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Swinging U turn
Welcome.. so if its something you both enjoy or have done so in the past, sit down and talk out all points over a nice no pressure dinner or picnic with no distractions. Both of u…
by RonKathy1replies207viewsWhen sending a message to a lady or couple?
What are some effective and respectful message ideas I can use to connect with a lady or couple looking for a guy, considering that I've been in the lifestyle for two years and I'…
by aa20700641227replies2,141viewsMeeting at your home with LS couples
Do any other couples like to have new couples to their homes for cookouts, drinks, darts? Treating like the most vanilla situation with the understanding that it could just get re…
by TiptonCoTwo15replies2,544viewsA question about certs
We are very close to making a date for our first MFM and have had some emails with a few candidates. In the forums, I see a lot of posts about fake profiles and no-shows. In your…
by jscplinma79replies7,014viewsReddit Success?
Tons of forums but equal amount of fakes and bots. Has anyone found any success meeting play friends using Reddit? Any subs 100% legit? What are your success stories? Humor us if…
2replies954viewsConvincing Her?
How does one convince one's lady that you really WANT to see her do another man?
22replies5,155viewsSomething new for us this weekend
My wife and I are heading to our first event together this weekend. After so many years of marriage, it’s exciting to discover a new side of her and to share something fresh toget…
by Casian_Andor1replies834viewsMeet and greets
Where do I find meet and greets near me I am in Bucks County Pennsylvania
8replies1,676viewsJust joined
Hey there…my husband and I just joined. He is more familiar with LS than me. We feel we have a decent profile, we have reached out to other couples, couples have viewed our profil…
3replies978viewsReluctant Wife
MWC here. Older male, young wife. Married 2 years. Both new to the LS. I was aware of The LS, but did not participate. Wife was totally unaware that LS even existed. We have been…
by 44878couple18replies5,010viewsTODAY Was My First Public Appearance As A Woman
I figured this is the appropriate spot to share my first time, today. I went out to a neighboring town dressed as a lovely, sexy lady, running errands and shopping. I had to go to…
by SunnyGurl0replies855views18m Virgin here from Western Mass
I'm looking to lose my virginity to a patient and experienced couple or woman and I'm curious if looking on this site will get me anywhere. I'm not particularly picky I've just ha…
by No_Voice19231replies752viewsErotic Massages for wives or single women
Hello everyone! Just wanted to introduce myself. Been in the lifestyle several years. I haven’t been active much in the last few years due to COVID and relationships. I’ve been si…
1replies731viewsHotwife Bare or condoms?
When tested or with a regular, we prefer bare no condom. Thoughts on your practices and what do you prefer?
by HWmami1replies1,551viewsNewbies
Hi- we are as green as green gets. Looking gor other couples in the same boat. We are coming across a lot of well experienced couples that don't want to take the time required for…
45replies4,977viewsAnyone else discouraged? Frustrated Newbie Wife here
So we are new to the lifestyle and apparently very naive. My husband and I have always had other people try to gain our attention in person and just never took anyone up on the of…
13replies4,374viewsAlmost done with this.
Me and my lady have been on this site for 2 weeks and nothing but BS. We are looking for a single guy for her and me to watch her be with. Easy right Wrong!!!! Guys have contacted…
by Southswing6937replies3,519viewsFriend request
Why is it that some folks do a friend request before they have spoken to you? No pics open, no chatting, just be my friend.....SMH
by BiXtasy19replies4,005viewsFEREEEEEEEE POSTING ????
AGAIN... why are free postings allowed and how did they get approved ? They do nothing but clutter up the site, making it more difficult to contact serious people. We waste our ti…
by MNJFLA13replies1,158viewsEmail contact only?
I met a couple on SLS. They said in their profile that they will only communicate by email and will never give a phone number. I suppose I could send an email if I get lost trying…
by Ymichael146replies441viewsHow does a couple start with the cuckold process?
Mid thirties couple here with hubby looking to get cucked. How do we start that process. Hubby wants it but I’m not sure about it
4replies1,448viewsNewcomers in NYC and North Jersey area Need Advice on Starting in the Local Scene
Hello everyone - after months of planning, we went out for the first time and decided to try the party scene in NYC. Here is what we encountered: 1) We went to the Loft around mid…
4replies840viewsMassage biweekly
Looking for a woman in the DFW area to give biweekly massages to. Not concerned about money or sex
by 320PoppaBear0replies381viewsHotwife Dares
Looking for some good hotwife dares for beginners. We’ve found lists online but wondering if people have some more creative challenges.
8replies2,714viewsWhy do they prefer this
I just came across a couple' s profile that says, "We are looking for senior couples to age 75 and single males minimum age 50 oldest 60.". Why would anyone want a 75 year old man…
by Ymichael146replies959viewsSuddenly couples are interested
After three years on this site and only finding two couples I was compatible with and one of them said they left the lifestyle and the other looked at my profile but didn't respon…
by Ymichael142replies993viewsMixers/ Meet and Greets vs on premise events
We aren't newbies but I thought this might be the best forum to post this question in. For my wife and I we enjoy the flirting and getting to know another couple or single partner…
by dman9649replies1,515viewsGetting Blocked
I had a few couples who were interested in single men reach out to me via sls messenger. After a few messages, they gave me their phone number(s) so we could discuss plans directl…
by Rocket_Ride3replies511viewsOpening your galleries to others
New here and not sure how to open my galleries to others or ask to see theirs without sounding creepy . Please advise
by Bikerpa3166replies1,133viewsWhat does tonk mean?
I’m reading the FAQ for party-at-scouts and #19 says: What happens if a person gets caught trying to "Tonk?" Banned for life. What does this mean?
7replies1,254viewsNo Tell Motels within 15 mi of Joliet
Does anyone have recommendations for a motel where I could host a play date ? Prefer within 15 miles of Joliet, IL. Safety & discretion are primary concerns. Does anywhere still o…
by ez_rider6replies670viewsGiving Up
We got into this lifestyle about seven months ago. I wish I could say we’ve had a good experience. We want to meet couples and singles, We are in the high end tier when it comes t…
12replies1,405viewsI might have landed the golden ticket
There is a club in Concord called the Villa. You will do very well there.
53replies2,889viewsTO BLOCK OR NOT TO BLOCK THAT IS THE QUESTION
My information states we have blocked over 55% of the people on here. Well when we have reached out and have gotten no response, or not interested I start blocking. Does anyone se…
by MNJFLA20replies2,380viewsHow to properly bring up play?
New couple here. So far we have been grasping the concept of most things in regards to the LS. But one thing we still can’t seem to figure out is how do you properly mention playi…
by RayVic22replies5,287viewsReplies
Why is it so difficult to reply even a thanks but no thanks?....if someone takees the time to write why is is do hard to reply? We are all adults and realize not everyone is attra…
by Al195139replies2,607viewsHow to say no means no
On the subject of photos, we have seen many “pic traders” recently. As one example we were messaging back and forth one couple. Each time we gave them our phone number and instead…
6replies683viewsIntroverted how do we meet people
My hubby and I are new to the scene. We’ve been to events and mainly go for the exhibition and voyeur. Our biggest thing is how do you make friends/ contacts in the lifestyle?! We…
4replies1,572viewsExploring Love and Desire- A Year in the Lifestyle
Nadia said that I needed to rewrite what I wrote because it was too flowery. I wasn’t entering a writing competition. lol Reflecting on our past year in the lifestyle has been qui…
4replies509viewsPHOTOS
Totally agree with you. We typically have 10-100 photos available to be viewed. Face, bikini/bathing suit, nude and action. This site is about initial physical attraction, so we t…
31replies4,837viewsPaducah Ky
Hey I heard there was a bar that swingers went to and was wondering what it was? I don't expect to play on first meet I like meeting new people and establish a connection before e…
by J_swin131replies508viewsDo guys really matter in a couple
So years ago when I as the male entered the lifestyle not knowing much just curious. I had a bi-curious wife. She tryed to find a single female to explore but always fell short. S…
by Bifun71727replies1,111viewsStories of how people got into the lifestyle
Just looking for some stories of how people entered the lifestyle. Who’s idea was it, was there hesitancy, does unwanted pregnancy scare people, etc.
by Johndoescpl75replies17,705viewsIs this common?
Hi all, first of all happy holidays and a soon to be happy 2024. OK now on to my question. Is the following scenario common? How can we spot it and avoid it and when we do experie…
1replies659viewsblocking automatic ?
I have a single male account now. I was married but when divorced, (was reported because I said was solo on the page) Page went to solo page. Now I'm blocked by many just because…
by Swingtime5702replies448viewsAn Ex-
You are at a club, house party or a hotel takeover and an ex- bf/gf shows up as a single? Would they have a chance?
18replies2,912viewsHow Do You Get Invited To House Parties
We are in the Tampa area. How do you connect with house parties?
11replies1,906viewsLifestyle and ED
I’ve always been interested in the lifestyle and we have talked about MFM and group fantasies in the bedroom. We never followed through. Now I want to bring the subject up to her…
16replies3,706viewsGetting started
Hello, Let me start by thanking everyone who posts very thoughtful and informative posts here. Wife and I have been talking about getting into the LS. She is a body conscious alth…
by Savkris8replies1,382viewsWhats the BEST 1st experience for a newbie couple Meet Up vs Hotel Takeover vs Club
My wife and I are curious/exploring the Lifestyle. It all seems exciting and fun and terrifying all at once lol. We have been talking about trying it out for like 6 months and hon…
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