Code words and signs

That is definitely on our bucket list. Probably need to be looking for a place to stay now if we want to come this year. Lol

Yep if you only come down once a year you can't miss Fantasy Fest.

Welcome to the fora Harrison. Sounds like we need to plan a trip to the Keys soon.

;^D

In Key West most couples are a possibility. Some that are looking wear black rings on their right hand, a FMF, hotwife, spade or whatever necklace or anklet or a wristband. Panties are few and far between here, if someone keeps flashing you there's your sign.
Like someone else said if you aren't catching anything at all you can mention things slowly and check the response before advancing. A lot of couples think about it and are interested just too shy to say anything unless they are at Garden of Eden where they know it's okay since it's clothing optional bar.

Our son told his Mom, "The SAFE word is HARDER"

If he only knew.....

"You're correct, vanilla event. Randomly met these couples, no prearranged. Remember "Pat" from Saturday night live...couldn't figure out if they were or weren't. "

If you're going to try to do that, which I don't recommend, then the only way is to say it boldly. Tell them you're swingers and ask if they are too.

hotluvrs...perfect approach to testing the vibes.

You're correct, vanilla event. Randomly met these couples, no prearranged. Remember "Pat" from Saturday night live...couldn't figure out if they were or weren't.

Probert,
That’s my assumption as well.

If we met a couple whom we thought might be into playing, we’d start a discussion around the fringes of the lifestyle. We’d talk about topless beaches, and if the response was positive, move on to nude beaches, and then nude resorts. Maybe we’d tell a story about some sexual adventure that happened back in college. If they are comfortable talking about sex, just keep going to the next level.

There’s no need to be so blunt and say “ we are swingers, are you swingers, also”.

Were you at a vanilla event with known lifestyle couples or are you trying to figure out how to determine if they are in the lifestyle?

I get the feeling you are getting answers assuming the first thing and you're really asking the second.

It never has to end at the bar... as suggested you really just need to be forward. Somewhat early into the conversation it is a good idea to talk about play preferences to be sure you all are a good fit. Once it seems like you mesh with a couple go ahead and ask a direct or a leading up to play question or five. Also, some couple like to stew on a first meeting before deciding and then wait for the other couple to ask... Go ahead and send them a message and see if they would be interested in getting together again to play.

We were at a bar to watch a cover band play. Curious to what we are watching for or should be saying in a non-sls atmosphere. We all got along great for first time any of us met. Didn't want the night to end due to assumptions. We were content with the night, just wondering if it didn't have to end at bar.

Met 2 couples last night who seemed interested in us. Without prearranged meetings through here, what are signs or conversation hints we missed? Thinking we all were hesitant to make first move because we were having a blast dancing. Did we all miss the after party?