When sending a message to a lady or couple?

All I ask from someone just to say yes or no for interested if no, I put a note saying they’re not interested and that’s that

SAZ0469- We are not all bad.
I checked your profile and I didn't send any rude messages.
I just assumed you would not be interested in someone 471miles away.
There is hope, keep trying.

I am a SM and I do not understand the way these guys act, eithier.
"When would you be available to meet and greet so you can start being sufficiently fucked and serviced".
He is assuming she is not already being sufficiently fucked and serviced. Like she is just wandering helpless and alone and needs him to save her.

Oh yes he was. Just another of the many idiots that think they are Gods gift to women

Oh lawd he'd be blocked immediately, acting like a bull wannabee. That is bull Shit!

Yes, unfortunately, you should have expected it.

There has always been a high level of ridiculousness in the lifestyle, but in the last several years the amount of rudeness has become more common. If I had to guess I’d say it’s largely due to more people online who’ve grown up in the digital era and feel empowered when hiding behind their screens.

The online political climate we’ve been in, where wit and thoughtfulness has been replaced by meanness and vitriol, doesn’t help

Rude and inappropriate messages from guys (or anyone) are not exclusive to this site, and they always suck.

We met as SM and SF at another site- before we joined this site when we became a couple. We'll infer you saying guys as meaning SMs. While we receive rude and inappropriate messages from SMs and couples here, Mrs. G's experience when she was a SF was that she received far more from all types than we do as a couple. SFs always attract more interest than other profile types.

If specific people are really out of line you can block them and/or report them.

I’ve only been on here a week, and the level of rudeness from some these guys is ridiculous!!
I guess I should have expected it. ??

Oh wow, I just realized this is still getting replies. I read through everyone’s responses, and it’s clearly something many of us struggle with when receiving a message from single guys, received my share of ridiculous messages from guys and couples. Recently, I’ve been focusing more on attending events and lifestyle meet-and-greets, meeting people face-to-face, and exchanging contact info that way.

They just dont get it.. just received one with a partial head shot one photo and claiming to be in town certain dates..

Guess they just cannot read.. or dont care what people have written !

Hard to believe people send this thinking they're being clever and that you'll reply.

Onehorneywife - Wouldn't surprise my if guys are whacking off just before or while sending these messages. Definitely not thinking with the big head.

Here is one from this morning

When would you be available to meet and greet so you can start being sufficiently fucked and serviced?

Likewise, we find parties to be the way to go most of the time. We've had mixed luck with hotel take-overs, but hotel room and house parties are fairly close by us and we ALWAYS meet fun people (new and regulars) to play with at those.

@HOPnrBED your observations / experiences are why we love attending hotel take-overs. 100-250 couples, statistically a few couples are bound to be a nice match and what you see is what you get ;-)

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.. Separately, over the years we have had some good experiences with single guys where we become regular friend. However, one rule stick by is that once the single guy starts dating someone, we take a step back. They deserve the opportunity to see where that relationship could go. One of the guys ended up getting married to the person he started dating and for us that validated the rule.

It’s a total sh_t show anymore…from single guys not putting any effort in whatsoever to couples that are 100% slobs to bi males in relationships masquerading as straight. Slim pickings these days can’t wait to see what 2026 is like lol.

@RonKathy – Geez, that takes the cake! We had one today from a single guy over 250 miles away who wrote, “Hi I’d like to play with you guys. She’d be the center of attention and could have two cocks at once.” We chuckled and thought of replying with something either humorous or educational (aka - how to message a couple), but refrained & simply deleted.

More like No Class. We get them a couple of times a week both on here and a couple of other sites

Todays award goes to a single guy in Florida, opening line " Hello" Not ONE photo in his profile and a one line profile.. we asked did he really read what we have written and responded not a match..

Then says " Your missing out. I get hard and stay hard for a sexy lady like you

They just dont get it and wonder why.. cant even read what we have written!

Such LOW CLASS!!!

Here's a fun one:

Our profile is pretty detailed. But it does give a reader some insight into who we are & what we like. So we get a Message the other day that says "Hi, love to connect with you and find out more about you."

Click on their profile to see who they are and what they are about. The only thing written is "Profile text pending update".

You wont always get a thoughtful and lengthy response from real people.
Many couples and single females have a waiting list to choose from. So they do not have to bother writing a great response. Unless they are new or below average. If a you are ever looking for a single male and they do not write a thoughtful and lengthy response, pass. We single males have to work a lot harder because there are about 100 of us in every inbox.
Also, sometimes when you report a person to this site they will tell you if they found something wrong and banned them. Then you know you were right.

Ckc2001 - Not for nothing, but at least 80% of your profile is that toothless "Legal Notice" warning. At a minimum, this makes you look gullible. Not saying what happened to you is justified, but that can paint you as a scam target and is likely hurting you more than helping you.

Thank your thoughtful and lengthy response Ymichael13. Based on the number lookup on the phone provided it is likely worth reporting.and we will. Honestly there was no thoughtful or stimulating dialouge as a response to our opening, just a "text us at xxzzxz"
Will keep your advice in mind for the future

Switching from chatting online to cell very quickly is common.
Unfortunately, scammers will also do this.
Or could have been an escort service pretending to a swing couple and they just wanted to offer pay for play.
Report this to SLS, they will investigate. They do not tolerate scammers, but you have to report them or they do not know about them.
If you are reluctant to give your cell out or to use it to call someone, who will then have your number, there are services you can use that give you a number and forwards any calls to your real number so the caller does not know your real number. You can also use a burner phone, like a drug dealer. Buy a cheap phone at the mall, call them on that number. If you get spammed it is cheap and easy to just dump the phone and get a new one.
The problem with not calling a number when they give it is many real people use tricks to screen out losers and time wasters and cheating husbands. A husband posing as a single or couple can't call as soon as you give him the number because he has to wait for a time when the wife is not around. Other fakes will not give their number because they are not serious. They just want to chat about it online and if you hear their voice you can tell they look more like Jabba the Hut then the greek god photos they sent you.
I do not worry about it. I can just block their number. But it really can happen very fast. I am a single male. My first threesome was with a couple that contacted me on here. When I replied I was interested, they sent their cell. I called as soon as I got it. They invited me over that day and 5 minutes after I arrived I was in my first MFM. They had many years of experience in the lifestyle and knew what they wanted.

Here is good question - we are new here. We messaged a couple asking if there was interest to chat and share more pictures. They responded with a phone number and requested rhat we text them. We immediately dropped the conversation and obvious did not text or share any personal info. Upon further research (my husband is a technology professional) the number is registered to what appears to be an escort service. We did not report this (yet) - wondering if anyone cares to lend some supporting thoughts here?
Thank you ??