problem. SLS is no different. For me that's a huge red flag. If someone is dishonest ab…
Double penetration
Tried it several times. Getting the angles just right is a bit tricky. Honestly, fore it sounds and looks more erotic than it feels. But it's fun and I'd do it again. Robert
House Party Hookup
I host house parties regularly. Get out and meet LS people at clubs, organize meet and greet events etc. Gradually you will build your network of friends. Eventually, one of them will invite you to a house party. Every now and then someone…
Motor Bunny /Sybian
The old record of 7 seconds to cum on the Motor Bunny was recently broken. 3 seconds is the new record. Gonna be hard to top that one!
Are my expectations too high?
I host parties all the time and find Kik groups to be a great way for everyone to get to know each other before the party. Your feedback seemed reasonable and respectful. The fact that one guy dropped was probably a blessing. Your house yo…
Swinging while pregnant?
Sure! Assuming there's a mutual attraction I would go with whatever she's comfortable with.
What is the trick to getting to talk to people when you're single male
No magic trick. It takes a long time to build your network of LS friends. Be respectful, honest and fun. LS people usually recommend friends to others. If you make a good impression people will notice.
HWP
Well that varies depending on who is answering the question. But it does feel like the definition of HWP is being stretched a bit thin - pun intended ;) In a strict sense HWP is anyone that's not overweight. Now what's overweight? Well, ag…
getting the play started
When I host house parties I always have an icebreaker after about 90 minutes of socializing. This helps everyone feel more comfortable. Most feel awkward about being the first one to get started. When I'm in a smaller setting I'll just ask…
New to the lifestyle and bit frustrated
House parties are amazing! However, because of the smaller and more intimate space they tend to work better for more experienced swingers. The house parties I've been to and hosted are usually full of people that already know each other pr…
Is there such a thing as too many or too little?
It all depends on the perspective of the reader. There's no magic number. However, I believe a few good certs that validate your profile and persona will open up opportunities to meet some really good LS people.
When couples look for SM
Unfortunately this is reality as a SM in the LS. Couples and SF are bombarded by emails. As a SM you have to stand out from the others. It is important to be patient, respectful and get to know the good swingers in your area. If you make a…
Hot dates
I post a hot date when hosting a house party. I get many profile views but only a few messages. It's been a good way to bring new people into my LS friends circle.
Why do some men lie about penis size
For the same reason people like about their age, height, weight etc. They want to feel better about themselves or they get off on catfishing people. Honesty works much better!
Bad experiences .
In 13 months I've only had 1 bad experience. I recently met a woman for drinks. However, from the moment we said hello she was rude, snobbish and an utter bore! Physically she was beautiful but her behavior was so ugly I had a hard time en…
Success Story
I've read many forum topics with negative threads or complaints about or from single males. I'd like to share my positive experience. Since I joined SLS it's been an amazing journey! It took some time but with patience I've been blessed to…
Single men are the ruination of the ls!
Unfortunately, many single men behave badly. However, I have found that a few selective single men can add a great dynamic to a group setting or house party. I host small parties of 5 or 6 couples and a few single guys that have been vette…
Men who hate parties?
I love house parties and enjoy hosting 5 or 6 couples and select singles. However, I have also noticed a few single men just want the sex and not the LS. Big difference.
Sure I'll have se with you, but don't expect to mix with my Vanilla friends
It all comes down to a matter of trust. Do you trust your LS friends to be discrete? Personally, I would be very cautious and selective before inviting LS friends into my vanilla world.
Payed or free? Does it actually make a differences.
A paid membership indicates a higher degree of commitmentand tends to filter out the lurkers amd pic collectors. There is nothing wrong with being a free member if someone is new and learning.
Motor Bunny /Sybian
I purchased a Motor Bunny with a few additional attachments. The ladies love it! It's a bit loud on the higher vibrations. It makes for fun conversations on the main floor when the Motor Bunny is going upstairs during house parties. Highly…
Motor Bunny /Sybian
I purchased a Motor Bunny with a few additional attachments. The ladies love it! It's a bit loud on the higher vibrations. It makes for fun conversations on the main floor when the Motor Bunny is going upstairs during house parties. Highly…
Single Gentlemen, What would you do?
It's been nearly a year in the LS as a SM. I've meet some amazing couples and singles (M and F). I look for the guys that I'd want to hang out with anyway. Cool, respectful to everyone, fun and comfortable with the lifestyle. I'd like to t…
One word that describes you
Blessed
Black rings
Just got a silicone black ring. Great for wearing at the gym. Much more comfortable.
Cock Ring
Personal preference. I like mine tight and pushed as far down as it can go. Robert
Happy Thought of the Day for Fit People
Friday is rest day! Hitting the road bike this weekend. HAPPINESS!
One word that describes you
Charismatic
? For the SM's please
I have no preference but I tend to reply to the M & F when communicating out of courtesy. I will also defer to a couples preference though. Respect given is usually reciprocated. Robert
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Hot, Hot Hot - Buster Poindexter Robert
How's the Weather Out There
HOTLANTA is living up to it's name. Great pool weather. Robert
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Taking it to the Streets - Doobie Brothers
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Friday I'm in Love - The Cure
Happy Thought of the Day for Fit People
Rest day! Needed it badly. Light workout tomorrow and hit it hard again on Saturday. Hoping for good weather this weekend. Need a good long ride on the bike. Silver Comet trail awaits. Robert
Happy Thought of the Day for Fit People
Just watch that range of motion ??
Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
Great point. I did not think if that. It will attract those who are curious and weed out those who are not. Love it!! Robert
One word that describes you
Intense
Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
Great feedback Tramp, R&J and KJ. Thanks so much. I'm sure others in the Vanilla dating sites share my desires. I'd have to be really comfortable opening myself up to sharing this. I don't handle rejection well so I'd probably have to be p…
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Desperado - Eagles I'm in a mood! Got that peaceful easy feeling! Robert
Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
Tramp:. I guess I should have said that I can't do both at the same time. After discovering the LS from my last relationship I'm wondering if I can go back to the light side. Time will tell. Till then I'm enjoying the conversations and mee…
Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
R&S:. I would be thrilled if I were in a relationship and she would be open to that! I'm just wondering if it's more realistic to find someone single already in the LS or introduce someone from the vanilla world. Robert
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Eagles - Witchy Woman Jerry:. Ahhh, Witch-ay Woman
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Rock the Casbah - The Clash
Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
Ty for the feedback. My instincts agree are leaning towards staying in the LS. I know I can't do both.
Pet Peeves
People who waste my time. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Robert
Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
Ok, gives me hope while waiting for the Golden Ticket, lol.
Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
Still struggling with the idea of giving up the LS for a Vanilla relationship. The few dates I've been on just aren't as open minded. Great women but I'm just not sure if I'll feel something missing. Does this make me selfish or just hones…
So, whatcha drinking
Post workout protein shake.
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Love Her Madly - The Doors
Simple Pleasures
Meet me behind the bleachers
Simple Pleasures
Summer school starts soon!
Simple Pleasures
Helping a friend in NEED is a friend indeed!
One word that describes you
Enthusiastic
What's for Dinner
Pizza and beer. At a bowling fundraiser for a Cancer Care Foundation.
So, whatcha drinking
Just got out of the gym. Protein shake.
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Beds are burning by Midnight Oil
A Song to Suit your current Mood
I Want You To Want Me - Cheap Trick
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Remedy - Black Crowes.
One word that describes you
Energized
Strangest or most unusual place you've had sex
Outside on the church grounds behi d the bushes. Receiving the sacraments never felt so good. Hallelujah!
Fucking Friday
Going out for after work drinks then over to the Loft. Looking forward to meeting some great new friends. Robert
I love watching other guys fuck my wife!
Step 1....
I love watching other guys fuck my wife!
Swingers for Dummies is on clearance at Amazon. Diagrams cost extra. Robert
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Running On Empty - Jackson Browne
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Three Little Birds - Bob Marley
What's for Dinner
Lamb chops on the grill, Asian chopped salad, steamed beets and carrots, tomato mozarella salad and ciabatta bread. 2 bottles of really good wine. YUM the fuck YUM. Robert
How's the Weather Out There
Gorgeous. Great day for a ride.
A Song to Suit your current Mood
The Chain - Fleetwood Max
Why do some men lie about penis size
Objects in the mirror are smaller than they appear.
A Song to Suit your current Mood
You got another thing coming. Judas Priest
Fucking Friday
Helping a friendly fuck hang some fucking pictures. Brought my fucked up toolbox to fix anything else on her fucking friend to do list. I'm such a good fucker!
Black rings
I have mine on 24/7. It's been interesting to get the questions. A few co workers asked about. In that case I just said that I wore it because it looks good and smiled like the Cheshire cat. Robert
Cock Ring
The Pearl beaded cock ring is my favorite! Robert
Fake boobs, Do you like them natural or fake
Great answer AR!
A Song to Suit your current Mood
Free Bird by Skynard
Fake boobs, Do you like them natural or fake
Happy Sunday. I'll dive in directly to the question. Never met a boob I didn't like. I generally prefer natural but these plastic surgeons are doing some amazing things these days. Ahhhhh, the beauty of medical science. Still waiting on an…
Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
Lady I approve that message. Enjoying life!
Finding a new partner in life (who also wants to swing)
I'm in the same boat. I prefer long term relationships and I also want to enjoy the LS. I'm on vanilla dating sites but it feels like a lost cause because of my LS interests. Maybe I should just look for a potential long term partner here.…
word association
Infatuation