I host parties all the time and find Kik groups to be a great way for everyone to get to know each other before the party. Your feedback seemed reasonable and respectful. The fact that one guy dropped was probably a blessing. Your house your rules.
What you did id more than fine. If someone took offence to it, that is their problem.
I was thinking maybe one was a CD single being counted as a couple. You know, half and half.
:-)
~Allen
I wasn't planning on a math test so i gave a generalized # for the total people in kik group. Its been Fluctuating as some people have come others gone and a few couples only have one kik handle in the group where others each spouse has 1.
Well, you might be the exception, but I'm going with the odds. ;-)
“ I'm a woman and used to dubious numbers from men.”
Even if I was to say you’re #1?
In a Smitty Werbenjagermanjensen kind of way.
See, I knew just by looking that the math didn't add up. But I'm a woman and used to dubious numbers from men. ;-)
That figures.
:-$
Hey, I was told that there would be no math here.
OP: You did okay for the group comfort necessities. You are the group leader, set the rules, have them accept the terms or leave. I am, however, wrapping a thought around 2 immediate bothersome things here. Complaints and couples.
1) That if we already knew some couples, we would already have them in private or another group kik, which I believe at that point, you cannot and should not attempt to regulate.
2) 45 -3 -3= 39/2= 18.5 couples.
We need Vabeach in here to run these numbers to make this work out for the party’s sake.
:-)
~Allen
I don't think you were harsh at all. Maybe the reason the one guy left was he didn't like being called on it, and figured out it wasn't going to be a free for all like he was hoping. Don't worry about it.
Maybe for the future though have a set of rule regarding this type of situation, and any other you might think of. Have them agree to the rules before being added to the KIK group. ~N
A Kik group I belong to has a set rule of no private messaging anyone without asking permission and getting the green light in the group chat. Any infraction of this rule will and has resulted in several members being removed. While we understand them wanting a more private conversation, if it were not for the organization of the group they more than likely would not have met otherwise. You could even go one step further if needed and post group rules and give everyone 24 hours to agree to them or get booted. But only if needed. It sounds like you guys put together a nice group for you parties, and should provide fun for all.
If you dont control the single men with a iron fist they will ruin your group and your parties. if you can have a group party with no singles at all that would the best way to start. Remember that single men what to get laid, married men what to have fun sex with other women.
Very different mind set.
LoL thanks i love that photo too
And kinkster, I totally didn't perv out on your photos just now. Totally.
shifty eyes
But that one with the two of you with your heads together with her in the pool is downright adorable. Or, I'd say it was if I actually saw that photo. Because like I said, I wasn't perving your photos.....
I don't think you were too harsh at all. I'm not going to speculate about his reasons for leaving, but "Bye Felicia" would more or less be my response to his departure.
I've been in private party groups and knowing the organizer(s) will be proactive in cases like this has been enough to keep me involved.
Your message to them sounds like it was polite, and reasonable to me. If he chose to leave, don't let it get you down. And don't get tangled up in worrying about whether he is being childish or if he was just mortified by overstepping his bounds. Now that he isn't attending, he's not part of the equation, and you'll never know which one applies anyway. Now just concentrate on making a happy experience for the rest of your group.
Just one asshat SM's opinion. That and $4 will get you a cup of coffee at Starbucks, so take it with a grain of salt. ;)
Ok.... let me set stage... we host parties. This time around everyone has a kik handle so we started a kik group. I started the group to allow for some chatting and pg13 picture sharing. (Didnt want the parade of genitals that some groups fall into) we have 45 people in group. All are couples except for 3 guys and 3 girls.
The party is 3 days away and i get a couple saying two guys have been messaging them directly. Nothing much but they were surprised since they had not been overly active in the group. The fact that the two single guys in the group messaging the wife made them more nervous about attending.
So i started a chat with the two single guys and wrote this
"Hey we have a bunch of cute women in this group. Lets keep the random direct messaging to them at a minimum. We have no need to be messaging a bunch of people for private conversations. The last two years the single guys got action at the party. So chill on the side conversations we dont want any wives complaining or husbands getting irritated that some guy is flirting with his wife. Pre party.
You just have to remember the dynamic is different with couples vs a singles meet up. Our group has people like xxx that loves attention and others that are very new. We dont want to scare off newbies.
No worries. Feel free to respond to conversations, but just relax on starting them as we dont want people to feel hunted."
Both guys said sorry. One guy stated he didnt understand the etiquette and so he left the group and is not coming to the party.
Was i too harsh? I am struggling to understand why he felt it necessary to leave. I even told him everything was fine and to not leave. But he did. My wife said i was too harsh. Im posting this to just get opinions. I feel him being told to calm down on messaging the married girls of the group and his over reaction to leave was immature.
