Why You Don't Get A Response Message Back ?

Thank you for the time you put into this list. It's very helpful.

If the guy puts "some" effort into his profile with pics and some effort into his note to us, we will reply. If not, oh well...

The last line of our Profile reads as follows:

"Finally ... if you contact us via SLS Messaging, at least send a few sentences to introduce yourselves and tell us why you like our Profile. We'll ignore any messages that say nothing more than 'Hey!', 'How y'all doin'?', or 'Lookin' good!'."

We say it and we mean it!

There is one pretty sure fire way to not get a msg back from us. (no face pic)

We state it very clearly in our profile that a face pic is required on first contact.

Beyond that the second biggest reason is that we simply aren't interested. Ya I know. It's supposed to be polite to respond to any and all msg's. I just don't.

@RonKathy I appreciate the compliment

GAniceguy..

Just an observation. .. we have watched you since you came on SLS.. you have in fact changed and upped your "game" to a more definite classy person..!

KUDOS someone who actually gets it!

@Hollyblue Why do men like looking at their dicks and muscles so much? It's like a drug.

That means they feel themselves to much, that's what made me change my image of not having a main profile pic sitting in the mirror holding my wood.

What we have found is men actually believe this is what women want to see. Initially, attempted to let them know that this isn't what a lady wants to see... Didn't matter if it was online or at a party the majority didn't believe and tried to argue. Naturally, had to just give up the pursuit. Why do men like looking at their dicks and muscles so much? It's like a drug.

Just today we got a message from a single male "Hey wyd" and that was it. Being polite I opened the profile. He was well outside our stated distance range, half his picture had one of him and the same girl in them looking like a selfie or mirror pic, the rest were just him all taken in a mirror with a messy background or foreground. His profile covered all the bases but was a little on the side of implying he was just here to get what he wants. It was not that bad though until you factor in the other things. Had it been a couple's profile with mention of the woman in the pics and her info it may have passed except for the distance and the initial message. What it got was an immediate block so as not to deal with replying then him getting butt hurt. Had there been a little more thought in the initial message like the guy yesterday and just pictures of him he would have gotten a reply based on being well outside our distance range. BTW that guy responded politely and understood.

Getting a "hey, how's it going?" email from a single guy is like getting a phone call from a telemarketer.

We get so many of those, I've stopped responding.

I agree, good list.

short "hey there" messages, not much info in their profile, no pictures, etc. do not get a response message back from us.

That's a good list, hopefully it helps some folks.

However, I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed so I'd distill it down to the essence. Just remember that you're introducing yourself to a PERSON, and act accordingly.

I had seen this list on another platform which is kinda interested of reading, and it's a reason why some people do not get a reply message back who they write to. I hope people take notes of this and help them succeed.

1. Read the person’s entire profile. The longer it is, the better your chances of receiving a response. The more information you have available gives you more of an opportunity to begin decent dialogue. Pick out at least two or three things the person mentions in their about me section and ask follow-up questions, offer your views on the subject, refer to a fetish and offer a story on your own experience and/or inquire about their experiences.

1. Sending a message that just compliments the person’s physical appearance isn’t going to get you anywhere. Even an unpopular woman gets a ton of messages regarding their looks. Compliments are nice, but most women want something more when having a conversation. Save your compliments until after a dialogue has started.

1. Swingers site is not an instant messenger. Sending generic hey, what’s up? How are you? messages will also get you nowhere. Who has time to send twenty boring messages before anything interesting is said? Let me just tell you: not much is up, I’m doing great, and you can see what I’m into by reading my profile. You have to put in some effort and develop your message.

1. If a woman is listed what she like to do sexually, that does not mean she wants to drop to her knees and blindly serve you. To be fair, some women do want to be pleasured and pleasure there partner, but you need to get their attention first before you can dive into general fuckery.

1. Do not message the woman and say, can I ask you a question? That is super annoying and a cheap ploy to try and get a response. I don’t answer those on principle. Just ask the question already.

1. Do not send copy and paste messages. I understand you’re trying to up your chances by sending the same message to as many women as you can, but I’ll tell you this: we can tell if it’s a copy and paste message. You will actually have better chances sending less messages that have more meaningful content.

1. If the woman has any writings available, this is a great opportunity to start a discussion with her. Read a post and then send her your thoughts on the story/post. She’s very likely to respond to a message regarding her writing.

1. If the woman has vanilla interests listed, this is another talking point as well. You might not want to jump into sexy talk with your first message and vanilla interests can be a good segue. Remember though, refrain from generic messages about the interests. Say the woman likes kayaking. Don’t say oh that’s cool you like kayaking. Say something like, I see you like kayaking, where’s the best place you’ve gone? Any exciting adventures? Engage!

1. Seduce my mind and my body follows. A lot of women follow this. Even bimbos like some intrigue.

1. Lastly, if your profile about me is blank and you do not have any pictures, chances of a woman replying are slim to none., I even got a message from a blanked profile and it was a spam, i blocked the person.