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Words that turn you off in a profile
As a newbie, I read a lot of profiles and try and steal what I like in other people’s profiles. That everyone writes “no drama” makes me laugh. No one actually writes that they ar…
by JTheartsong438replies27,227viewsBlack rings
p Do swinger couples wear black rings on their right hands /p p when they are out to signify they are in the lifestyle /p p and open to meeting others ? If so you you wear them ou…
by Sexyfuncpl36116replies22,575viewsWell endowed
I too am curious though from the other perspective. When a gent says he is well endowed should I run or smile? I absolutely agree it is subjective.
84replies13,074viewsUsing kik is a bad idea
I have experience majority of sls users who wants to use kik, they turn out to be fake or not serious? I personally use google voice to hide my real phone number till I get to kno…
122replies9,761viewsCouples rules
Newbie here.... just wondering what are some of the couples rules you guys have or run in to. Are they hard rules or do you let them slide as you get more comfortable with the oth…
113replies9,418viewsBlocked for no reason
We are not new to the lifestyle. And we have never been blocked. We responded to their email. And now that couple blocked us without a reason. Really doesn’t make any sense what s…
88replies7,713viewsShaving, or not
I always see these profiles that say "shaved baby smooth and expect the same". For me, that "might" last one day. The next day it's prickly and, if I shave again the next day I us…
by mayhem8124replies7,630viewsBias against single guys
We keep reading profiles that want to meet couples and singles. They lay out very clear requirements for both. - Single females: As long as she is breathing, she is in. - Couples…
by moekathy218replies7,559viewsWhat does Friendship mean in the lifestyle?
We've been online for quite some time now but one of the common phrases we see in profiles is "Friends IN & OUT of the Bedroom". Our interpretation of this is, sometimes something…
by twonluv6960replies7,265views[LOCKED]Fakes, Flakes and Time wasters
How many of you have set up a date with a couple and got stood up? How many have set up a date with the couple and the couple showed up but was unrecognizable because they used ol…
94replies7,148viewsHow do YOU read a profile?
Thirty-one views and not a comment. That is a little sad to me. It's not surprising, but it is a little sad. It's sad because I find this OP to be a really good topic. A good ques…
108replies6,675viewsHWP
I have a question for anybody to respond. What is considered HWP these days? Some people are looking for HWP people only.
by yzman110replies6,341viewsgetting the play started
Please, oh please, can someone suggest a better way to get playtime started than "hey, lets fuck"? We have heard that the awkwardness really never goes away. Is this true? We are…
by PrettyNormal73replies6,052viewsWhen do you consider yourself as Bi?
I wouldn't have thought this to be that confusing of a question, but I've seen may cases where a person will list themselves as straight and then post that they enjoy a Bi activit…
by mayhem895replies6,039viewsRed flags
We have been perusing the forums and I see red flags mentioned. We are new and curious about what to look out for.
by Majorchubby41replies5,943viewsHow to Identify a Hotwife?
I'm a straight single male. I was wondering....... When out in public, such as a bar or grocery store, is there a way to Identify a hotwife or swinger wife from the other vanilla…
by Willy6000027replies5,884viewsHow to convince my wife
I would like to convince my wife to share this lifestyle, but unfortunately she is not very open minded.I have commented something to her but she always says that she would not li…
by jajajtoto50replies5,825viewsplaying separately
Hello all, wondering what others feelings and experiences are on this? Wife and I have been in lifestyle for about 3 years now and had some really awesome experiences! We had a co…
52replies5,464viewsSwinging on a boat?
This isn't a cruise thread. Just curious about sex with another couple...on a boat. What kind of boat? I'm thinking a cuddy would be a little too cozy, maybe not. Cabin cruisers w…
37replies5,329viewsis there a phrase that LS people say to find out if another couple is LS?
Not asking for a friend! We are a friendly couple and always start conversations with other couples while sitting in bars. Most times we hit it off, the night ends, and we just pa…
by GandK102246replies5,218viewsWhat does 'Soft Swap' really mean?
Met a couple recently that the profile said they were Soft Swap with a minor possibility of Full Swap. We met for dinner and drinks with no expectations. Nothing happened but had…
by fishincouple32replies4,671viewsSingle men are the ruination of the ls!
Lady what you tried to do never works. Couples have shown up at parties or clubs that allow single men and the woman feels like she is under attack by the single men. So many sing…
by ncalcouple75replies4,601viewsAge differences
Hello all, What does everyone thunk about age differences in a couple who are in the lifestyle? We are a couple with a 20 (f) and 46 (m) and are having a tough time finding couple…
by MandMfuncple58replies4,477viewsDressing for success?
My normal "uniform" at work is a golf shirt, slacks, dress socks and dress shoes. My secretaries and I were talking the other day and said I should try jeans for once....so I did…
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Husband's, how did you do it?
I should have originally posted this here, so if admin could be kind and leave this one and not the one in "swinging single" if one has to go. Thanks I see so many hott couples of…
by Thaiger21replies4,263viewsNo condoms Then what?
Recently watched a discussion on a private FB page that that I hadn't really thought about. A girl hooked up with a guy. Did not require a condom and nothing was said as to what t…
14replies4,216viewsHouse parties
We have done many things, but we haven’t been to a house party before. We received an invitation to join a group and go to their house parties. As a general rule what can we expec…
by blqt6951replies4,170views- 54replies4,111views
How to stay awake for parties
Welcome to our first forum post. My wife and I attended our first hotel takeover last weekend and had a blast. Or, we had fun until we could no longer stay alert, awake and cohere…
by MT25Life47replies4,098viewsWhy is this so hard?
We are new to LS. I have reached out to sever couples for a get to know you dinner or drinks. A few responded and agreed to meet but then they back out or just don't respond after…
by Qapla33replies4,007viewsRampant Lying about Age
Is it us, or is there some serious misrepresentation of ages on some profiles? Either that or some people have just not aged well. This goes hand in hand with outdated photos. I u…
by 6zcouple58replies3,938viewsConstant lookers
Something we find strange. We have about 6 couple profiles and many single profiles that look at our profile on a regular basis but never text anything. A few are local and 2 coup…
43replies3,935viewsHedo and What do you tell vanilla world?
We would love to go to Hedo. But we are concerned about what to tell various friends, family, workmates etc. It's a lot of deception to maintain, which we are not adept at. One th…
by ugot2200146replies3,797viewsIf you could give only one piece of advice to others in the LS what would it be?
Imagine you had the opportunity to impart ONLY ONE snippet, one sentence, one pearl of wisdom to others who are whatever variety of ethically non-monogamous. What would you say?
by Esperanza91135replies3,722viewsHow to break the news to a couple
Hi folks. We're curious to hear how others tell people thanks but no thanks. It's difficult enough to get three people be on the same page but four seems exponentially tougher. We…
by necouple911122replies3,651viewsNot giving a blowjob
My wife doesn’t like to give blowjobs, she gives me very occasionally and that’s more of a cock worship thing. Is that going to be a big deal breaker if we try to find couples?
36replies3,556viewsThe goddess and how to treat a woman as one
i keep saying that the women who are swingers are into swinging because they get treated as a goddess. I treat my wife this way as well telling how good she looks all the time and…
by ncalcouple64replies3,500viewsBest and worst pictures
Every now and then you'll see a picture that is extra sexy. Other times you'll see some that turn you off. What does this for you? For us, a sexy picture is very provocative but d…
by mayhem832replies3,457viewsShe says 'I don't orgasm'. I'm perplexed
My wife an I met a nice couple the other night at a clothing optional resort. After a few drinks and good conversation we decide to take to the room. We paired up, got touchy feel…
by fishincouple49replies3,451viewsSwinging: separating sex and emotions
Hi all. Lately we have been talking about getting into the lifestyle. The more we talk, the closer we come to actually going through with it. Our question is how do you separate t…
by Frependo28replies3,433viewsIs the lifestyle disappearing?
I would be willing to bet it is a combination of so many fakes and people just aging out of the LS.
67replies3,418viewsWhy so personal?
Seems weird to us that so many people want to be friends and build chemistry. We are both only interested in hot sex and view play partners as toys to use in the bedroom. We save…
41replies3,403viewsHow to spot swingers
Going on a cruise shortly. This is not a swingers cruise, but is swinger friendly. Are there certain pieces of jewelry or adornment that denote swingers that you would recognize i…
by Cantakeitall11replies3,327viewsOuted
Grrr… I got a call from my wife yesterday saying that a friend of hers at work approached her and told her there is a rumor going around that we are swingers. We have no idea wher…
by hotluvrs40replies3,304viewsNaturally hairy
What percentage of swingers do you think either like or don't mind the unshaved? We like our pubic hairs on each other. On others, we are happy with whatever makes them happy. We…
24replies3,272viewsHall Pass Love/Hate Venting
Not sure if this is the correct subforum for this (perhaps it should be posted in the "Getting Started" forum for maximum impact), but here it goes... #beginvent We both yearn for…
by calcanfun250replies3,243viewsMarried Man Cheating more appealing than Married Man in Open Relationship
Nope and I've been playing with married men playing separately since 2002. Who needs the hassle of being some cheater's side piece when someone open and aboveboard is available?
22replies3,212viewsSwinging while pregnant?
Would you? What about soft swap only? Would you swing with a couple that was expecting? Would how far along she was make a difference? Also, why or why not?
by F_and_M15replies3,198viewsstraight-straight seems impossible
We've been looking into swinging. At this point, the whole thing seems geared to accommodate the needs of S-Bi couples.. . or rather, the whole concept fits well with the straight…
by DuckDuckGone41replies3,196views
