Meeting at your home with LS couples

That last sentence says it the best!

Like TomandDiane, we always meet in public first to ensure comfort and avoid pressure. In the rare case that red flags arise (don’t look like their pics, overbearing behavior, or a clear lack of in-person chemistry), the situation remains neutral and we can exit respectfully. It's much easier to invite someone back to the house for fun when all are onboard than to request they leave after being there for a bit with expectations unmet.

we took a chance and invited a couple to the house before we ever met them. When they arrived in their pickup truck we met them in driveway. They were both high intoxicated. When we told them we were not going to play they tried to get in the truck and leave. I took the distributor cable off the the truck and told them they had to just wait and sober up.

Lesson learned. Since then we have not had that experience. we always meet people at a bar or rest. before inviting them to the house.

We are exactly like TomDiane. When we meet we have vetted, seen pics, explored interests and all is a go. They just need to match what we have been shown! There have been a couple times across the years when a personality aspect had us not proceed but that has been very rare with our vetting

Same here.. T and D.. we have had only a couple times in 30 plus years we didn't take them home as they lied, didn't look like the photos or were jerks!

Not having unvetted ones in our home.. did so one time , kicked him out when he flaked out on all including his female half ... asking how many people we were fucking, who they were, were they this and that.. we all looked at each other while naked on 2 different couches naked and said yep this isnt happening time to leave !

We only meet a new couple at public place first to gauge chemistry & to be sure they look like their pics. We've then invited them to our place or vice versa afterward if everyone was on board for playtime.

Wow, this is an old posting. In our 2400+ days since we last posted here, not much has changed. We maybe got a little better at feeling people out and have become less reluctant to invite them to the house, even for a first meeting. If anything, we've gotten busier so meeting outside of LS parties is a little tougher.

We've hosted and been invited to other's homes and for us if it's a first meet, it's important the couple has certs. Couples with certs are generally not nervous and do want to preserve their good reputation in the lifestyle. Like a lot of people, we're super busy and don't get out a lot and couples with profiles have in our experience always been on the same page with each other and are hopeful about playing in the private setting that night. Over our 20+ years we've hosted I think two couples and maybe four single guys (all with certs). In each case there was good communication beforehand (guy to guy and girl to girl). We pre-developed a rapport and a sexy-friendliness going in. I learned what the guys were and weren't into and let them know what works well for the Mrs. So when we met, everyone was predisposed to warming right up. Absent that, it could be several hours of awkward pre-qualifying only to result in not matching.

On the flip side, we're happy to chat up newer couples at meet and greets- because meet and greets are just that; a chance to get to know people and help them along their journey in feeling comfortable about this little hobby.

We also have sex bench in the playroom and I'm working on putting some kind of bed in there. (we're running short on room). Having a playroom is an awesome way to entertain other swingers.

@2Outdoorlovers
Glad to hear that there are others out there like us. We too like to drink (not to excess) and get a nice smooth buzz and enjoy the music, dancing and close quarters conversation. We don’t have a stripper pole but sounds like a fun idea. Keep in mind we do as much as possible to get a feel for people before we invite them over including voice, video and lots of good chat.
I like to play bartender so I can control the amount of liquor in the cup or amount of drinks to prevent that dreaded over drinker, you know that one person that blacks out and can ruin a good evening of build up.
We also don’t drink and drive not even a single beer or glass of wine, our livelihood depends on that ability to drive to and from the office ya know?
If things go great we have them spend the night and like to cook breakfast and have another go before they head out the next morning.

You're not weirdos at all. At least I hope not because we almost always try to have people come to us. It's not really a security or confidence issue but more so that we have set up a playroom geared just for swinging and sex. This allows for loud music. The hottub. Stripper pole etc. (it's simply just more fun than just a bed). Plus I will admit that Tracy and I are drinkers and driving afterward is just something we don't do. Our guests are always offered a place to crash if they want although they seldom do.

we have had parties, bbqs etc. with swinger friends. most of our friends are swingers, whether we have played with them or not. sometimes a few stay later than others ;) it's nice to be around people that you don't have to watch what you say around them.

There are no LS rules. There are only YOUR RULES...

We also have had many couples over to our home after we had a previous meet and greet with them. We love cooking for our guests a wonderful dinner before the fun begins. We've had our favorite ones stay overnight many times.

If we get a good feeling about new couples we can and have had them over the house. We also have a number of close by restaurants we can meet at if there is any question on either side.

We have had a couple "less than great" experiences but for the most part our gut has been correct many more times then it was wrong. Though we have met at and split hotel rooms, it just feels really weird to do that. We definitely feel more comfortable in our own home if we're otherwise not at a LS party.

Do any other couples like to have new couples to their homes for cookouts, drinks, darts? Treating like the most vanilla situation with the understanding that it could just get really wild and fun?
It according to most goes against all the so called “LS rules” but my wife and I generally enjoy this more than ever. Sure you have the occasional someone who drinks way to much and you have to tame that situation but it seems to be rare.
Just seeing if we are the only ones who feel more confident and secure in this environment or maybe we are just weirdos?