Attractive or not

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Velma, DO My PROFILE>>>. PRETTY PLEASE>>>>>Mary Jo

I would invite you to post in the better profiles section.

I have helped literally hundreds of people with their profiles. Right off the bat, I see 3 things you should change immediately to get a better response rate.

It takes a LOT of work and time. A LOT. Your profile isn't to awfully bad. You do have one part that needs deleted pretty quickly. You say something like "" we have been in the lifestyle long enough to know that we have a happy marriage NOW.. "" Not sure what you mean by that but it screams out possible problems...

What R&K said. Smile.

Check out Getting Started in these Forums.

Being shy is your worst enemy. It comes off as standoffish. Leave any drama at home.

Get to some local parties, and put yourselves out there. Cliques are hard to break into, but if people like you, they will invite you in.

Give it a year or two. It takes a lot of work. Remember, you are promoting a product, YOU.

We have been swingers over a year. Been on SLS over a year, we have been to the swinger clubs also. I have asked what it takes to attract other swingers and couples. Seems the status quo is "It all falls into place". Well we did not contact anyone on SLS or AFF for a few months of course you get the single guys blowing you up on AFF. But no couples seem to initiate a message to us, we are the ones always sending messages. It makes you question what attracts other couples to a profile to send a message.
Are we all just waiting for messages only to not reply?
Even at the Swinger parties, there are the "Cliques" of couples that already are gonna play and not open themself to others around them. That is fine and it is their choice and decision on how they play. Yet there are lots of couples like us that are shy and afraid to approach others.
We love the lifestyle and met some great couples.