Getting Started
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LS Lessons I've Learned
I know that similar threads are out there, buried well beneath the News of the Day, but this is a little different. I'm starting this just to give me a place to make a note or two…
260replies24,311viewsStories of how people got into the lifestyle
Just looking for some stories of how people entered the lifestyle. Who’s idea was it, was there hesitancy, does unwanted pregnancy scare people, etc.
by Johndoescpl75replies17,705viewsNewbies and Feelings
SO, my gf and I are looking to get into this. We are a bit unique in that we have a large age gap. I am 43, she is 23. The realist in me feels that humans aren't inherently monoga…
by michdom1241replies11,561viewsActually looking like your pics
We met a couple and they said that we actually look like our pictures...I thought that was crazy that they said that...yes those are our pics and they’re current....the other coup…
93replies8,947viewsGood or bad to mention political persuasion in profile?
Probably best not to discuss politics. We've seen a few profiles that state the couple is liberal or conservative & some even state "No Trump supporters".
by TomandDiane128replies8,532viewsGetting her to try the lifestyle
I know I can’t be the only one, but how others get their wives or girlfriends interested in trying the lifestyle. I’m sure their isn’t one approach but there must be a few suggest…
by nhdoc5724replies7,306viewsNewbie questions
The screen name isn't too bad. Support should help you out if the transition is possible. You do have options once you click on "edit profile" that will limit who can view your pr…
by HollyBlue49replies7,091viewsA question about certs
We are very close to making a date for our first MFM and have had some emails with a few candidates. In the forums, I see a lot of posts about fake profiles and no-shows. In your…
by jscplinma79replies7,014viewsApproached wife about sharing her with another man/men.
I recently approached my wife with my fantasy of sharing her with another man or men, and I gave her a dozen or more articles about the psychological viewpoint of normal relations…
by danianddoug15replies6,473viewsI need help with my husband
I'm 33 weeks pregnant. At 28 weeks I was put on bed rest and told not to have sex...it will only make the baby come early. We are both open as long as in the same room. I know my…
by softkisses16replies6,283viewsRunning into people you know.
I'm sure it has happened to most of us. But, what happened when you ran into someone you knew, in the real world, at a lifestyle event? How did it come about? How did it work out?
27replies5,741viewsWhat’s wrong with a friend request?
So in my opinion if u add in ur profile that ur interested in single males and also say Single men if we are interested we’ll contact u! But get a little additive when i send a fr…
by Funfun880880replies5,439viewsSexual Social Media and Why it Rarely Works
There have been success stories in our generation which found their beginnings in the dot com phenomenon. The world of promiscuous sex is not one of them. No doubt, the swinging w…
by _Tramp_92replies5,291viewsHow to properly bring up play?
New couple here. So far we have been grasping the concept of most things in regards to the LS. But one thing we still can’t seem to figure out is how do you properly mention playi…
by RayVic22replies5,287viewsConvincing Her?
How does one convince one's lady that you really WANT to see her do another man?
22replies5,155viewsCompletely new. Best way to get started?
Hey folks. I am completely new to this. I have been interested in this lifestyle for a while, but was always a bit too nervous and shy to get involved. If I am trying to start get…
by Paw510523replies5,144viewsReluctant Wife
MWC here. Older male, young wife. Married 2 years. Both new to the LS. I was aware of The LS, but did not participate. Wife was totally unaware that LS even existed. We have been…
by 44878couple18replies5,010viewsOne legged swinger
Disclaimer: I am posting this without my partner as my partner is no longer on board. I am hoping for some helpful insight for what seems a hopeless situation. What do you do when…
by Joinme05052replies5,002viewsNewbies
Hi- we are as green as green gets. Looking gor other couples in the same boat. We are coming across a lot of well experienced couples that don't want to take the time required for…
45replies4,977viewsSex Chat
So we are very new to this lifestyle but we have known this was a fantasy of our for over a year. She has slowly been getting into the sex chat thing with other guys but having a…
by 00gagt30replies4,934viewsDoes anybody really want to play?
We thought we wanted to take the route of meeting couples outside of club where we can have drinks and get to know each other then have a very nice hotel to play. We talk to sever…
by Deutsche3452replies4,883viewsPHOTOS
Totally agree with you. We typically have 10-100 photos available to be viewed. Face, bikini/bathing suit, nude and action. This site is about initial physical attraction, so we t…
31replies4,837viewsHow does one know when a couple is interested
New to lifestyle and we are trying to figure out how to get a couples attention or spot couples interested in a foursome. Also interested to know if there is bar or restaurant whe…
by Funfriendslv23replies4,651viewsAnyone else discouraged? Frustrated Newbie Wife here
So we are new to the lifestyle and apparently very naive. My husband and I have always had other people try to gain our attention in person and just never took anyone up on the of…
13replies4,374viewsHotwife(anklet)
We were curious when a couple goes clubbing and wife is looking for a date, does wearing an anklet signifythe lifestyle. Or is rhere anything a wife could wear that only people in…
16replies4,153viewsGoing down on a lady
I love it. Sometimes that's all I need. Some I have met feel the same. Others only enjoy it as foreplay. Strange. I could spend an hour going down on a lady and 5 minutes getting…
12replies4,081viewsFriend request
Why is it that some folks do a friend request before they have spoken to you? No pics open, no chatting, just be my friend.....SMH
by BiXtasy19replies4,005viewsOverwhelmed Newbee
Question from a single woman's point of view .... WOW. I'm New after being referred by a friend to this site. After clearing my messages last night for a total of 117 I woke to ov…
34replies3,866viewsWhat is a hotel party like?
Thinking about going to my first hotel party. I play with my boyfriend sometimes but I'd probably go alone. What's the setup? Do people mingle in a common area and then go back to…
by Leucadia19replies3,831viewsHow was your first event?
Hey everyone just wanted to introduce myself, I just started getting more in to this lifestyle, I mean I was never shy to perform in front of people, but then again they were just…
by anthonygv9225replies3,815viewsNew to the lifestyle. Whats the best way to meet new people?
Hey im new to the lifestyle and fairly new to this site. Been trying to connect with a female or a couple but i haven’t had any luck? Not sure if it my profile or maybe im doing s…
by Jay007bbc20replies3,724viewsLifestyle and ED
I’ve always been interested in the lifestyle and we have talked about MFM and group fantasies in the bedroom. We never followed through. Now I want to bring the subject up to her…
16replies3,706viewsswingers Movies/Documentaries
Does any of you know any good informative movies/documentaries???
by Cozmex24replies3,706viewsAsking for galleries open?
Why do people message and request us to open galleries. They don’t say hi, they don’t even open theirs. Just open ours? Wtf. I think that’s rude as F. Are we wrong to think that’s…
29replies3,653viewsHow tough finding 4-way connection?
What’s your thoughts? What’s your experience? How much work does it take to find a good matching couple?
by DuckDuckGone29replies3,592viewsAlmost done with this.
Me and my lady have been on this site for 2 weeks and nothing but BS. We are looking for a single guy for her and me to watch her be with. Easy right Wrong!!!! Guys have contacted…
by Southswing6937replies3,519viewsCode of Conduct?
I would like to ask for any advice you are all willing to give to help me educate myself about the unspoken (or spoken) codes of conduct within the "lifestyle". Heck, maybe there…
by Stell737833replies3,426viewsIs it wrong that we don't want to know you too personally before you make love to my wife?
My wife wants to experience sex with a hugely hung man. She's really built this up in her mind and wants to experience one earth-shattering orgasm on top of another as her lover c…
by ApsaraFan22replies3,364viewsDoes this happen a lot?
It’s amazing how many couples we meet on this page. But when we try to set something up they either ignore us, or, if we start messaging on Kik it’s always the guy. It’s getting a…
by Alexkel12replies3,307viewsMassages
William, I am looking for exactly the same thing for my girlfriend of 7 years. I found someone in the Boston area that does just what we are looking for. We are traveling there th…
by lookng4new31replies3,300viewsShould we be more aggressive?
We are just starting and have had a profile for about a month. We’ve sent and received general interest but then things fall flat when we suggest meeting for a drink. Should we be…
by BMandKS24replies3,264viewsGirls are the prize, guys are the price?
Lets just say after 25 plus years swinging we will not take "one for the team".. we are both in it to have fun, good times in and out of bed including travels with our FWB.. We ha…
by RonKathy25replies3,228viewsLifestyle is a small world sometimes
This weekend I travelled over 200 miles from home for a vacation and to visit an on premise club in another state. While socializing, I mentioned I was retire military and my pret…
15replies3,173viewsContacting People
Hi Everyone, We are completely new to this lifestyle and site, like others we are trying to figure out where to start. My question is, when you are interested in just getting to k…
by CFCouple1437replies3,169viewsHe Plays she does not
Okay so here it is. My wife has ZERO sexual fantasies. And when I say ZERO I mean ZERO. It's very frustrating on my end. Love her to death but she is so vanilla. I've brought the…
by Stone9126922replies3,087viewsAny swingers dating sites that anyone knows of
So I was wondering if there are any sites or groups for single swingers looking for relationships. I would like to find someone that wants to be in a relationship and still be abl…
by ecitycpl10replies3,066viewsIs one enough?
Incredible community... still having fun! Burning question of the day: If I've messaged a profile but not heard a reply, is it safe to assume that they've read it and are not inte…
by HartwellHeat25replies3,039viewsFriends with benefits
I'm really just curious just house many people single or couples are out here to find other people to be friends with. Just someone to hang out with and tell stories to. And just…
by renob052316replies3,012viewsClub etiquette
We’re going to our first club on the 27th. This will be our first time experiencing anything lifestyle related so we’re a bit nervous. Any club/ lifestyle etiquette/tips/etc we sh…
27replies2,955viewsAn Ex-
You are at a club, house party or a hotel takeover and an ex- bf/gf shows up as a single? Would they have a chance?
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