Why are the sections showing different info from the old site?
in Swing.com ·
For example, my who viewed me is different on each site. I thought they were looking at the same back end?
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Valentines Day Gift Ideas
in Open Forum ·
We pick a day far from Valentines Day and celebrate then. We find things are less rushed and the prices are better. This year it's Vegas for a couple concerts and some adult time in Sin City in July.
Prevent / report single guys?
in Swing.com ·
[quote=Single_again1960]Problem with some sort of "Fake" identifier is it can be misused. I'm a single guy and have seen my fair share of what I think are fake profiles, but what if I publically mark it as fake and I was wrong, or I meet a…
Site picture update
in Website ·
[quote=ff38dd][quote=sls_WayneC][quote=Greyhoundguy]it is funny they took all of our newer g rated pics down and left our older r rated pics. this makes no sense at all.[/quote] We only removed older pictures (uploaded 5+ years ago). We di…
Site picture update
in Website ·
[quote=fwbseekingfun]I was under the impression that when we were told they would be Archived that meant they would be moved to another new folder for our safekeeping and to share what we wanted with whom we wanted. As others have said, th…
Site picture update
in Website ·
[quote=stevenann]It occurred to me earlier today that there should more people bitching about this and then it struck me. Many people adversely affected don't even realize this has happened because they have not logged on recently. For ins…
Last online - in what timing is today?
in Website ·
IMO the proper way to do it is to register all times in the DB as GMT and show them to users on their local time zone based on their browser settings. That way everyone sees times relative to them.
MM oral to please your lady??
in Men Talk ·
[quote=8inchcable][quote=JayZr]Yes and she really gets excited watching, especially when I swallow every drop[/quote]So, the $250,000 question Jay, why don't you and your fellow playmates change your orientation to Bi? If you're gonna lie…
Certifications - Time for an update?
in Website ·
[quote=ShoreFeelsGood][quote=lcmim]I always thought that a cert was a verification of authenticity and not of quality. "These people are real."[/quote]Reading through the certs we've gotten and we've seen on others profiles, there's far mo…
How's the Weather Out There
in Open Forum ·
Got about 5" of snow overnight. This is our biggest snowfall in a few years so I was happy that the snowblower started relatively easy. Got it all cleaned up in less than hour thanks to that machine.
How's the Weather Out There
in Open Forum ·
It's freaking cold! 17 degrees this morning with a high of 27 today. Thank God we'll m we leave tonight for a Caribbean cruise. As a Puerto Rican man I am not made for crap!
Advice on someone just stopping by our house
in Open Forum ·
Seems you need boundaries with your exterminator. That's a good way to get hurt to just walk around people's yards unannounced.
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
HT: Spent a great day with family yesterday enjoying a homemade feast created by my son and his girlfriend - the chefs. Everything was literally made from scratch starting over a week ago with bacon for th brussel sprouts that they cured a…
Bi Guys What do you have a hard no with other guys
in Bi Males ·
Not into anal or kissing here. Generally touching and oral is cool.
New Site Launched
in Website ·
Wayne - Assume you mean the Long card/tall card option. If so, I do like it. Gives me everything from the flyover that I liked.
New Site Launched
in Website ·
How do you mean slow? Just timed it and it's less than 2 seconds from touching the phone and the flyover popping up. Very reasonable IMO
New Site Launched
in Website ·
Wayne, Flyover works great on my phone. It's just a long press and voila!
New Site Launched
in Website ·
No groups either.
New Site Launched
in Website ·
Definite improvement. Question. I noticed no Forums link - even marked coming soon as some of the others are - will Forums be going away?
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
are they worried someone is going to try to "cheat" on their exam by sending in someone healthier or sicke Yes. I once had my health insurance info stolen and used by someone in Texas. They got to use my benefits several times and the Dr a…
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
HT: Going to see some family I haven't seen in 10 years of longer today. I'll get a chance to catch up and my kids and grandson will be able to meet them as well. BF: We'll meet at my Uncle's Memorial. He passed a few weeks ago of a heart…
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
I turned on call screening on my Android phone and have the AI assistant answer calls from unknown numbers and suspected spam. All the caller has to do is tell the assistant why they're calling and the assistant gives me an alert with the…
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
Yeah that only works for some things. For example, I cannot pay my electric, water or sewwr bill with a credit card. They simply don't accept them because of the fees they are charged. Not to mention the fact that those things may begin to…
Strangest or most unusual place you've had sex
in 3-Some ·
We in the service industry know how to work together and coordinate our work to ensure we thoroughly satisfy our clients.
Strangest or most unusual place you've had sex
in 3-Some ·
All you have to do is make an appointment Harley.
Strangest or most unusual place you've had sex
in 3-Some ·
My years of experience give me a kind of sixth sense about these things. Could always see if inserting my hard drive could help get you humming.
Strangest or most unusual place you've had sex
in 3-Some ·
Harley, Let me know if you ever have computer issues.
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
BF1: My stepfather, who has been marri d to my mom for almost 35 years was rushed to the hospital last night and it appears he has cancer. Waiting for more info from the tests they're running. BF2: My frozen shoulder, which was much improv…
Bye Bye Birdie
in Website ·
Definitely not getting the bird in real time on my phone using the website. Several times today I have been on the site and in the messages section with no indication of a message. It's not until I move to a different section of the websit…
Languages
in Open Forum ·
I used to be fluent in Puerto Rican when my father was around. Since he left I've had very little reason to use it so it's kind of gone away a little. But I was in PR last year and was happy to find that o could have decent conversations w…
Kik
in First Contact ·
Wayne, It seems what they really want are real time notifications in their notification bar on their phone. They want to not have to be staring at their phone, logged into the site to see if they received a message. They want their phone t…
I have thick skin let me have it
in Better Profiles ·
We like the changes overall. You come across as personable, charming and fun in our opinion. Now let's get those pics updated so they more closely reflect the guy you wrote about.
I have thick skin let me have it
in Better Profiles ·
As usual we don't have much to add after Molly. She nailed it. You come across angry in your pics. Maybe it's the first one where you literally have a frown on your face. There's nothing in your profile to entice us. No real interests or h…
What's for Dinner
in Open Forum ·
Our chef son made us Mexican rice bowls with freshly grilled chicken breast, fresh pico and veggies. Delicious!
What's for Dinner
in Open Forum ·
Our chef son is currently marinating skirt steak to grill and make tacos. He's also making a fresh pico de Gallo and guacamole.
New fault with forum threads over one page
in Website ·
Seems to be working for me now.
New fault with forum threads over one page
in Website ·
The error is This site can’t provide a secure connection we've site name sent an invalid response. ERR_SSL_PROTOCOL_ERROR This is on chrome on my mobile
New fault with forum threads over one page
in Website ·
When clicking on a page # in a forum post with multiple pages I get an error. Seems others are too
New fault with forum threads over one page
in Website ·
I still have the issue. Any ETA?
New fault with forum threads over one page
in Website ·
Same here
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
Maybe I'm biased as a fluent Spanish speaker but the idea made sense to me. I don't feel I speak any faster in Spanish than I do in English.
Roll Call December 2025
in Cruise Talk ·
HAL Niew Statendam Dec 6-14 out of Ft Lauderdale.
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
I recently saw a similar complaint about understanding conversation in Spanish - they speak so fast. Someone rebutted that by citing a study that showed that English and Spanish are spoken at roughly the same speed. The issue is you don't…
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
Melvin, I just use my laptop outside and stream the Yankees. Works great.
Member Block Not Working
in Website ·
Hmmm. I thought the site enforced an inactivity timeout. One would think the blocked party has to sleep at some point which should trigger said timeout and enforce the block.
Member Block Not Working
in Website ·
Curious if, other than this post, you reported this via the ticket system to support. I would assume the ticket system is more closely monitored than the forums by the support team.
Lack of response on SLS
in Open Forum ·
No response is a response. Accept it and move on is our advice.
Friends first swingers?
in Senior Swingers ·
We don't need to be friends but we need to know you a little. Some friendly conversation helps to confirm you're the type of people we get along with and we can be comfortable being naked with.
Profile review request
in Better Profiles ·
We'd say you're off to a good start. Your profile makes you seem approachable, relatable and kinda quirky cool. Pics are good and show you in a good light. I'm sure others will be around shortly with some recommended tweaks.
New BBW group
in B.B.W. ·
We use our group almost exclusively to schedule, promote and organize events. It offers a convenient way to send targeted communication to hundreds of users and accept RSVPs. We tried to get some sense of community going with the group for…
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
Good news if Rocco and Coco are here and curled up on the floor relaxing. The next week should be fun.
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
Molly After losing our last dog Gracie after 17 years I am not ready to go through that again. Literally the worst moment of my life was making the decision to give her peace after a long illness. So I help the best I can. Knowing how it e…
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
We began fostering dogs for a local rescue during COVID. We picked Topaz up on Easter Sunday 2020. She was a great dog but hard to adopt. She was a pit bull mix, reactive to other dogs and had a strong prey drive. She couldn't go to adopti…
Messages disappearing?
in Website ·
Long messages can show as more than one on the counter. I forget the number of characters that count as one but it's less that you would think.
word association
in Games ·
Home
NNJ gangbang
in New Jersey ·
We've been to some good parties at the Homewood suites in Mahwah and the DoubleTree up that way as well.
Sept 2025 Roll Call
in Cruise Talk ·
NCL Escape out of NYC Sept 19
Grace
in Open Forum ·
My wonderful black lab mix, Gracie. She lived with us for 17 years before she passed on. The most gentle, beautiful soul I've ever known. Boy do I miss her.
The Actor > Movie > Actor Game
in Games ·
Falling Down
Disney Swingers
in Resorts ·
Exactly our problem when we were going. Always had the kids with us so we never really considered it possible.
Cock
in Bi Couples ·
Average is our preference
Kik
in First Contact ·
I should have clarified. There's been a stream of folks asking to exchange cell #s immediately upon reaching out to us. In most cases they haven't even told us their names yet. In almost all cases these folks are relatively new to the site…
Kik
in First Contact ·
We've now started to see people immediately asking for our phone number so we can text. Most of them cite the lack of notifications on SLS as the reason. We'll stay right here, thanks.
Virgin Voyages
in Cruise Talk ·
Hop, They start sailing out of NYC this spring too! Would at least save you a flight.
How is your marriage different
in Straight Couples ·
I think one of the things that sets our marriage apart is the we accept who the other person is and don't try to change them. We are each allowed to follow our passions, desires and wants (in all things not just sex) and know that the othe…
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
HT: Last night we welcomed our first grandchild, a grandson! Mom and baby are doing fine and we're headed to the hospital to meet him tonight. So excited! No BF.
What's for Dinner
in Open Forum ·
Retiring at 86 doesn't seem that early to me. Lol
Answering Mail
in Open Forum ·
What Bucks said. You should also do some work to improve your profile. Good pics and a well written profile that gives a sense of who you are goes a long way with some. Check out the Better Profiles forum but be prepared for HONEST AND BLU…
Actually meeting?
in Bi Couples ·
Unfortunately, happens all the time. We've come to recognize that folks with no certs or whose most recent certs are years in the past are not really ready to meet so we tend to give them a polite no right up front. We may have missed an o…
Travel
in Senior Swingers ·
We've tried to find out what the reasons for the drop in attendance are. But folks aren't willing to tell us. We've tried reaching out individually and even sent anonymous surveys (which we did after every m&g to gather feedback with great…
Travel
in Senior Swingers ·
Yeah. Same here. We used to run meet and greets pre-covid and get 30-40 couples to show consistently. Since COVID ended we were lucky to get 5-6 to show. So we stopped those too.
Travel
in Senior Swingers ·
We tend to stick to a radius within about 25-30 minutes of our house. Too many long trips that ended with no connection in the beginning soured is to the longer drives. It limits our pool of playmates, sure, but we're cool with that.
What's for Dinner
in Open Forum ·
Pernil, Rice, habichuela guisada and platano Maduro. Delish
Virgin Voyages
in Cruise Talk ·
As a travel agent this is what my customers tell me. Good All inclusive (food, soft drinks, tips) except alcohol Adults only Rooms are nice and feature some cool tech Bimini "private island" is a standout Good to great activities/energy Ba…
WTF
in Open Forum ·
Melvin - leaving Facebook doesn't make those folks go away. It just means you can't keep an eye on them. These types of lunacy are exactly why I stay on Facebook, X or any other social media site. I need to know what the crazies are up to…
Implants
in Women Talk ·
Hard to put a price on feeling good about yourself IMO
Hog or dog?
in Open Forum ·
Promise you're not the only one. But that why the world is so much fun. Lots of different preferences, desires and opinions. You do you.
Last Concert Attended
in Open Forum ·
Pink at MetLife stadium. She was good as usual but not really great in the stadium setting. We've seen her before in smaller arenas, 20k seats or so, and she was awesome. But she just couldn't really fill the big stadium. And the traffic g…
How do couples feel about going bare and cream?
in 3-Some ·
Every couple you meet will have a different opinion on this (and every other) topic. Best advice is to ask them each individually to find out their specific thoughts on the matter.
Blocked for no reason
in Swinger Advice ·
Probably folks who saw your profile, decided they weren't interested then blocked you so you didn't clog up their searches etc. Don't sweat it.
November 2024 Roll Call
in Cruise Talk ·
Symphony of the Seas, November 6, Miami
Last Concert Attended
in Open Forum ·
You had me at Amsterdam, one of my absolute favorite cities in the world.
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
HT: Today marks our 29th wedding anniversary. What a wonderful 29 years they have been. We're both relatively healthy and able to enjoy it. BF: nothing at all
Last Concert Attended
in Open Forum ·
We respect the travel for good live music. We've traveled across the pond for a long weekend just to see a show!
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
That's not being stood up IMO. You can only be stood up if you had solid plans. What happened to you was a variation on the let's do lunch brush off.
Newbies
in Getting Started ·
Pics and a real profile will help tremendously. As your profile stands it's a automatic nope for us.
National bbw couples get together
in B.B.W. ·
We'd love to learn more
MFM Etiquette
in 3-Some ·
That's completely up to the three of you. Some couples insist the sm pay for everything. Some split the costs. You could talk about it before the meeting to avoid any awkwardness. Good luck and have fun!
Joining SLS groups
in Swinger Advice ·
We run a group here that focuses on meet and greets for couples in the Northern NJ area. When we started the group it took off like gangbusters. Our very first event had 12 couples show up on a random Wednesday night. After that the events…
Recent Movies
in Open Forum ·
Watched "The Iron Claw" the other night. The wife wanted to see it so we sat down for what I thought was a light hearted film about a wrestling family. Holy shit was I mistaken! This is one of the most depressing examples of what happens w…
1st full swap…same room or separate?
in Straight Couples ·
We've always been a same room couple. Part of the fun is seeing the other experience pleasure. We find it really enhances the experience for us.
word association
in Games ·
Shark
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
in Open Forum ·
HT: Getting ready to attend our oldest's college graduation on Sunday. So proud of this girl who had to deal with Covid that made her not have a real HS Senior Year or Graduation. She missed her Senior year as captain of the softball team…
word association
in Games ·
Drink
WTF
in Open Forum ·
We don't mask and been on several flights to/from Europe and the West Coast as well as several cruises with no issue here.
word association
in Games ·
Rare
Brand New to Lifestyle - What is the best way to meet people and get invites to parties in NJ
in New Jersey ·
Getting started can be challenging. Finding your people takes patience and time. We're not really club people either. We really got started but meeting couples individually and them attending (and hosting) meet and greets. Check it the hot…
Do you prefer a rude NO or no response at all?
in Men Talk ·
"If a message is rude and it was unprovoked, you should consider reporting it." Sorry to say this doesn't work. We had a single guy reach out making extremely rude comments about Mrs AandJ completely unprovoked. He did this several times a…
Any mature swingers into cruises?
in Senior Swingers ·
If we can get enough folks interested I'm sure we can get a group rate. I happen to know a travel agent that can help us set it up.
Any mature swingers into cruises?
in Senior Swingers ·
We're regular cruises. You'll usually find us on NCL in Europe. But we just did a Mexican Riviera cruise out of LA and had a great time. We try to post in the travel forum here when we have plans.