3rd wheel anxieties!

As old as this thread is, I’ll throw my two cents in. If by your demeanor or words that you’ are a couple and any single tries to separate either of you, that single is not respectful and should be set aside.

Wholly shit'ski, I’’m answering a 124 day old question and I’m interested in the outcome of the weekend party the writer attended. Was hubby a 3rd wheel?

So much good information I agree with everyone with reinforcements of my own, for the sake of this discussion.

If you’re a couple, and you work and think like a couple when you’re together with others, you and your husband should have no worries. IMO the goal of superior, long-term, interpersonal relationships in the LS is superior communication.

If he’s an alpha cuckold he has an equal say in your pick. If he’s not, or doesn’t know, try an evening when you pick up a single man and drag the both of your boy-toys around like a shepherdess and her goats. See how it works for the three of you and credit me if it’s a success; be a Lucky Dog too !!!

At house parties and hotels we're like 4real…and I can't think about being a 3rd wheel when I’m her 4th and 5th. Mrs Lucky-Dog loves a dick in each hand, one in every hole, and someone waiting in line when she’s all wound-up and with friends.…it’s why I’m a Lucky-Dog.

And gheeezzzzzz did Fokker hit the nail on the head. Undisclosed drama coming to the surface for the first time in public can be ugly. When you stick to your rules you don’t have to unpack your shit into public remember rule number one is “don't unpack your shit in front of others.”

Still life happens and handling it immediately is impressive to other couples. We us two code words and either one of us might say “air raid” meaning “shit bombs are falling and pedestrians are running.” And the escalation to this is “Madeleine” our code for “shut the fuck up this second, or I will stick a fork in your fucking eye.”

The irony of a medical joke "By morning the problem was over and I had to treat a fork in the eye all week" catches our attention and we follow rule #1. “don't unpack your shit in front of others.”

Glad to contribute.

Some people have shared really good advice, and I want to echo this -- stay connected and communicate whether with words or looks or touch. This lifestyle, whether recreational, occasional, or constant, requires quality ongoing communication between the two partners in a couple. That relationship is the centerpiece. So it's a mutual decision as to what does or does not happen.

Set your rules and boundaries, that way there is no question as to what you will be doing (only playing as a couple, solo play) if you are only playing as a couple make that well known that you are a package deal.
Do not deviate and understand that you may not be playing with another couple at all because of that.
Ultimately feeling like a 3d wheel will lead to feelings of jealousy, resentment and will create drama. No one wants to be ‘that’ couple that starts drama.

Good luck.

Even if she were to find a solo stud, you won't be the third wheel. If she is anything like my wife, she can suck one cock while fucking another. Then the guys can change position, and basically take turns fucking your hot wife.

However, my wife can't suck cock while she is cumming, since she is so overwhelmed by her sex sensations. Give it a minute and she'll start sucking again.

It is so hot to see me wife so sex drunk that she can barely get up off the bed after a good fucking from 2 guys, with cum running down her face.

@HavingFunTogether2113 I love your suggestion! LOL

This has happened more than once to us at a club, where a couple tried to separate Mrs SOTW from me. Even after telling them that we only play as a couple. It can happen quite quickly so, it's up to both of you to be aware of it and not let that happen.

Start by giving him a blow job at home. Halfway thru stop. Then tell him you will finish the blow job at the party.

Since single men have become part of the lifestyle and swinging died we now have a rule that works. I also hate being the third wheel as do all men. Single men swarm all over my wife like locusts because she is one of the few women who is not obese at a club or party.

The rule is that she can not have sex with any man until I have a woman to have sex with. I have to be taken care of first.

Since swinging is dead its very difficult to find a couple that wants full swap. Even harder is to find a couple where one of them is not obese. Oh well most times we don't play unless its a private tourist orgy where its couples only. Then like the old days we just split up and have our fun.

So long as you play together, your husband won't be a third wheel. If you're planning on splitting up, it's a possibility.

We think it's important that you continue to reassure him. Let him know that if he feels left out at any point that he needs to let you know and commit to doing something about it.

At the party, be sure to include him. Let folks know up front that you're a packaged deal. Make sure he's included in the opening conversations and flirting. If he gets quiet ask him questions to pull him into the situation gently.

For this to work, you both need to be comfortable with the situation.

We are attending a party this weekend and the hubby is having some concerns about ending up as a 3rd wheel. I have assured him that won't happen. What advice do you have to help calm his anxiety and what can I do to reassure him.