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We definitely prefer separate rooms. We started out same room and it was ok but the wife really needs to focus on what she is doing to have an orgasm. She learned that for herself, being in a different room removes the distraction of what…
We started out as same room only because we really didn't know what to expect. It worked out fine. Then we met a couple with a queen size bed. They suggested it gets a little crowded so we tried separate rooms. We discovered that we were a…
Wife and I are debating my loss of hair. It is really getting thin on top but plenty of hair around the sides and back of my head. I've noticed lots of guys shave their heads and are totally bald as early as in their 50's. It is hard to de…
We have hosted several house parties. We always invite experienced friends we know and have played with. It's always a couple's party for us. We never charge but we do ask that each couple bring a little snack to share and their favorite a…
We agree about the club. We are on 2 different swinger sites and know of 2 more. We focus on contacting people there. If we get to the point of meeting a couple face to face, we suggest a reasonably priced kind of quiet restaurant. Around…
We have not been a couple that says we want to be friends first. We are the opposite. When we meet, if the couple is reasonably attractive and the conversation is fun, we're ready to play. For us, we've noticed that we can have our decisio…
I miss the system on here when we first joined. After we sent a message, I want to say that we had a pop up of some sort that showed the date the message was opened. At that time, if a message was opened and no reply came, it was easy to d…
I've seen more pineapples showing up in different places. One of the oddest places seems to be shirts worn by kids, both boys and girls between 8 and 15. Not likely they are swingers and have no idea what it could mean when they are older.…
We enjoy the kissing aspect as a prelude to what we will be doing in a few minutes. We have a private joke about it. If the guy my wife is kissing starts complimenting her on her kissing, lots of times he is a non-performer. When a guy say…
How a house party goes really depends on how it is advertised to the people and how well everyone knows each other. We've been to one or two where it was stated as a meet and greet. Pretty much nothing happened. They were a lot like a vani…
Every now and then I wonder about how long we will continue to swing. The thought goes away about 5 minutes later when I'm horny again.
I have no idea of when to quit. We are older but just started playing 4 1/2 years ago. Sometimes I wonder if it is really worth the effort trying to meet a new couple because that seems difficult to do. Then we throw a House Party like las…
We also met a couple that had really old pictures on their site. Since that time, I look to see how long the couple has been on SLS. I ask how current the pictures are if they have been on here for something around 10 years. I also ask if…
There might be a lot of pretty women in the LS but I don't seem to find any of them. If my wife or I required a "10" to be attracted to them, we would never play.
At this point there are a lot of people that have caught the virus. Way more than half have already recovered. Statistically, less than 2 tenths of 1% of the entire USA population have died. No, we're not worried about it but plenty of peo…
Three to 7 hours seem like some crazy long times. However, I will admit that a guy that only lasts 5 -15 minutes on a play date would leave someone severely upset. We usually go about an hour. Sometimes, we'll take a break and start up aga…
You are only as old as you feel or act. If you still admire a pretty woman and wonder what she likes in bed you're not too old. If your wife still wants some sexual attention, she's not too old. I know people that are an "old" 65 and other…
Interesting that so many women swallow on this thread. My wife has never liked it and it has not been a problem. As she has told me, the real issue is so many older men have trouble getting hard and staying that way. A lot of them she play…
It is harder to find couples to meet and play with as we are older but they are out there. I feel a disadvantage for us is that we only started swinging 3 years ago. I've often wondered if people that have been swinging started at a younge…
Our only hard and fast rule is there are no hall passes. We feel that can lead to feelings of jealousy or loss of trust if someone becomes too popular. Along those lines, we will also repeat with people we get to know but usually wait at l…
We are only a little over 3 years in this LS adventure. We've met people on this site as well as another one. We've been to clubs, both locally and in other cities or states. We've been to house parties and hosted house parties. Our choice…
Unfortunately for us, we did not realize that the pictures were more than 10 years old until the couple showed up. I saw them as they walked into the bar. They resembled the pictures enough that I could recognize them but just barely. The…
We have lamps in every room we play in so there is some light but not a bright one. Easier then changing light bulbs to our thinking. We invite lots more people than we expect to show up. Almost always have somebody cancel out at the last…
I like to see certs because it is an indication that the couple actually are playing and show up as expected. Also, I hope to see a certification that is reasonably current. If the last cert was 5 years ago, I wonder what's going on. I als…
Maybe red flags but maybe not? I've learned to not bother with a profile if they are a free member, or don't have weight listed, very few or no pictures, or have not been on the website in several days. The idea of a 3some does not appeal…
To answer the original question: You just have to keep trying. We are on this site and another one. For a while, we were very active in a local club and tried some house parties and a hotel takeover. Trying just one avenue for building con…
We do not get a high percentage of replies to emails sent. Nor do we get very many people contacting us. Lots of lookers, though. We tried the profile help section but the changes we made didn't really help any. As was mentioned, replies c…
How hard would it have been to move to another part of the room? or a different room? If you cannot assert yourself enough to say no, you can always move. If it is too bad at a club, they are supposed to intervene. Or at least that is what…
We've been to some house parties and thrown a few. A couple of parties were more of a meet and greet thing so there was not a lot of activity. The best one was a New Year's Eve party. All the couples were older and more experienced. They k…
I had some issues when we started playing. It really came down to nerves, I think. Sildenafil is wonderful and comes in smaller doses so there is some control over how much you take. I only use about half a regular dose and it covers any j…
I read somewhere that the testosterone has a chance to build up over night while sleeping which probably is why there is morning wood. It is also easier to wake up in the mood then be tired at the end of the day and try to get into the moo…
Have also heard the, "You remind me of my dad!" comment. We have played with younger couples but only at clubs. My wife and I joke that if it is after midnight, people are drunk and horny. If it's dark, looks or age don't matter so much, a…
You'll probably go broke. It's hard enough finding true swingers in the Houston area that are older so I cannot imagine having enough in a smaller city.
I use 2 of the 20 mg tablets of Sildenafil. Works great for me but it does give me a stuffy headed feeling the next day. However it is good for 12 hours. I take it before meeting up and will be ready for whenever the fun starts. Pay $5 at…
We would be interested and wonder why you have not mentioned Dallas/FortWorth area. That seems about the closest to middle of the country. It is also a big hub for airlines.
Saw this post and started thinking about the question. Been in the LS for almost 2 years now. Going back to before we were married she has probably fucked over 35 guys. Unfortunately, as we have become older some of these later, older guys…
Not quite 2 years in the LS. Initially, my wife wondered how I would react if she was having a good time and being more vocal than she is with me. I kept telling her it would not matter because I expected to be busy with another lady havin…
I noticed the issue with ejaculation as I got older even before I was using the pill. I just figured it was a sign of age. The pill is definitely fun at a party. We were at a small New Year's Eve party. This was one where everybody knew wh…
Unfortunately, we have reached the age where a lot of men seem to have an erectile issue. My wife is becoming increasingly frustrated when playing because I am having a great time screwing some lady while her husband cannot get it up. (May…
As stated already, we started as same room only but worked into separate rooms. We almost prefer separate rooms now so there is no distraction. There is still some advantage with same room if both couples like exploring, seeing and touchin…
I am a visual person so I find it more erotic to find a shaved pussy. I like to get a good look at the pussy and clit. I don't really object to a hairy one, just prefer a shaved or neatly trimmed one. I have noticed there is a larger likel…
As somebody mentioned already, there are more "No thank you's" then "Yes's". We never ask why not? although we are tempted! Rejection is hard for some people to handle. I know when we started attending the LS clubs, we expected it to be a…
We also had an experience where the couple had extremely old pictures on the site. When they showed up, they did not look much like their pictures at all. We didn't worry about the age discrepancy but they were no longer attractive looking…
I'm a little surprised at the comments discussing age. We've only been in the lifestyle for year and a half so our pictures are less than 2 years old. We still water ski, bowl, dance, play tennis and are probably in better shape than some…
I guess I can post this here because the youngsters won't be on here. We are really in our early 60's and can pass for 50's so I changed our ages just so people will chat with us. It seems that the upper limit they want is age 55. Use it o…
I think you see less of the older crowd on here because there are more of the older crowd not actually having sex any more. In the vanilla world, I have talked to plenty of people in their 50's and older that just pretty much quit having s…
I believe all of the clubs cater to and get a younger crowd. We have been to Colette's in Houston and New Orleans. In New Orleans, we eventually grabbed a bed behind the sheer curtains and started playing together because nobody seemed to…
We prefer a restaurant. We can get a booth for a little privacy so we can talk about what ever we want. We are not really drinkers so a bar is not our first choice. Besides, they seem to be noisy and make it hard to talk. By the time an ho…
You're right. You wouldn't think it would be that hard to meet people but it is. We enjoy the clubs and have spent quite a bit of time at various ones as well as on another similar website. It takes all 3 to stay reasonably active in the L…
I removed the line that was objected to. It was a play on a very old joke, "What is a perfect set of legs?" The answer, "Feet on one end and pussy on the other." I would have thought more people would have a sense of humor, but I guess not…
Made some changes and added some pictures
I thought the pictures of us on our Harley's would give a little bit of an idea. I made a couple of minor changes.
We've been on SLS for about a year and a half and have been in the lifestyle for that long. We have very few people contact us first. It is usually us making the first contact. Many times that is ignored. The current version of the profile…
We just started trying the Lifestyle this time last year. We would have no idea how to meet swingers if not for the websites and clubs. Quite frankly, we've been somewhat disappointed. There seem to be lots of people at clubs or on the web…
I like natural. The fake ones I've felt all seem a little harder. Look good but don't feel as good as natural.
Had muscle cars as a kid. Now ride a Harley. Nothing better than traveling on a Harley. The wife agreed so much she rides her own.
