We used to have a welcoming, "people friendly" profile, but after years of phonies, fakes and picture collectors or rude, crass, one-line emails we eventually hid or pictures and scaled back our profile considerably.
We do something similar HollyBlue... The Mrs. isn't very "computer literate" (which is why I guess she married an IT-guy) so it's usually up to me to (1) weed out the phonies and (2) establish a connection with those we have some commonalities with or interest in. We embraced KiK as an intermediate way to chat, but after we've verified the sincerity of the other party (usually after an initial meeting) we will all exchange numbers and group text. It keeps everyone involved, honest and no-one has to relay second-hand information.
Does this happen a lot?
Yes, there are a lot male halves out there unbeknownst to their wives fantasizing away as they frustrate a good many of us. You can use Kik to help get around that a bit. Once we exchange mug shots and check for initial interest we will move to a 4 person group chat. It keeps everyone in the loop and lets you get an idea if only one party is existent or willing in the endeavor. You can also ask to vid chat simply to have an initial conversation and to check that they look like their pictures. Some people grow chins in the time between their pics and the video chat. It helps check for initial chemistry and will always dust off the fake and/ or flake. With single men, they are often times pretty desperate which can cause them to forgo reading your profile or the helpful hints sent out by the website. We have fun reading through messages and guessing who is and isn't legit. Most of the time we are correct but have been pleasantly surprised a few times. Be patient and have fun with it.
OP, Member since: 10/17/18. if youre already frustrated, you havent seen anything yet. you havent been here long enough lol
You're right. You wouldn't think it would be that hard to meet people but it is. We enjoy the clubs and have spent quite a bit of time at various ones as well as on another similar website. It takes all 3 to stay reasonably active in the LS until you find some friends that you can repeat with. There seems to be a lot of guys on here that do not have a wife that is really into it. They will chat forever and then never meet up. Check the cert's tab. A good sign are certs that are within the last year. Then you know they are serious and other people enjoy them.
most people won't meet someone with no pics, you haven't described yourselves very well in your profile, and some people don't wan't to play with bi guys.
Sounds like we'd frustrate you as well. The Mr does 99% of the communication. Email, kik etc. The Mrs just doesn't get into the virtual back and forth. Once Mr is confident that we have a potential match he gets her involved to make a decision on whether we meet.
Mrs really prefers to meet face to face and feel out the other couple. We find a lot of couples work the same way.
We've been lucky with those we've chosen to meet. Haven't been stood up yet. But we're sure it will happen. This is precisely why a lot of folks prefer to meet at a club or party. Still options if they don't show.
As for single guys you can block them. If you ever get the desire to meet one you can always unblock and open the flood gates.
It’s amazing how many couples we meet on this page. But when we try to set something up they either ignore us, or, if we start messaging on Kik it’s always the guy. It’s getting a little frustrating, we are in adventurous couple looking for other adventurous couples . It shouldn’t be that difficult. And yet, we put together dates and they either don’t show up, or once we really show interest to set something up, they disappear. And don’t get me started on all the single males that message and email us, even though write in our profile it says couples and groups. How often does this happen to you?