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BTB as a SF, I hope you don’t mind me offering my $.02. I looked at your profile. Your photos give me pause. First, I can’t see your full face. Second, I’m always leery when a SM posts a photo with another woman in it. I have no idea wheth…
RK: Airline pilot? Anyone I know? ;-) Tell him I said hello. Haven’t seen him in ages! Hey I’m knocking on 60’s door. And I’m as active as I want to be. Sometimes, I’m just feeling social and want to meet new people or hang out with my fri…
Hey Good! You’re getting messages from SMs? You say that like it’s a bad thing. Send them my way. ;-) How ya been? It’s been a minute. XO ~LMK~
Although the LS community where I live is rather large and widespread (MD, PA, DE) there are many overlapping social groups and the members are close knit. Plus there are a few women-only FB groups and we definitely share information. I al…
If I had a nickel for every message I received from someone with no photos who complimented me on mine, but won’t send one because “I can’t because of my job.” There are so many very important people on here who must remain incognito. Unle…
Wow it’s been a minute since I’ve perused the Forums. I thought Christmas was as good a time as any to pop in and wish all of my Fellow Fora Folk a Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, or whatever holiday you celebrate. And what better topic t…
“which is why I’ve been studying the background of their pics.” Always. The background of pics speak volumes to me. Oftentimes moreso than the main subject. I don’t care how cute you think you are, your moldy shower curtain and stained toi…
As a SF, I know my experiences and rationale are vastly different than couples. I meet someone with the intention of playing, but not necessarily the expectation. Unless there are logistical or timing issues, my feeling is, if I don’t want…
How do I get to be part of this road trip?! ~LMK~
I’ve found FFM is probably more common than FMF. Maybe because most of my women friends lean bi in group situations. We’re definitely more bi-sexual than bi-relationship, if that makes sense. Even in group scenarios, the women have no prob…
I look at many profiles for people with whom I’m not sure if there would be an interest. How would I know if I don’t look? And there are exceptions to every rule. Also, I do look at certs. And see who they’ve fucked. For example, I’m not l…
Age isn’t even in the top ten things I look for in a play partner. Confidence, sense of humor, intelligence, good conversationalist, interesting, funny, sensual, dominant, engaging… you get the picture. Any/all of those things will get my…
Even if it’s a polite “no thank you,” I often get “may I ask why?” Sometimes, I may answer. If it’s an age or geographic issue. That’s pretty cut and dry. If it’s a personal preference, I’ll simply say, “Do I really have to explain that no…
I’ve not been to Tabu so can’t speak to it. I have tried TPA several times and just can’t get there. I really try since I have many friends who go. But, to me, the layout is wonky. Hard to mingle. The rooms are small and impersonal. The da…
To meet people, You have to put in the effort. Diversify your methods. I’ve met people on SLS, as well Fet, at clubs and M&Gs. I’ve also failed at meeting people in each of these places. There’s no “one place” that will guarantee 100% succ…
Age isn’t even in the top ten things I look for in a play partner. Confidence, sense of humor, intelligence, good conversationalist, interesting, funny, sensual, dominant, engaging… Any/all of those things will get my attention. Then age w…
As a SF, I can’t count the number of random Friend requests, illiterate messages and strange requests I’ve received in the past two years. At the beginning of my journey, I thought the same thing. “The audacity!” I’d cry. I spent so much t…
P&W nailed it. There are lots of M&Gs scattered about. You just need to do your research and go to a few. You’ll get to know people over time. Both singles and couples. The social side of this LS is just as, (if not more), important than t…
Honestly, there is no “one best way.” You listed the many avenues that are available. Use them all. Sometimes one will work and other times it may not. So continue to diversify your methods. What I can tell you is don’t focus so much on th…
This made me curious so I went to look. I’m upwards of 150. Wow. I’ve been on this site just shy of two years. And for me to block someone, they’d have to be outright rude, creepy, or persistent and annoying when I’ve clearly stated no int…
RK you’re very welcome. You know I love to share. ;-) ~LMK~
If I’m traveling and know I’ll have free time, I’ll definitely post a Hot Date. I’ll also change my location on my profile a week or two in advance. In many areas, the database is small, so you see the same profiles over and over. By chang…
Mayhem: I live in northern Maryland, about 20 miles south of the Pennsylvania line. So my “local” radius is about 45-60 miles: South to DC/Northern VA and North to Harrisburg, PA, give or take. Again, I don’t generally travel just for play…
I went for the first time this past weekend and had a blast. My first experience with a LS resort was Hedo earlier this year. So I had to wrap my head around the ”no public sex” thing at Sunnyrest. But it didn’t spoil the fun. A great time…
To BT’s point, there is no difference in etiquette between responding (or not) to a Hot Date versus a normal, run-of-the-mill, intro post. Unless you’re asking what’s the etiquette if you’ve posted a Hot Date, someone responds, and you’re…
Confidence, sense of humor, intelligence, good conversationalist, interesting, funny, dominant, engaging… and yes, on the sexual side, kinky is a huge plus. Any/all of those things will get my attention. ~LMK~
Scamp nailed it. A little effort goes a long way. If I have to ask to see your photo, I won’t. I’ll move on quickly and not give it a second thought. I have 17 photos on my profile. All but four show my face. The others are from various ph…
I had to Google it. “Dogging is a British English slang term for engaging in sexual acts in a public or semi-public place or watching others doing so. There may be more than two participants; both group sex and gang banging can be included…
There is no “one size fits all” nor any one answer that would open the floodgates to get responses from those with whom you message. Because it’s not just about you. Women (SFs, married, girlfriends etc) each have their own individual crit…
I don’t travel for play. I’m very clear about that in my profile (if they read that far) that. That also means I don’t “meet halfway.” If they’re willing to make the trip, great. If not, that’s fine too, but don’t try to negotiate with me.…
To Mayhem’s point, as a SF, I do have a “process.” Because I rarely play anywhere other than my own home. The only exceptions are sometimes in a club or house party. Other than that, I never go to a guy’s house alone to play. I prefer my h…
OP I just read your profile. First, your wife is lovely. I know because there are 16 photos of her. And one of you. And yet, you explicitly say in your profile that you require more than one photo of others. A bit hypocritical. Your profil…
8Inch: Allow me offer another perspective. I think most SMs (at least the ones I’ve had the pleasure of knowing) understand the assignment. And try harder than many others, knowing it’s an uphill climb. Actually, the decent guys should hop…
Assuming this is a LS friendly resort (Hedo, Desire, etc) it may not matter. Those are pretty open to any/all configurations. You may need to consider room arrangements if you two, or he, want to explore other opportunities. I think 8inch…
HT: Participated in my first orgy this past weekend. Eight people (4/4). Everyone vibed, it flowed effortlessly and was an amazing first (of what I hope will be many) experiences. Turns out, when you tell people it’s your first time, all t…
Mazel Tov, Fokkers!
Ed Sheeran in DC (Technically FedEx Field in Landover) last Saturday. One of the best shows I’ve seen. Second only to Pink in New Orleans in 2019. Now SHE puts on a helluva show!
Note to self: Never annoy Sorillo. ~LMK~
Scamp: Well darn it. DC is less than an hour from me. Don’t go as often as I could, so would have been a great excuse to head south for the day and visit with some of my favorite Fora-folk. Enjoy your visit. Hopefully you’ll be back. A lit…
Scamp: Cute. But I have to think that actually getting her to the point of passing out may not be an optimum goal. Then you’re kinda done. (Or one would certainly hope you were. She certainly is) But riding that dizzy edge…. Being light-he…
Do I want strange, single men to show up horny? So I can have my pick? Why, yes. Yes I do. ~LMK~
CummedONalot? Or just CumALot? (Both very Shakespearean, btw) Because the latter has certainly occurred. The former, never. And no desire TYVM. There was one time I almost passed out, though. In a good way, I mean. Have been chasing that h…
I’m not sure how it would work at a house party, but I’m trying to get my local club to do a Cougars and Cubs theme. Because, well, yaknow…. ~LMK~
I hope this doesn’t mean I need to reconsider my profile name… ~LMK~
Atip: Fair point and I humbly stand corrected. My post was specific to men I’ve actually met in person. Yes, my inbox has often been inundated with crude, sophomoric, and, quite frankly, stupid “intro” messages. Which, as you indicate, mak…
An endorsement by BT is high praise indeed. Thank you, my friend. It’s been a while since I’ve seen you out and about in the Fora. Nice to see you again. XO ~LMK~
Why would it matter how you get there? As long as you get there. Honestly, I liken it to lube. Are there women out there who get and stay naturally wet? I imagine there are. I’m not one of them. So I use assistance and it works out great.…
From a SF perspective. And only my opinion. YMMV: I think the only people who give SMs a bad rep are other SMs. They complain that it makes it harder for them to succeed. “These guys give all of us SMs a bad name.” No they don’t. I think t…
While I often use SLS and Fet to meet potential play partners, I prefer local Meet & Greets, as well as clubs, private parties etc. to meet people in person. I’m fortunate to live in an area where there are several. As a SF, there’s a safe…
You should teach a class on how to attend events. This is amazing. Look, within each region, it’s a small community. Getting known is part of the game. Your price for admission. And not just for SMs. I’m a SF and I need to do the same thin…
Jesus, DTH. I need to do multiple play with you. That’s hot AF! XO ~LMK~
Here’s what I don’t get. I get a message complimenting me on my photos and/or profile. But, yet, they have no photos (or just a torso and/or dick) and a few sentences in their profile. Now, one would assume that if I had no photos, and/or…
Oh gosh. Don’t get me started on this topic. Here’s what I don’t get. I get a message actually complimenting me on my photos and/or profile. But, yet, they have no photos (or just a torso and/or dick) and a few sentences in their profile.…
Was never something I ever thought of. I have pretty intense orgasms anyway, but squirting was never really on my bingo card. So I’m with a guy a while back who claims he can make any woman squirt. Like, this is his bar trick. I said, “Sur…
I don’t give or receive certs. But I definitely notice an uptick of folks popping up in my WVM out of my geographic area after posting in the Forums. So 2MuchFun is definitely onto something. ~LMK~
Oh, Goodenuff… if only you weren’t so far away… XOXO ~LMK~
I prefer to text with the person I’ll be fucking, tyvm. I had a bizarre experience recently, texting in a three way chat but only the wife and I contributed. I won’t go into detail here, because I actually did a post about it entitled “SF…
I look at age as a general guideline. It’s not necessarily the age that bothers me as much as the lack of experience and confidence. As a rule, those younger than 40 lack both of those things. Not through any fault of their own. They just…
TV: I think what you describe is prevalent for both SMs and SFs. I’ve definitely had my share of SMs who are looking for a “partner in crime,” someone to “go to clubs with,” etc etc. While I’m certainly not looking for one-and-dones, I do…
“… she never found playmates online and never had all of these rules that potential playmates had to meet first…” Um, what? “All these rules?” How does one meet potential play partners if you don’t meet them first to gauge interest and che…
Bisexual is a sexual orientation as opposed to an occasional sexual act with the same gender. Further, to me, “bi-curious” has a time limit. If you have yet to have sex with your own gender, and you’re interested in trying it, then yes, by…
Leaving this Saturday for the week! Who else is going to be there?
I discuss general do’s and don’ts prior to play with a new partner. But I’m also cognizant of it not being too formulaic. I want it to organically flow, so if he tends to use certain words that are natural for him, I let it go for a bit if…
Absolutely love dirty talk. I hate silent sex. Start by whispering in my ear what you’re going to do to me. In public is even hotter. Give me instructions during. Tell me what you’re doing. What you want me to do. Very very hot. But I don’…
The best way to meet people with whom you share common interests is to diversify your methods. I’ve met men here on SLS, as well Fet, at clubs and M&Gs. I’ve also failed at meeting people in each of these places. There’s no “one place” tha…
Goodenuff! Welcome back! I’ve missed your wit and snark. The Forums weren’t the same without you. XOXO ~LMK~
Age isn’t even in the top ten things I look for in a play partner. So leading with that won’t get you very far. What do you bring to the table? Confidence, sense of humor, intelligence, good conversationalist, interesting, funny, sensual,…
This is a non starter for me. Initial attraction is key. So I need to see a pic before I begin chatting. And I also prefer meeting sooner rather than later, if there’s initial chemistry. So if you don’t look like your photos, I’ll figure i…
I’ve actually started using Telegram and have been quite pleased. You need to use your cell number to register, but once in, you can block it from anyone seeing it. You register with whatever profile name you like and that’s how you can be…
I really need to go on another cruise soon…. XO LMK
Anyone else have issues with Kik this morning? It knocked me out, made me re-log on and change my pw. Then when I got in, it wiped out all of my previous chats. I’m ready for an alternative. Are there any other apps that hide your cell #?
All plausible but not in this instance. I had met them both at a M&G and we have mutual LS friends. So this was definitely her. Plus I knew she had surgery, what kind and how long the recuperation would be. Again, mutual friends. All legit…
My master (mistress?) bedroom is my playroom. Very light, airy, feminine. But remove a picture or two (O-rings for suspension), reach under the bed (restraints), open the nightstand drawers (dildos, vibrators, butt plugs), peek in the clos…
GGMM Oh girl. Make no mistake. I knew there wouldn’t be a second date the minute he walked out of my door. A few nights later, I was having dinner with a gf and she asked how my date went. I said, “what date?” I literally had forgotten abo…
GGMM I’m heading there for my first time 4/15-4/22. I’ve heard nothing but great things. Looking forward to it! Question: Are there many SMs who go? Or mostly couples? ~LMK~
First time. So excited! Going with a great group of singles and couples. Any advice for a SF? Do SMs go or is it mostly SFs and couples?
I recently had (what I think was) an odd experience. Let me know your thoughts. I’ll preface this by saying I’m a SF, bi comfortable in certain situations but definitely not a unicorn. Wife posts on a FB group I follow that she’s recently…
@Atip I love reading stories like this! It truly illustrates that there are good people in this LS who understand that when it works the way it’s supposed to, it can be a beautiful and magical experience for everyone involved. Lovely. ~LMK~
@HollyBlue That is the most intuitive and best explanation I’ve heard to date. Thank you for sharing that simple, yet erudite insight. If only more people understood that nuance. ~LMK~
@Mayhem A little louder for thee folks in the back, please. I’ve never understood why people who have no pics are surprised when they don’t get many responses. Initial attraction is paramount. I will say that, for me, it’s only the price o…
Gtr: you posted the same message in Senior Swingers and I responded there. But since you posted here, as well, here was my response: in the FWIW department (and you did ask for feedback), although your intro note is lovely and erudite, it’…
Gtr: in the FWIW department (and you did ask for feedback), although your intro note is lovely and erudite, it’s obviously a boiler plate that has probably been sent to many. Unless you personalize it, to me, there’s nothing in it that say…
I think we’re talking about two different things (people). Single people playing solo are very different than married or committed people playing solo. I agree with you on the latter. I don’t mind playing with married guys. I can tell you…
I think there was a time when the definition of “swinger” was very literal. Synonymous with “swapping.” Two couples switched spouses. Another facet of that is now referred to as ENM, Ethically Non-Monogamous. So not necessarily two couples…
I’m with Hotluvrs and Travelers on this. The why is irrelevant. I’m generally very gracious if their initial message was respectful and genuine. If they want to know why, my standard response is, “Do I really have to explain that no means…
@Time I appreciate that you’ve been in the LS a number of years. However, I stand by my response, regardless of how long you’ve been involved. You say you’ve done the clubs and the M&Gs. It sounds like you’ve now eliminated those two oppor…
@Time The PA/MD region has several clubs in the general area. Most in rural areas, not the big cities. MD - Tabu (Catonsville), TPA (Port Deposit), Shadows (Hyattsville) PA - The Cottage (Gettysburg), The Korral (Spring Grove), TJ’s (Newpo…
Mayhem, I’m with you. Because I play in the kink world, everything is discussed ahead of time. If they’re doing something I don’t like during play, I tell them. Stop, slow down, pull back etc. So plain English works for me. I’ve never had…
Tyson Foods Chief Financial Officer John R. Tyson was arrested over the weekend for alleged public intoxication and trespassing after he entered a woman’s home and fell asleep in her bed, police said. A woman called police in Fayetteville,…
As best I can tell, the “Wall” is similar to FB in that you can post something there, and the people with whom you’ve “friended” can see it. But only them. It’s a feature I, also, have not utilized because I don’t use the “friend” feature.…
I waited tables in my youth, as did my daughters growing up. So I have a soft spot for servers. I never tip less than $5, regardless of what the bill says. ($10 breakfast? Still $5 tip. I don’t care.) I’ve also been known to tip the bill,…
@2 I’m going to need to respectfully disagree with you. Perhaps “size matters” from your wife and her friends’ perspective. I get that. I can only speak for me and my friends. Because, yes we’ve had the discussion. Size is not even in the…
Mayhem: I’m going to respectfully disagree with you here. Kissing is absolutely a barometer for me on how they’re going to be elsewhere. From my experience (not exhaustive by any stretch, but certainly enough to have a decent statistical s…
In the FWIW department, I’ve only been on this site just shy of a year. And I can say that the Forums have been indispensable in helping me navigate the nuances of not only the site, but the LS as well. In addition, I’ve been fortunate to…
Moving off of driving assholes for a moment: I often receive one word intros “Hello.” And my response is generally, “Thank you for reaching out. But I’m not interested.” AITA by assuming that means he’s interested in pursuing a discussion?…
Mayhem: Interesting. I never thought of adjusting my mirrors so far out. Will try it and see if it makes a difference. The things you learn on SLS. ~LMK~
I’ve been to The Korral a number of times. As well as TPA. Both state that doors “lock” at 11, meaning that no one else will be admitted after 11. That’s generally when many folks change into more NSFW outfits. You can always leave but can…
I haven’t been to the Cottage (but have heard great things) but have been to both TPA and The Korral. We’re very fortunate to live in an area with so many options. Each club has its own vibe, depending on the theme and the night. Obviously…
DTH How have I never heard of the “Womannizer?” But it definitely sounds like I need to add it to my collection!! ~LMK~
Ron: I agree with you. I do believe we’re all selective in our own way. We have to be. I do think there’s a difference (albeit slight nuance) between “being” selective and looking for “select” SMs. Maybe I’m splitting hairs and I do not wa…
