House parties

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~Allen

This is great. Thanks

OP: Just to touch on some things since you have never attended a house party.

Some house party host(s) know everyone attending and some don’t, it depends. By judging the host based on if you have personally met them speaks experience in itself. If you stay in the lifestyle, you will possibly have met them or been at the same event. Even the really good parties we have been to and large parties host(s) don’t always personally know all their guests. Most can and do carefully planning of a party by using your certs and profile (even ages and pictures can be used) to select if you are a possible fun fit for their event. This is where some people advise you to get established by M&Gs and such (really good Tom, as usual). It helps you get around as a person or couple by “word of mouth” and possibly certs.

I want to assume when you refer to the verbiage house party that you are not referring to a hotel setup (totally different animal in another aspect), but an actual house party. The host(s) for a house party isn’t going to invite you out for a tour of their home or location first. Some publish an attendee list while others don’t (like ourselves), but carefully select, once again, for group/event compatibility.

Some house parties are usually invitation only and some have ground rules laid out before RSVPing, but usually not before confirming. Some do a very good job of keeping in touch with updates, while others may only send rules and location information after accepting. If you contact the host(s) in an attempt to attend, either show or contact ASAP if needing to cancel, so they may make adjustments. If you don’t, you may never get invited to another of their parties. Don’t be “that person”, you know, the flake outs-no shows- last minute cancels, as word does travel in the community as well amongst other hosts, just as everything does in this small peverted world. The hosts(s) want people that show, no blow, so be certain of attending before RSVPing, but know things can happen. (Funny, not so funny story, we RSVPed to a party we REALLY wanted to attend due to word of mouth. We finally get invited and 10 days before the party, after RSVPing, my mother was scheduled for surgery, I contacted the host to apologize, needing to cancel, while explaining, because we don’t cancel once we sign up. Never invited again, but they are still having them annually.)

Some house parties have a donation jar to help cover some costs while some ask to bring a covered dish, this varies with type of house party, but while host(s) may not ask for a thing, etiquette is to always offer something for use towards the party or a small token/gift of gratification for their efforts.

Something to consider: Our first pool party last year took 4 long days setting up and ran approximately $5K out of pocket in initial costs and we only asked for optional covered side dish because we bought enough to supply everything else for 30 people. While some house parties lasts 2-4 hours, most larger house parties run 7pm to approx 2am, then some can run 4-5pm until daylight the next morning. In short, not every party is the same and not every host(s) hosts the same.

One last thing to consider; Not only considering that not all house parties are the same, again, please don’t assume they are. Some depend on your surrounding population and varies on such or may be limited based on available hosts in the area. Some have social areas and separate play rooms, others are open play, some want and expect you to play, while others are no pressure or expectation of play. Some house parties are social like a M&G and/or M&G on site play and some are wham bam “WTF just happened” fast naked and play, so know what party type you’re looking to getting into, getting into and what is happening with your level of comfort of things that go on around you before you attend.

I hope you found this useful. Good luck folks.

~Allen

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Swing clubs are usually a lot more fun than house parties if your an experienced swinger, If you are new and exploring, a house party where you can socialize a bit easier may be better to start with. Of course I don't want to be hung here for making a generalization, I know how that pisses everyone off here so my disclaimer, Every club and every house party is different and there will be a different crowd every time at different places and you will see different people doing different things at different times.....Mary Jo

JTheart,

You’ve been given some really good advice. Here’s one other thing to consider: as a new couple do you really want to go to a house party where the host has invited you sight unseen? If they are willing to invite random strangers, who else have they invited, and what are their expectations once you arrive?

Check the Hotel Date section for parties (events). Typically, the host will be listed. Some parties will only allow new couples if they are referred. Some times the host couple will list the party under the Hot Date. "We have a 2 room suite, looking for 6 more couples....."

One thing you may consider, is to do a search here on sls for groups in your local. A lot of them have regular meet and greets.

C&S

Most house parties are by invitation & if the hosts know you. Your profile is new so it may take a while until you have met people. Until then you may want to attend a meet & greet, club, or meet people through SLS. Sometimes house parties are posted on the Hot Date feature.

We are new and have not been to a club or a house party. We know where all the clubs are but how do you know where the parties are? Are they open to everyone? Is there a cover charge?