A question about certs
I have no way to verify the validity of this but I have heard that some people create fake profiles just to give themselves certs. Sounds like a lot of effort for not much meaning. Frank & Nina
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Kik
Not sure what is wrong with the good old telephone.
Difference
Uh, oh, I think we're in trouble now. We get called a cute couple all the time.
Travel
Usually no more than an hour Uber/Lyft ride. That works out to around 50 miles in any direction. Nina & Frank
Happy Thoughts and Bitchfest
HT: Today we had a new year's day pizza party at our house with another couple. BF: Back to work tomorrow.
Do you think they were joking?
Attempt at humor that didn't pan out.
Hot dates and age
I think the lifestyle in general is getting more judgmental. There is only one house party in our area and the couple that hosts it won't allow us to attende because we don't drive. After talking to another couple in our area we found out…
Newbies
Even though we still consider ourselves new to this we have had the pleasure of several positive experiences. I can't say if there will ever be a time when we feel we are adequately experienced to use that label on ourselves. However, thin…
Suddenly couples are interested
I wouldn't go any further with any of those unless you can voice verify both the M & F members of each couple, preferably on the same phone call. It also sounds weird tgo me.
Weight and age truth ???
Our ages and weights are accurate. However that is just us. We don't hold it against anyone who comes up with a better version of their true selves.
Watching
We love to watch too but always understand that any ethical voyeur will also be willing to provide others with something to watch as well. We don't do full swaps but when the call is out for that "lending hand" we are here. Also like other…
Desire pearl
We will be at Pearl the week prior to Christmas (dec 18 through dec 26). Many people have stated that it is getting more vanilla. Hopefully that is false.
Desire pearl
Any trip reports from those of you who have gone?
No replys
I was about to reply to this topic, but then I remembered...
Giving Up
Ymichael14, yes exactly, they turned their noses up at us. I never told them why we don't drive but I suspect they wouldn't care.
Giving Up
Hi I am not sure if our situation will make you feel better or worse but I hope it is the former. Many moons ago, with my ex we were active in the LS in New York, when it was still for the most part called swinging. I am now in Boston and…
George and Anne Dinners/Events
There doesn’t seem to be any Boston/New England dinners so we’ll never know. It doesn’t sound worthy of traveling to NYC to try it out. However, last time we were on vacation a couple was talking about this. First of all, let me congratula…
Can anyone figure out this message?
V is next to B on the QWERTY keyboard. That was probably a typo.
Leftovers
When I read the title of this thread I was convinced that it was talking about going on a couples date at a restaurant and wondering if it was polite to take your meal leftovers with you back to the hotel/house when it is time for play. Oh…
TO BLOCK OR NOT TO BLOCK THAT IS THE QUESTION
Mayhem, thanks. I found it. It turns out we haven't blocked many folks at all.
TO BLOCK OR NOT TO BLOCK THAT IS THE QUESTION
We only block folks who are rude, pushy, seriously misrepresenting themselves, or are asking for "nudie pix". Is there a way of seeing how many folkd we have blocked? In our case, I doubt it is many. Frank & Nina
Replies
Lonewolf, gosh that is horrible. I guess that is a byproduct of an instant gratification world.
Friend request
I think there are many shy folks out there that think that a friend request is an ice breaker; rarely it is. Frank & Nina
How to say no means no
Hornywife.. I think my reality check just bounced. Sad but like you said it is the new norm. Frank & Nina
How to say no means no
On the subject of photos, we have seen many “pic traders” recently. As one example we were messaging back and forth one couple. Each time we gave them our phone number and instead of calling they kept sending messages instead. Then they as…
Profile cliche's we wish would go away?
Mayhem, I think the relative Anonymity provided by a website lends itself to lots of uncalled for rude behavior. Makes you wonder if they would be so bold as to say something like that to our face in-person. I think this is part of why Nin…
Things that are a big turn off in general
Profiles that say they are looking for couples but once the communication begins it is obvious that they only want the female half of any couple. The other thing is when a couple wants to meet and they won't give you their first names. Hec…
Stealing Content From Your Proifle
The cynic in me thinks that if anyone copied our profile we would be tempted to meet up with them and then say something like "crap you don't even look like us. We were expecting our dopplegangers". F&N
Profile cliche's we wish would go away?
We once had someone message us and say that we are the ugliest couple on SLS and that K&B must have ran us over their car. Crazy days indeed. F&N
How to choose the best Mexico based resort
We are members at Desire. I don't find much difference between the two but Nina likes RM better. If you enjoy strolling around completely nude it is a good choice for you. If not you may like Temptation.
Dating other couples
Our profile indicates we prefer to get to know another couple first. The result of that is that we don't have success and only get messages back that say variations of we're only intersted in hooking up. Heck folks don't even want to share…
upgrades desperately needed
I have no problems with the operation of this website. It is what it is. If I could have a magic wish list the first, and maybe only, thing on it would to be to voice verify both parties in photos that they are aware that their pics are be…
Is Kik secure?
Hi let me go at this from a different perspective. Kick's developers don't put one ioda of effort into following Apple's accessability guidelines. Given how careless they are about that it wouldn't be too much of a stretch to think that th…
Replies
We too are in the camp of a reply is good manners. Some folks have good manners and some don't. Do you want to guess who we would like to meet? We also reply to every message sent to us; even from folks who we weren't interested in the pas…
Orgy
It is like fine art or pornography. You can't define it but you'll know it when you're in it.
Reluctant Wife
While you are hearing a great deal of negativity; please allow me to put a more positive spin on it. Instead of specifically talking to her about lifestyle activities maybe leave the lifestyle specifics out of the conversation and simply t…
Location matters
MandC508: Unfortunately, we are finding out what you have said about the Boston area.
Watching
We certainly don't mind being watched but doubt many would find us interesting enough. Well hopefully they wouldn't make fun of us.
Simple Pleasures
Staying in our PJs all day and making a big bowl of popcorn.
Is this common?
Hi all, first of all happy holidays and a soon to be happy 2024. OK now on to my question. Is the following scenario common? How can we spot it and avoid it and when we do experience it how to handle it. This has happened to us twice. The…
Looking for a review of our profile and open to suggestions
Mayhem: It is about 5PM EST and it looks like it is there. I guess now all these couples on SLS will just be tripping over themselves beating a path to our door (LOL). Thanks F&N
Looking for a review of our profile and open to suggestions
I just want to thank everyone who posted on this topic. We made a few more tweaks to enhance the readability; no real content changes. Our next mission is to find someone to take a few more pictures of us. Let see if it generates any inter…
Looking for a review of our profile and open to suggestions
OK, we took out some redundant and needless information and moved everything around so that the info answers each section as a question like some of you have suggested. Hopefully it will be an easier read.
Looking for a review of our profile and open to suggestions
PhoebertAndWife: Thanks, we don’t mind if someone else is a smoker. We just wanted to make sure it reflected that we aren’t smokers ourselves. RonKathy: Ah no sweat and need to apologize. We noticed where you said “for us we always get to…
Looking for a review of our profile and open to suggestions
PhoebertAndWife We started by moving some stuff around so it was directly in reply to what questions the section is asking, or what we think each section is asking. We did leave in some of the humorous pieces since we believe that the life…
Looking for a review of our profile and open to suggestions
Hi, thanks for the responses. New_Hotwife_StPete: We are just looking at whatever direction the photographer (friend) tells us to look. goodgollymsmolly98226: OK, lots of suggestions there. We started some changes. We ran the whole thing t…
Looking for a review of our profile and open to suggestions
Hi all, we are coming up on a year on this site in a few months. I think we should look at some improvements to our profile, if there are any to be made. We would appreciate any and all suggestions. thanks Nina & Frank
Entitled couples
While everyone has an opinion on this and I doubt anyone will change anyone elses opinion I hope that at least we can all be civil. I am sure we have all had messages or responses to our messages which have rubbed us the wrong way. While w…
Why the difference?
Hi all, we just got back from 10 days at a resort in Mexico. We had a great time at our favorite naked, LS-friendly place in the sun. Everyone was very friendly and it was good to see that quite a few couples were trying it for the first t…
So bad I had to post it
Mayhem, that was our thoughts precisely.
So bad I had to post it
We just got a message from someone who soundly believes that he is entitled to some MFM action because he is a veteran. The irony is that the last line in his profile has a very derogatory and disrespectful comment about the president. I g…
Vacation?
Ah, now that depends upon what kind of vacation we are on. If we are on vacation visiting Nina's parents we're not in that sort of mood. If we are at a convention, we probably too tired. But, if we are at our favorite resort, well now then…
WTF ???
Nina & I could have written the same post you did. Again, we have had very little success with being contacted by other couples. Maybe other folks are just looking for perfection or maybe they are so overwhelmed with the slew of fakes that…
When should we disclose??
Well I am going to chime in hereabout your responses to disclose or not to disclose that we are blind. I liked lcmim: idea to disclose and tie into a strength of ours . Blindness is a part of our being but it is not the whole of our parts.…
When Your Partner Is No Longer Interested In Sex
I agree with everything others have said so I won't repeat it all. The first place a person should go is to their spouse and talk about the situation. In the end they both may agree that stepping out is the best thing to do but whatever th…
I have a problem
Hi, first of all I wish you well with all of your medical procedures. Try to find something to take your mind off of health issues, been there done that. As far as "couples" who are really just interested in the females I sometimes wonder…
When should we disclose??
Here is a question about disclosure. Both Nin a& I are visually impaired. At what point in the courting does everyone think we should disclose this? On one extreme one couple we met said it should be prominent in our profile. This doesn’t…
Meeting Swinger Friends
I agree that a more positive approach would be best. For example the profile rails against folks who you perceive lie about their weight. However in the stats Jean is listed as 120lbs and in the text of the profile she is listed as 115lbs.…
Block a profile
Too complicated... We don't bother to block anyone. We just hit delete on their message if they are too wacked out. There is this one guy who messages us every few days with a one or two word message. We hit the delete button quickly on th…
Meaning of Select Single Men
Thanks, we have joined a few groups here, now of to the events page.
Meaning of Select Single Men
Thanks for the advise. We definately spoke about it already. Nina is looking forwaard to finding a house party as we feel more comfortable interacting with folks in-person. Thanks for the tip about parties being posted. We must be doing so…
Meaning of Select Single Men
Oh my... if we are ever fortunate enough to get invited to a house party we'll have to bring our lawyer, stylist, life coach, and 7th grade English teacher with us.
Meaning of Select Single Men
OMG, a multi-page list of rules? What was some of the items on that list? Was it really specific stuff or just rehash of things you would expect folks to know in polite society?
Naughty in New Orleans for newbies in New England
Hi all, N&F here. We consider ourselves still new to the LS simply because we haven't made many friends of other LS couples yet, and maybe even found the LS scene in our area. However, that is not what this post is about. We do like to tra…
Cards Against Humanity
I wandered across this thread and it is quite timely. Nina & I are playing Cards Against Humanity at our house with another couple and two single persons. We are the only ones in the LS so it will be a pretty tame, mostly, family friendly…