Getting Started
New swingers start here.
I might have landed the golden ticket
There is a club in Concord called the Villa. You will do very well there.
53replies2,889viewsCode words and signs
Met 2 couples last night who seemed interested in us. Without prearranged meetings through here, what are signs or conversation hints we missed? Thinking we all were hesitant to m…
12replies2,883viewsMeaning of Select Single Men
When they put "Select Single Men" in socials listing on here, does that mean single men who do not look like a movie star should not bother trying, or does it mean they are going…
by Ymichael1427replies2,868viewsSleepovers ???
How many people like sleepovers? We have with very close friends and enjoyed time with them. New couples we just meet we tend not to sleep over. Our thoughts are that if it is goi…
by MNJFLA27replies2,784viewsWhy not?
Advice to noobs. Free advice, so worth what you paid for it. When you reach out to someone and they say "not a match", do not ask "why". The why is irrelevant. If it was explained…
16replies2,741viewsWife was in
Okay so the wife and I have get to take the plunge. Haha little about me married 33 years faithful 60 M Straight I have been in the lifestyle. I was a bull in a ski area got invit…
15replies2,719viewsHotwife Dares
Looking for some good hotwife dares for beginners. We’ve found lists online but wondering if people have some more creative challenges.
8replies2,715viewsWhat is “The Wall”?
New SLS feature called The Wall has appeared on my home page. Now the first thing we see are posts from people we don’t know. Is this supposed to be like a Facebook kinda thing? H…
by Playful082820replies2,699viewsGetting rid of newbie stigma
Having trouble with first time playing. Seems like everyone wants an experienced couple. I understand the concern with a new couple, drama, unexpected, etc.... this is not us. We…
by Deutsche3416replies2,689viewsHosting first house party
Considering hosting our first house party. Do we make a theme or how to proceed. Looking for suggestions from those who have hosted their own.
28replies2,687viewsBreaking the ice?
I will add a few thoughts, some beyond the scope of your question, but applicable to the scenario you described for a first meeting. One - We never commit to a dinner for a first…
10replies2,641viewsReplies
Why is it so difficult to reply even a thanks but no thanks?....if someone takees the time to write why is is do hard to reply? We are all adults and realize not everyone is attra…
by Al195139replies2,607viewsCuckolding -- the journey
I understand cuckolding as different from swinger lifestyle. When I first opened up and introduced my wife to the world of cuckolding and her becoming a cuckoldress/hotwife, she w…
by Gandhhotspot12replies2,605viewsMeeting at your home with LS couples
Do any other couples like to have new couples to their homes for cookouts, drinks, darts? Treating like the most vanilla situation with the understanding that it could just get re…
by TiptonCoTwo15replies2,546viewsWe are quitting!!!!
When you interviewed for your current job, did your resume state, "My name is Jim Smith and I need a job"? No? It had a little more detail and gave a prospective employer some ins…
6replies2,545viewsWife concerned about getting an STD
Hi all. We are new to this lifestyle and my bc wife is concerned about catching a STD. I know she should be concerned but how do other people handle this fear?
9replies2,534viewsLol red flag ahead
I wanted to talk about a few red flags I notice here. We are currently looking for single males to play with us. I have had quite a number of guys with a couples profile contact u…
by Obxboater12replies2,533viewsHow to spot fakes?
Title says it all, what are some red flags of a fake or malicious account?
22replies2,529viewsWhy no responce
Every so often you come across a profile who constantly view your profile. So in return you view there's. There is interest so you send a message. To your surprise there is no ans…
by whyyeslets16replies2,495views- 9replies2,458views
TO BLOCK OR NOT TO BLOCK THAT IS THE QUESTION
My information states we have blocked over 55% of the people on here. Well when we have reached out and have gotten no response, or not interested I start blocking. Does anyone se…
by MNJFLA20replies2,380viewsNew to the lifestyle and bit frustrated
My husband and I are brand new to the lifestyle. We have been interested for quite some time and decided to take the plunge on a house swingers party. When we showed up, we were g…
14replies2,373viewsAdvice for a newbie hotwife couple dealing with a persistent/pushy single guy?
FYI this is a joint account and we are both asking for advice. We are a newbie couple. 1st experience was horrible, 2nd experience they both rocked each others world..I mean reall…
by RoccoLexi6919replies2,354viewsHouse Parties - What do you like to see as a guest???
Considering all the GREAT information posted by those who have house parties on the other thread (LOVED the info), Thought we would ask.... When attending a house party as a guest…
22replies2,340viewswife
So let me tell you all our experience, I am forty two. She is thirty nine. We are both slim and all my buddies still to this day ask me what a fox like her is doing with me. I jus…
5replies2,315viewsWhats the BEST 1st experience for a newbie couple Meet Up vs Hotel Takeover vs Club
My wife and I are curious/exploring the Lifestyle. It all seems exciting and fun and terrifying all at once lol. We have been talking about trying it out for like 6 months and hon…
15replies2,277viewsFirst meetings
We are new, and the only in person meetings we’ve had was at a bar takeover and a “second date” with a couple we hit it off with at said party. Another couple we’ve been chatting…
10replies2,209viewsFirst timers-visit a club?
The hubby and I have just made the decision to try swinging. We’ve set our boundaries/rules with/for ourselves. Not totally sure if we’re looking to make new long term friends or…
by Break_Us_In18replies2,174viewsWell looks like I am in the minority
Warning this may sound vaulger to some but trying to be honest Been a member for less than a day but have noticed that the terms bi or bi curious when it comes to men does not lin…
10replies2,167viewsTop-3 traits you look for in potential playmates
We're always curious about how people get together so we thought we'd ask "What are your top-3 traits you look for in potential playmates?" I would have to say that we look for co…
by twonluv6914replies2,159viewsWhen sending a message to a lady or couple?
What are some effective and respectful message ideas I can use to connect with a lady or couple looking for a guy, considering that I've been in the lifestyle for two years and I'…
by aa20700641227replies2,142viewsIs a club a good place for a SM to start?
I see a lot of advice on here for newbie couples to start at a club because it is very hard to meet anyone online. Is that advice true for SM as well? I just think a club would be…
by Ymichael1410replies2,124viewsGated Communities and house parties
We threw some great parties at our old house and finally are getting our new home set. We now live in a gated community, meaning our guests have to be called in to the gate. Quest…
by halftook10replies2,124views3rd wheel anxieties!
We are attending a party this weekend and the hubby is having some concerns about ending up as a 3rd wheel. I have assured him that won't happen. What advice do you have to help c…
11replies2,122viewsHow to make it work when couple has different needs
The wife enjoys the same room and being watched while playing, and hooking up at parties etc. The husband has more poly interests, and prefers having a single play partner. Any ad…
7replies2,119viewsLifestyle virgins
Any all guidance and advice is sincerely appreciated. Check us out and lead us into the lifestyle. we are excited to engage and mature as with embark on this journey. We will be a…
5replies2,108viewsIdeas for LS Social Get Together?
Just moved to a new place and we have discussed hosting a social get together for about 6-10 lifestyle couples. Could use some ideas, thoughts, advice on what you think would make…
by ckmate202022replies2,063viewsFree Members and what can they do?
I've seen some things that suggest free members can no longer send emails or do much of anything. Is this true? We just want to know as that seriously changes correspondence with…
by iron_couple13replies2,060viewsA little nervous!
Yep, we're newbies. And while we're really excited, is it normal to be nervous, too? We've taken the first step to living out our fantasies, but I have to admit to being anxious.…
by funknight4us5replies2,043viewsFolks don’t like fat people here
I am going to say mean things to you, so be warned. Your profile is substandard and makes absolutely zero attempt to appeal to others. Your photos are even worse. It's like you ca…
7replies2,024viewsAre there any beginner resorts clubs or events for newbies?
Hey! We are new to the Lifestyle. Literally just in the curious/learning/baby steps phase. We were wondering if there are any beginner events? Like a LOT of newbies... wading into…
12replies2,009viewsHouse parties
We are new and have not been to a club or a house party. We know where all the clubs are but how do you know where the parties are? Are they open to everyone? Is there a cover cha…
by JTheartsong16replies1,997viewsVirtual swinging
Hello all - we're finally starting to think (and fantasize) more seriously about trying out the lifestyle. Was wondering, as a starting point, if there are any virtual swinging-ty…
by ExiledFun13replies1,991viewsAdvice for Single Man New to the Lifestyle
I am a single male, and newer to this lifestyle. I am open to playing with couples and other women. Ideally, I would love to find a single woman who is into the lifestyle or wants…
by Jones17879replies1,986viewsFirst House party
Looking into holding a small house party. Any advice on this subject will be taken to heart and applied as required.
4replies1,926viewsPhotos
Again I rant: when people continually post with no photos or no face photos we just BLOCK them. I do not know why people have to wast time doing this. One more thing men that post…
by MNJFLA7replies1,915viewsHow Do You Get Invited To House Parties
We are in the Tampa area. How do you connect with house parties?
11replies1,909viewsPhoto Albums
Hey! Not sure where to post this and I don't seem to be getting a response to my support ticket. We have created a personal album well over a month ago. It has 19 photos in it. Wh…
by BHMLT197replies1,889viewsLooking for advice on safe first meet.
I am new and planning my first meet imminently and wanted to get advice, dos/donts, ALERTs, etc. from experienced sls members. I want to make this first experience as memorable (i…
14replies1,818viewsDoes this happen a lot?
It’s amazing how many couples we meet on this page. But when we try to set something up they either ignore us, or, if we start messaging on Kik it’s always the guy. It’s getting a…
by Alexkel6replies1,818views
