Being nervous is certainly normal. Most important though is that you both know why you want to do this and are ready. It is true you won't really know how you will react the first time you see your spouse having sex with someone else but having this experience is why you are interested. In the end this is just silly fun. It is best to just let go and enjoy. After our first time, we giggled all the way home.
When I look at the times I've been nervous, I learned to let go of any certain outcomes -- like "ok, tonight ________ is going to happen". (meet a couple, meet a single, have two orgasms, leave at a certain time...)
The more I have been able to let go of those expectations, the more fun and more relaxed I've been. In fact, those have been some of the best times, because then there's no resentment... what happens in that moment happens, and nothing "has to" or "supposed to" happen.
That always helps me relax...
We are going to a party toniht. Not sure exactly what to expect.
We are nervous, and that is good. It’s fun to open up to the unknown.
We were nervous when we first started. Going to parties there was always this nervous excitement.
In hindsight I can't really say what we were nervous about, but being around full swap people made us more nervous and we don't know why.
Now, it's newbies that make us a little nervous and we DO know why. Nobody really knows how they will react when they see their partner having fun with someone else until after they've done it.
Whether newbie or experienced it is all fear of the unknown. As mentioned, that's normal. I will say, the nervous excitement was kind of fun and it doesn't last forever, so enjoy it while it lasts.
A first swing experience is just like any other "first" experience in life. Were you nervous at your first wedding, when you went for your first job interview, your first day on the job, your first international trip, your first childbirth, etc, etc, etc. All only natural.
Yep, we're newbies. And while we're really excited, is it normal to be nervous, too? We've taken the first step to living out our fantasies, but I have to admit to being anxious. Any tips?
