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JN, that shirt has more to do with her and her husband. Ladies definitely should decide how things play out for themselves in the lifestyle. All too often husbands try and force things on their wives which is why there are so many faux cou…
9, part of the issue is that texting has led to communication devolving and some folks just aren’t good at it. However, there is a great canyon between “Hello, loved your profile! Would you like to chat more?” And “Nice dick, tits, etc. Wa…
Peppa, there are several people on this site who have had their pics copied and used for catfishing or other purposes. Not everyone can put their mug shots on a web site. However, most will happily show their face pics in a different place…
You don’t need photoshop. There are tons of apps that let you edit and sketch back into picture doc. Wayne is correct with metadata, but most won’t command “i” to see it. That can also be changed, and will only tell you when the file was m…
That doesn’t guarantee that you’re real at all. You can easily fake that as well. We actually had a guy do a super solid photo shop job this week. A video chat works better. The validation/ certification feature is there for a reason as we…
Really, it just seems like you never appreciated the cuck relationship that you had with her.
Window, we also have had people think we were fake. Typically, people will jump to the fake conclusion if something appears to good to be true or if you turn them down. Probably the most common faux profile is a male who is on without the…
There is another site with more traffic in the area. Swinging sites tend to be regional, but SLS does better than others in terms of broad coverage.
We really don’t care what someone does for work. Keeping the vanilla side vanilla and the lifestyle side lifestyle is necessary for many. You shouldn’t push for expect any personal details. Maintaining gainful employment is important and d…
Just relax and be yourselves. If it is a meet and greet take your time and get to know some folks. You’re looking for decent interpersonal chemistry. If you do think that is there you’ll want to turn the corner and talk about playing prefe…
There are some sm's that do indeed make it to the forums and listen to suggestions. It's just the complaining ones that keep coming back the others don't need to. We know some amazing single guys and happily filter out the insanity to find…
Loved the Fat Boys and the movie.
8, there was a great philisophical cinematic masterpiece made about that subject done by musical geniuses The Fat Boys called Disorderlies. Were you wearing RunDMC's or Jordans when you saw the movie back in the day?
Bf, generally it shouldn't be an issue at all and keep in mind there are some younger men who are looking for that sort of thing. As suggested send some good pics and let him decide. Then wear what you feel confident in wearing. If you fee…
Some people seem to love complaining more than they ever would the prospect of success. I am still laughing at the notion of something being an insult because it may require effort to look it up on line. The expectation of a little effort…
Normie Bates generally has no issues whatsoever with impact play at a club or a hotel party. To Ron's point, we have seen people be way too forward and insistent about trying a flogger or some other toy. That is the only time we have seen…
Nothing with a skirt or dress is normal, but sometimes an extra obstacle may be called for.
Don’t get too worked up about discovering or being discovered by other swingers. It doesn’t happen too often. Find the site or app that is being used the most in your area and put up a posting for a meet and greet at your place or a local…
You tried to do a gang bang during the play-offs? Lucky they didn’t turn on the TV.
Getting some photos done specifically for your profile would be a good idea though. Typically, the more relaxed you are in the pics the better.
Dusk, sometimes people cannot bring themselves to politely saying it was nice to meet you but they aren’t interested. The block is easier. As mentioned, the majority of flakes seem to be men posing as sm’s or a couple who are on here and o…
You’re off to a decent start. You say more in the post than you do in the profile. Definitely tell people you prefer IR play in your profile. You don’t have to share a lot, just a bit more. Ron is spot on with pictures. Put some work into…
Generally go until the men are worn out and go find more if it is a hotel party.
Fun, you’re probably struggling because your profile reads like you’re just wanting guys to make porn. Most of the fwb type guys are going to steer clear of the couple that makes bareback porn. As long as the beginning of the profile reads…
I need some good length to get anything out of a dick, but it has to be attached to a gentleman. When it comes to other aspects they all are good for different positions and moods.
The premise of the post assumes that all lifestyle folks need to divulge their identities because a minority have. Long before social media some have not been shy about passing around VHS’s. Amateur and pseudo-amateur porn have exploded in…
I think they parked his Rascal by the pool. They were were doing the senior citizen toe bounce toward us after descending into the water. They were actually a pleasant couple to talk to and easily the kinkiest 80 something’s we had met. M…
Nerves with hotwife play are understandable, but you don’t need to play with anyone you don’t already know. Safety is a big concern and it’s pretty easy to have a couple threesomes to establish that both of you feel good about a guy. As RK…
Not exactly sure how many times I have faked it in real life. Don't want someone to feel bad because well.... they are bad.
Bag got flagged a few months back in India and the lady proceeded to systematically go through EVERYTHING in the bag. She just rifled through until she got to the condoms and she slowly looked at them one by one. She then picked up and str…
They said you look like Garth Brooks and are handsome? They’re lying because it’s impossible for both to be true. On a serious note: we wouldn’t meet you because you are trying to find a play partner and you’re married? Or… well it isn’t t…
Let me throw a wrench at your never meet list. There are many who work odd late shifts and mid -morning to midday is when they are able to meet. Also, there are several who are single fathers and they too can most easily meet midday. Sure…
SLS frowns on “promoting” the competition. They basically split between two different sites. Sites tend to be regional everywhere in the world. SLS is still probably the best for overall in the states especially if you travel a lot.
We have seen some comical underestimations over the years. It is why we prefer meeting new people at an event or club. We can have other options if Funcouple321 is a few shades north of being as spry and as chipper as they once were.
To shield themselves from liability SLS was proactive in shutting off free profile access to paid account information. They were months ahead of other sites in this regard. That was one thing and the biggest is they rolled out some odd rul…
SLS lost about 80% of its traffic in the Louisville area maybe a year before you all moved there. They were the first site to change policies and many shifted to other places. Before that there would be around 15 hotdates on a weekend.
Without confirmation from the wife you always run the risk of getting caught in their drama. The lifestyle should be fun. When dealing with anyone becomes a hassle or unwanted risk then move on and find the fun folk. Is meeting a wife and…
Kill the “3 p’s” because it could mean virtually anything depending on who is reading. Overall, it feels like you are trying too hard or seem a little tense. So, when it comes to phrases such as “like minded” it is best to ditch them or do…
Bifun, that isn’t too unusual with many pockets of folks in the lifestyle. Many are only looking for bi female play and there’s nothing wrong with that. So as a couple that doesn’t do bi female play our options are more limited. The big th…
Yes it is, especially if starting in the kitchen.
“He can do whatever the hell he wants. I don’t care. I’m still getting paid.” This was from the first one we met and the guy was obnoxious and clueless about any type of decorum. Pretty much the same story as the others. The pro hung out w…
The first time we thought it was hilarious, but have met several professionals accompanying men to hotel parties and one club. It really never made sense to us as to why you would pay for "the human ticket."
You all got saved a lot of trouble from the guy being a no-show. The rare thing is that he was honest and upfront: finding a single lady to date was more important than hooking up with your wife. Most single guys fall into this category an…
The biggest issue with EV’s is that internal combustion engines assume that an EV thinks the same way it does. Working with and listening to many ME folks is the basis of the statement. They use the designation themselves. There are areas…
Uhhhhhh…. Americans have been blowing up stuff in Asia for 6 centuries? You need to brush up on your history a bit. Most people in the Middle East and North Africa don’t care about the designation to start with. Also, those countries activ…
Well, first check the cruise section of the forum. Then post a hot date for your port of departure and you may find someone before you go. There are some other places that have LS folks posting what cruises they will be on. The odds of get…
House parties with pre-screening are so much better than having to be on guard constantly. Most issues we have had have been at hotel parties and clubs. Doesn’t matter if someone thinks the house party group is clique-ish. A safe space is…
Townhouse, said the opposite of that and agreed with you. Reread what was written.
Townhouse, wish your story wasn’t something we hadn’t experienced as well many times. The “we’re all here for the same reason….what’s the big deal?!” response is also something that is sadly not an isolated attitude. Maybe single ladies sh…
Own, there is no hate for Esp. You brought up and advocated their views in your post. Delete the post if you don’t agree with them.
Everyone has to make their own decisions when it comes to safety. Testing is great and is a good idea. But, it is only accurate up to the last person you played with. A regular who has been tested has lower risks, but they’re probably play…
I guess you could read your own post again and doing so I can see how you’re being self-contradictory. Polite conversation is kind of outside the pale of what Esp favors. Only talk if you’re going to play is their stated position in many p…
Ow, you’re missing something: greeting someone and starting a conversation to see if there is interest is not expressing interest to play. Don’t be offended when they politely decline play because there was no interest. You misreading poli…
We get slut shamed more in Asia than when we are back in the Midwest. Doesn’t matter if you just got tested or not, some still have a visceral response when the find out you have done group play or met with over 20 people.
We maybe have certs from a 10th of who we have actually played with across different sites.
That may make sense as to their rationale…. We have been turned down by several for having too much experience. Maybe that’s who they are shopping for as well. We would rather meet experienced folks most days to avoid the potential drama a…
Just put the deer on the seat with you. Will make a great picture Weekend at Bernie’s kind of thing. Take a pair of sunglasses along too.
Well, let’s just vent out anti-Jesus loving sentiment as an excuse for the miserable job done on a profile and communication. Honestly, it is probably a Biden team false flag MAGA attack. They’re probably bussing people in to accost your a…
Reverse cowgirl has always worked the best for us. Depending on how flexible the guys are just use the bed normally. If not, as suggested, use the edge of the bed or a sofa so the top man can stand. Size does matter with DVP. Also, a non h…
First, only do what both of you are comfortable with. It won’t be good if you are second guessing and a nervous wreck. Try and start with someone both of you know well. Safety is always a big issue and we like to, but not always, meet the…
Overcompensating golf guy, you would be a hard pass for many reasons. As mentioned, your best chance is joining a willing couple for a 3 some. Most who do hotwife play will test drive and get to know a guy before getting that far. The bigg…
There are plenty on SLS. Just put that you are looking for it in your profile.
So, you are responding to 2 year old post hoping for a date?
The big issue is if one guy is on your property illegally then there will be others. Leave a note on the trail cam letting them know it and the stand will be removed in x days and can be picked up at the local sheriff’s office. Often times…
Now this sweat pants season we celebrate the real wieners in life: the never up and never ins who remind is that it truly is the thought that counts, the basket of flaccid tortilla chips that is the perfect appetizer, the bungee cord at th…
We prefer going to a hotel party, club, or house party. Meeting in a vanilla public space is fine in many cases, but can have drawbacks. You are never guaranteed that couple or individual will show up. You or they could be recognized and a…
If you are hoping for chatting through SLS contacts or online the answer is pictures to start with. You must have pictures of both of you on the profile and the profile text should expressly say he is looking for chat. Try the SLS chat roo…
We have never cared nor had any complaints. Music can help muddle the happy sounds a bit. We too have had the winks, nods, and grins when walking out of the room. The best reaction was from staff when our room was about 20 feet from the fr…
We prefer younger guys in their 20’s when it comes to sm’s. One thing about this group is there are fewer married guys posing as singles in this age range. That seems to be the biggest flake out/ ghosting factor with internet connections.…
Like RK said, it is up to you all to figure out your boundaries with play. For some sex in the back of a moving vehicle on the interstate is insane and for others it’s just another day. If you are starting out go about things incrementally…
We have run into this many times. Once we couldn’t even figure out who the couple was. They guy was about 8 inches shorter than his reported height. Both were a long way past their pics in age and weight. The upshot was we got to meet an O…
To repeat- complete your profile with some pics in your default gallery. Many couples just skip profiles without pics. Take a look into the area you are traveling to and first look for clubs or parties happening in that area. The club guar…
What exactly is this new phase? I wouldn’t guess it was swinging since the profile has been around a while. As RK has pointed out, you can add some spit and polish to your profile. If you play as a couple then definitely have at least one…
We would second finding a club. Meeting real people is much better than online. Just look around and find a club you all like and go on a high traffic night. Be polite and forward. Start just by letting others watch if you’re feeling bold.…
Well age is in the eye of the beholder. You can be cuck years old if you identify as such. Questions: Does your wife know what you are doing? If you were already in the LS then why do you need to ask something you would already know?
Fun, this sounds like a great opportunity! Have an incredible evening.
Wearing pineapples on your heads would be good. Just get tshirts with upside down pineapples on them for the first day at sea and be social like RK said. If one of you always has a pineapple something on it may help. Single men are easy to…
First, clean up your profile a bit. It is too repetitive, but you’re asking about non-party interactions/ LS friends. Keep in mind that it may not look like flirting in public etc. Generally, most couples who hang out in public spaces will…
9inch, we have had single men contact us and expect us to drive over an hour to meet them. First guess is that the folks you are chatting with don’t really want to meet. We have meet many who prefer to play at least an hour from home for t…
We have traveled as a triad to various swinger events and destinations. First, it doesn’t matter what others think. Be yourselves. Just communicate well before going what the goals and boundaries are for the 3 of you. If you are looking fo…
The phenomenon is that many of those guys have indeed read our profiles. They are convinced, for whatever reasons, that are the sm that you all have been waiting your whole lives for. Have had some comical interactions with sm’s clamoring…
Melvin, Wayne has corrected us many times. A fake of any kind would never ever spend money to set up a profile. While it might be true that a free site with messaging capabilities may attract more fakes, it just seems to be recreational fo…
Have found that if I had 3 regulars then it made scheduling a lot easier. The majority of sm’s are divorced fathers who often work extra hours. The other thing multiple regulars helps with is keeping them from getting too attached. Some me…
Butch, this can also be a figure for speech. Also, bear in mind many may want to expand their horizons to fit in new opportunities. Your post sounds a little insecure, perhaps.
College age and up is where I generally look.
A big misperception is that an open play room is an orgy room. Exhibitionists like being watched and don’t want unwanted hands or other parts. It isn’t an orgy room unless everyone has already given consent to being willing to play with ev…
Well, the big thing is that you are open and honest about being married. If your wife is willing to confirm you have permission then put that into your profile. You know that and your location really limits any interest you could get and i…
Unless you are wearing a lifestyle branded or overt symbol on a shirt, hat, necklace, pin, etc you won’t be pegged as swingers. If you don’t mind everyone knowing and don’t have to be discreet go for it. However, if you are obvious then a…
Apo, shhhhhhhhhhhhhh. We would second Chemistry. It is run by great people and is fantastic for it’s size. They do have playrooms and an open play area and it is clean. The Red Room is also in there, but we haven’t gotten to that club yet.…
Actually, I am pretty curious about these alcohol free parties. You obviously don’t have context for what the op and others know concerning clubs and parties. Go to any hotel takeover or club on a busy night. You don’t need to go near a pl…
Townhouse, if you look up and to the right it just flew past you.
Townhouse, you miss the point altogether. This has nothing to do with pre-play chat. As Molly said this is unwanted assault. Many don’t care if they already know someone is straight. They will simple convince themselves they can turn someo…
In the same vein, we have noticed that is the cheating spouse that is often insanely jealous and goes nuts at the thought of their partner with someone else. There is a massive difference between not caring if your partner plays with someo…
Townhouse, that isn’t the issue at all. Many bi women with a little alcohol in their system don’t ask before walking up and grabbing or worse. Happens at every party I have been to. There is no chance to communicate. They just assume they…
Many of the best sm's we have encountered have chosen to be single simply because they enjoy the LS. It is hard for many sm's to understand that there are many who have more requests for play than they have days in the week. A gentleman wh…
You definitely want to vet them in some way just for safety. YM your friend was doing that through people she knew and that is very common in the LS. People have rules for safety and to be sure others fit their preferences. Now when it com…
If it is something like that, just do precisely what the hosts ask for. Hope that you have a good time.
Been around the planet and always love local food and hospitality. Just use common sense and enjoy what each place has to offer. Conspiracy theory oooglybooogly can stop you from driving to Walgreens if you let it. Especially when you have…
Apo, not sure what gringos you have met and what Caribbean you have been do. Every tourist destination has local people who love interacting with guests and being great hosts. Roll into their country with an attitude and you will most like…
Not exchanging face pics is the default setting in most of Asia. The funny part comes when they insist on seeing our faces, but cannot show their own. It is a big reason we don't meet many locals when abroad. There are still meet and greet…
