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And POOF it fixed itself. Just came to check for any more suggestions and now nothing is wrong. Thanks for the offer but it is kind of hard to get a screenshot of a problem that for some reason no longer exists. BTW for the record I am usi…
Thanks for the basic information on how to do things that funny thing I have already done more than once to attempt to correct the issue. In fact those are the first things I do when a website seems to be having issues. I will admit to not…
For about 2 weeks now all that shows instead of a profile picture or trying to look at photos including our own is a blank box. It is black with all the other info (miles away and such) just no picture a thumbnail and grey when looking at…
While not exactly for single males (truth is not many events are) Club Dalliance pretty much has every other week covered. Then if you go to a website Specifically for FETish LIFEstyle you will find all sorts of events for the area. Now th…
We had heard Carolina Foothills was closed. If it is indeed still open that makes a grand total of two such places in SOUTH CAROLINA. Neither are an actual nude beach but are private resorts. SC has some rather specific laws about being nu…
And like expected either they tried to adjust the medications again or someone stopped taking them.
mbifnatl yes but if you tell people that you are the one that is called wrong. I keep sating this and mention older "signs" that are no longer used for that exact reason yet the "pineappleheads" seem to think there has to be some kind of "…
Sure you can video chat and even get naked and have sex with other people....wait no you can't because you have to be in person to have sex with others. Some things cannot be done virtually you actually have to be in person face to face. T…
Currently we have single males blocked and cannot see single male profiles. After reading the most recent conversations we do not understand the problem. If we have the single male group blocked they cannot see our profile nor can we see t…
kinksterhere the thing is those types of places exist either openly or underground. Even here In South Carolina with arguably some of the most draconian and archaic laws there are adult theaters that everyone knows you can go to for all so…
kinksterhere we agree 100% effort goes a long was as does lack of effort in the opposite direction. We told a guy we would be at a "semi-private" meet and greet. The location was open after hours for a group to meet up every month. Now it…
HollyBlue if there were a love button I would have clicked it for that reply. That is not the BS the guy gave us on Saturday. He talked about how she is depressed about her inability to enjoy sex now. I honestly believe him because he said…
Balloffun25 your still here? I thought they would have banned you by now for forum violations. Anyway I was not talking to you. But if you insist here is all I have to say to you. You are your own problem. No one wants to play with you bec…
FunCoupleBi40s the issue is effectively you are single because you play as a single and yet are using a couple's profile. Lots of guys do this to get around the fact many couples and even single women block single males. The truth is it sc…
FunCoupleBi40s and yet you have a couple's profile. Yeah it says she does not play and you have a hall pass but a couple's profile indicates you are both involved yet are not.
salandrick I am going to put it plainly. Every time a "sign" was chosen it quickly became not a secret and people have been harassed because of it. Anyone remember the old apple with a bite out of it pin (take a bite out of life but it als…
4_real_couple in another incarnation he talks about going to a club. He was talking to a couple and then a guy walks in the door and she goes to greet him and then goes down on the guy that had just gotten there leaving Ball high and dry.…
HE'S BACK!!! Same "great" attitude different name. Just ignore the troll he will eventually have another hissy fit, leave for a while then sadly he will be back with at least his 7th (by then) new name/profile. You would think it would get…
nativesf if only Certs actually worked that way. The fact is the person receiving the Cert gets to approve or deny it. That means they get to pick and choose only the ones that are positive. Certs are basically useless due to nothing negat…
He was 39. "Wusup". That's it with no profile filled out and a couple meme pictures on another site (we block "single"males here these days). Our reply "Are we in a commercial or something? I guess we need to say "Whaasupp!"" His reply "lo…
ladypleaser70minus1swinging is not cheating. It is never okay for a man or woman to cheat. It causes all sorts of problems not only for the cheater but those they cheat with. Either fix what is wrong in your relationship or get out of that…
If certs worked the way they actually should they would mean something. Kind of like reviews of something. There are good and bad so if you do your research and realize not everyone that reviews something is going to be happy and sometimes…
Safely like say at a club in the "fishbowl" which is a room with windows so people can watch or in the open at a swingers club also qualifies. Not to mention simply being topless or nude by a pool where it is allowed. You know places where…
meadris75 careful while it is true there are those out there that will say you are being "ageist" if you mention the truth. That being said a bigger problem is men that do not admit there is a problem and seek help. These guys always want…
goodgollymsmolly98226 since this revived our count has been about right considering the names of the profile that has replied and not seeing the reply based on who we know is blocked there is no one additional that is missing. I would assu…
PhoebertAndWife given the reply count, ones we can see and ones we are blocked from seeing, we thought that must be what is going on.
mike678 if you are looking for potatoes in a field of turnips it is indeed your fault if you only find turnips. As was said SLS is not the best place to find true single men. In fact depending on your location it is not the best place to f…
mike678 if you are having trouble meeting single guys that can host you must be doing something wrong. Yeah you have to weed out a lot of cheaters and riffraff but they exist in far greater numbers than your results seem to indicate. Now p…
Before I say this I am not meaning to offend because when I say assume I mean until further investigation proves that assumption wrong. As often as not though the assumption is correct. #1 Always assume that a "single" male contacting you…
2moreforfun717 so he contacted you, you talked, he said he would let you know in about an hour. Then he let you know he could not make it. Sounds like he did exactly what he said he was going to do. It sounds like it was all same day conta…
It seems we have had results others may not have. Of course location also plays a role. Here in SC everything is very "underground" due to existing laws on the books that typically get enforced when things are more open to the point the co…
An initial contact of "Lets fuck." or any of a number of similar things as the initial contact shows that you are most likely only out for your pleasure. We get them from single males all the time or did before we blocked them. We have als…
So last night we got a message that in and of itself made us lose interest quickly. Not being ones to judge so quickly we went to the sender's profile and found that the message was a copy and paste of what they said on their profile. Seri…
Si I ran back across the video I mentioned earlier. Look up the video titled "When Bae's New Neighbors Are Swingers" and you will learn all you need to know about the signs that folks are swingers.
So look up the video titles "When Bae's New Neighbors Are Swingers" It should tell you all you need to know about "signs" people are swingers.
So there is a site that caters to FETishes in LIFE. Now we do not have first hand experience (nor does the wife want to and I am straight) but it does seem they actually exist all over but not in great numbers. The thing is finding them in…
In regards to not having sex with newbies (couples or singles) goes we don't mind meeting people fairly new to this but in our experience we also do not want to be "the first" especially when the other party is "trying it out". This is in…
sexxyjessy69 what we would like to know is how in the hell do you not have plans in advance and then shorty have someone on the way to your hotel room? Now picking someone up in a bar or whatever and heading to a hotel room we get but not…
Oh look someone's doctor is changing his meds again. I wish they would just leave them alone the next time he settles down and goes away.
LOL there is no "list" or program to input for a perfect threesome. In fact there really is none for any sexual encounter. The desires, wants, and even needs of all involved change sometimes from moment to moment as action is happening. Th…
OH2NY2NC2022 nice copy and paste. If we got that we would not be impressed. A big negative is how you compare yourself to other men here. I know it is your attempt to make yourself look better but honestly it does not work. Of course you a…
DBCooperMN based on the behavior of the majority of "single" males here and other sites there is no defending them. Now there are a few good ones out there but the majority makes it to where couples who are interested in finding them event…
I think it happens but in my honest opinion a "Hot Husband" would be competing with all the single men so there is that. Then we get into the whole mindset that all married men swinging alone are cheaters. It is somehow more acceptable for…
We have seen this especially from women but the guys do it too. Thing is we quit trying to "judge" someone's weight based on their size when our neighbor stated she was 135# when we were talking about how thin she is. It was a conversation…
Mostly it is a mix of bathing suit and "pool" type wear from modest to sexy. Your results may vary especially if it is in someone's back yard that has no neighbors and a tall privacy fence, no privacy, at a hotel pool in the open, or even…
Honestly I don't think orgies happen as much as they used to. Now private ones do indeed happen but ones at more open clubs, parties, and events not so much. I think it has a lot to do with the change in how consent is looked at. Now no ha…
The wife barely wants to shop for herself much less take me shopping to get an outfit for me. In both cases the other would need to be present to try stuff on and we are typically not "off the rack" and good to go in regards to body types.…
If you have someone to watch the child(ren) it is as easy as it would be to simply go out for the evening. Now going for longer (say overnight) would require an overnight stay at grandmas (or other trusted person). Now we never stayed out…
LOL I just saw a funny video (cartoonish) about this. New neighbors were putting up a pineapple door knocker, other decorations , etc. Pretty much gave off all the "signals" then they invited the neighbors over for a party saying they have…
It depends on the odor and when it is noticed. Anyone smelly or visibly dirty when meeting gets a hard pass. In fact we have called for the check at places even before we placed an order. Now we try not to mention why exactly but are firm…
It depends on what you mean by 4-way connection. If all you are looking for is sex with others it can be a lot easier than finding a couple you want to take home to meet the parents and kids. Over the years we have had lots of in bed (and…
MedicAmber1973 welcome to being a brand new member of a very sought after group. Honestly just about everyone wants to meet up with a single female. A lot of what you are getting is cut and paste messages sent by (mainly) guys hoping to ge…
I see someone while claiming others are judgemental is also being judgmental. "While there are a few hot couples on here in general most of the women are not what I would call hot. Yes, there are a few here and there, but many are past the…
HollyBlue nope in all his profiles it is always on other people. Never once does he think about anything but how hurt and put out he is. Honestly if they talked and had a lot in common while getting to know each other if she really was onl…
Okay it seems some are taking things to a meaning that was neither meant nor implied. The fact is my daughters like myself and my wife do not "look down" on anyone. We do sometimes have to change the words we use so others can understand u…
New_and_Naughty not every one you meet in life is on the same level as you are. Some are higher and some are lower. When you graduate in the top 50 of your school (one was in the 30s the other was 26) without actually trying hard or being…
ROTFLOL! So not swinging but really on the current topic. Our daughters have always had good word comprehension skills because we never made our conversations more dumb. The wife and I are well read and college educated so big words are no…
There is nothing wrong with it. That said it is done to hide the fact you (single or part of a couple) are Bi and increase your chances of finding a couple to play with. At issue is most (not all never all) hide the fact they are casually…
I would have to say it was this time when we were with 2 other couples on a king sized bed in a side room with no door however to get to one of the bathrooms you have to walk through that room (thus the no door). Of course we had all switc…
It's not embarrassment but rather them not limiting their options due to other's perceptions. Many in the lifestyle see those who enjoy MFM as more promiscuous or even have it confused with MMF. There is also the perception that having sex…
It happens. Anything but polite acceptance of a "no" (and we give a polite definitive no so as not to encourage anything) gets a block. As far as meeting in the community or out on the street goes typically these types are loud and "threat…
We have never seen anyone claim on a profile nor have we ever heard anyone claim to be a "Bed Hopper." We have however known a few or at least what we consider one. Basically the general consensus is that a "Bed Hopper" is a single or coup…
mayhem8 OMG! I just heard the Grapefruit Blowjob bit an internet DJ occasionally plays last night. I know there is a video of it somewhere. Rumor has it that not only does it feel good but helps the woman lose weight ROTFLOL! That said I t…
Beachcpl1204 There are many stories about pineapples and how they were/are used. The most likely one relating it to swinging was when the pineapple is up it is safe to visit as the husband is home but when it is gone do not visit. Way back…
BBWinVenice honestly the thoughts are as they have always been that no one really wants to "mistake" the sign (whatever it is) and get into an awkward situation. For example while we are swingers we also really like a good fresh ripe pinea…
JodieDunkin don't waste your time typing. Apparently mentioning that older men are more prone to performance issues is ageism and totally wrong despite multiple medical studies proving it as fact. Of course even without those studies the p…
The number one complaint from people who move into SC is "Where are the swinger's clubs?" The truth is depending on what county you are in strip clubs (if they can even exist) are regulated to industrial areas with a 6' rule. Adult stores…
Someonescoming except that is not always the answer. Where we live (the entire state of SC) clubs are more underground because of legal reasons. Even those do not typically allow single males and all we know of require you to be a member o…
Lissalookinhard69 this is one of the several reasons we have chosen to block single males. The rest pretty much follow along with tired of weeding through the BS. We have a profile on other sites and while we get some of the same BS it see…
UMMM a woman. Seriously in this day and age it has to be said. After that as long as it is not granny panties I'm good.
Lissalookinhard69 the amount of profiles that do not update their ages yearly much less have a current picture is mind boggling. Then you get what you are talking about which is sending a "current" picture that is still ten or more years o…
This can be found fairly easily in our area or at least it seems so. The thing is you have to know where to look and guaranteed posting on this forum is not going to help much. Now we have zero experience finding what you are looking for a…
So we just got back from a camping trip (well we got a cabin) where there was a camper with 2 solar pineapple lights. We declined to inquire about them as they were with several other folks in what seemed like a family group (they were our…
Someonescoming exactly. It has to be said so folks are reminded of it. We know someone who posted on Facebook they were looking to buy a house and were wondering if anyone know of one for sale. The first comment was someone else recommendi…
We know several people who are swingers that if it got known would lose their job due to "morality clauses" in their contracts. Still yet in these modern times teachers are fired over no more than R rated pictures much less being outed as…
If you are talking ones we use between ourselves then it is simple. "Do you want to fuck them?" works wonders ROTFLOL. Honestly the best advice we can give on this is that you have clear direct communication with your partner. BTW this doe…
Once again we know guys who can last for hours without cumming. We know none who can stroke for 2 solid hours without a break. To be honest I have never met anyone that can do the same thing especially involving constant activity for 2 hou…
goodgollymsmolly98226 position changes do count as breaks. They change the muscles being used and how they are used. No one, and I mean no one can perform "2 hours of stroking" solid without taking some form of break. I know at my age and…
goodgollymsmolly98226 2 hours of stroking. Not foreplay, not getting head or going down but 2 solid hours straight of stroking? Who do you know Superman? Think about it did you change positions where you were the one doing the work? Did yo…
I don't believe there is any guy of any age "steadily stroking" for 2 hours or more. Seriously that is a lot of damn work and breaks must be taken. I do know guys who can (with energy recovery breaks) last for hours and hours. In fact I kn…
mayhem8 while everyone prefers quality quantity is nice along with that LOL. We have found generally that means they are looking for a perfect 10 in more ways than one and many do not measure up themselves.
hiwayrider2020 embellished story is embellished. Nothing is essentially wrong with that because everyone tells the story differently and adds or edits details to make themselves seem like they are better, luckier, or whatever than the actu…
profpres LOL no! I'm enjoying my discussion with you. Of course as others have said if you were done you would simply stop commenting.
This has been discussed enough to honestly say initially it is the male half of a couple looking at profiles or sorting messages. Mostly the woman gets involved after that point to narrow things down.
Since this has been drug back up from wherever it was I'm going to comment. While I feel the account from the OP may have been embellished some (who does not embellish a story especially as time passes?) the basics of it are very close to…
profpres since I cannot see anything the individual you agree with posted I have to assume it is some kind of hateful one sided diatribe of how they are right and everyone else is wrong. That as well as everything else tells me all I need…
profpres it seems you are making things up as you go along to try and prove the swinging world is full of prejudices when it is indeed not. It is however full of preferences as it should be. That said nothing anyone says can alter your per…
"I personally find morning experiences with the right couple after a steamy night much more bonding and satisfying then a few hours meetup." This right here is why we don't do "sleepovers" well and the fact we like to sleep in our own bed.…
Since this came back up I am going to have to add an excuse I have actually used but it was a dinner date/meeting we had to cancel on. A while back my fuel pump went out on my truck and I had to wait over an hour for the wife to get off wo…
"Some decent advice and introspection. Thank you, it’s helpful. But definitely picking up on what I’ve been told about some folks being condescending and snooty. For me, if I’m not prepared to offer advice or guidance to someone looking fo…
So the wife is not from here but I am born and raised. I have seen profiles of former classmates but no one I really knew in school. I have however bumped into former coworkers at parties. The wife has as well. I think the most "recent" pe…
mayhem8 I agree with this 100% otherwise why would my ass be getting grabbed at parties by women who have obviously better specimens to enjoy?
cacpl_26 the truth is muscle weighs more than fat per volume. When talking a few extra pounds you will find the body builder is smaller in size than the couch potato. BTW I'm not saying that is the case with me. Considering my bad knee I a…
profpres does it really matter though? I mean would such a study actually make one bit of difference? There are lots of things that people use as factors to define who they are looking for in a sexual partner. Age is simply one of them. Bo…
profpres call it what you will but studies have shown that 65% of men over the age of 60 have ED or Erectile Dysfunction meaning their penis does not get hard when it should. Once you look at men in thier 70s that increases to 75% or great…
MNJFLA we have a 50 miles or less distance statement in our profile. We know it reduces our chances to meet up with some people however I can drive 50 miles there and 50 miles back and it really is no issue. Of course where we live is abou…
Classy_Bull so how many 50+ year old men are you meeting up for to have sex with so you know all about performance issues or not? Lots of guys claim they have no problems yet when it comes down to playtime that claim falls way short. We ha…
BTW I need to add COVID taught me how much what I do is in demand and gave me more confidence to not "hide" as much. I still would prefer not to let people know we are swingers but if it is found out then I can and will deal with it should…
Onehourcouple if they have been here a while I can understand your point. Thing is not that long ago there was a glitch in photos that was not allowing people to upload them. I know it hit us a couple times and we quit trying for a while.…
Lissalookinhard69 the advice just given is spot on. No second chances. Now if one makes contact before a meeting and had a legit emergency (hard to be sure but they do happen) we might take a second chance but no contact and a no show or t…
