First timers-visit a club?

OA - Definitely agree with that. We are more-the-merrier types, but when it gets to the point where you can barely move and/or there are no places to play, more isn't always better.

Never been to the Cottage. We like the Korral in Springgrove. Been to TJ's a few times but it may be too crowded for us.

Anyway, we've found that the best nights tend to not be super busy nights. It is too easy to get lost in the shuffle. As such, maybe avoid going during major party holidays. Halloween, New Years, 4th of July. Clubs can be absolutely packed on th3se nights.

Johnny- no club suggestions, but I definitely recommend it! A club was our first experience w/the lifestyle outside this website and it was amazingly helpful. Our host couple was great when giving the tour, answered all questions without hesitation. And just being able to observe the atmosphere was great, let us know how things really happen.

Never been to a club, very interested and hope to soon, any suggestions for first timers? Ohio Michigan area

Nice swing clubs are the best, they are so arousing, stimulating and sexually charged, women are dressed to get fucked...

I agree 100% with the advice to go to a club. It may seem counterintuitive but there is way less pressure at a big club with a lot of people and a lot of spaces, public and private. You will meet a lot of people and see play happening and you can do anything or nothing. My late husband and I jumped right off the deep end but it is entirely possible to do nothing until you get back home. Or you can go into a room and play with other people in adjoining rooms. Or if you feel a little bolder, play with each other in a public playspace. TPA, Korral, the Cottage, TJS ... I have been to all of them and they are all fine. I personally like the physical layout of the Korral best but pick the club with a theme you like. One additional bit of advice I would stress is to discuss in advance what your rules and limitations are going to be. If you absolutely are not going to play with anyone else set that in advance and stick to it...unless you both really agree to change your minds. Discuss how you are going to have that conversation if it is at all possible for it to happen. Talk through what your comfort zone is.

So true Andrew...

Break us in,

I want to repeat something EdandBritney said. Don't judge a club after one visit. Clubs change from night to night, because it's all about who is there. You might see an entirely different group of people from a Friday night, to the very next day on a Saturday night. You might see different people from one Saturday to the next based on the theme night. Go to a club a few times before you form an opinion anout it.

BreakUs - very cool! If you decide on TJs and have any questions, feel free to DM me.

Ringo- we were also considering TJ’s, possibly this Saturday!

Definitely start at a club. I haven’t been to the Cottage or Korral, but I can recommend TJ’s. They’re in Newport, PA, also not too far from you. Wherever you opt to go, don’t be afraid to tell people you’re Newbies. Swingers, in general, are very welcoming people, and most will be happy to answer your questions, etc. At worst, it’s a good conversation starter and, at best, well…I’ll leave that to your imaginations. Good luck and have fun!

Never set expectations..Never seek out a certain type, Never say Never. Never assume what others think, And always expect the best things that will happen with be unexpected.. You will have wonderful expectations, oh forgot, don't have expectations Mary Jo

Never set expectations..Never seek out a certain type, Never say Never. Never assume what others think, And always expect the best things that will happen with be unexpected..

I haven’t been to the Cottage (but have heard great things) but have been to both TPA and The Korral. We’re very fortunate to live in an area with so many options. Each club has its own vibe, depending on the theme and the night. Obviously the more people there, the more interesting an evening, and the more options, you will have.

Something else you may want to consider for your first time is a Halloween party at one of the clubs since it’s that time of year. A fun theme and will guarantee a good crowd. I’ll be at The Korral this year. It’s my first Halloween party at a LS club and I’m really looking forward to it.

~LMK~

Break_us_in - I am not familiar with The Cottage, but if it is one that offers private room play, that can be a lot of fun when you first start by going into a room together and closing the door where you can hear others having sex and/or they can hear you. Honestly though, even that was beyond our play-grade when we first started.

We would highly recommend starting at a club though, that is either just a meet & greet or, at a minimum, has private rooms to play in. I add that later part because at a party with a private room, nobody knows if you played or not, so there is zero pressure to play. If it were say, a hotel room or a small house party with no private rooms, everyone will know that you didn't play and it might make you feel pressured and/or uncomfortable.

When you go and do actually play with someone, there is a good chance you will be so nervous that you never even get to a point to think about contact info. If it's an SLS party, you may be able to find someone on the guest list, but once you get too far past a party, that guest info disappears, so check it ASAP if you did find someone you liked.

One thing that is highly likely. When first starting out, having the actual opportunity to play with someone can be every bit as erotic as having actually played with them. Especially if you have a decent imagination.

It will likely take at least a party or 2 when you're newbies to start to feel comfortable with a venue, but it can take years before the nervous excitement of attending a party goes away, if ever. Enjoy that while it lasts, because it's a big part of the enjoyment that you'll get out of attending a club. Beyond that, if you see people having sex in open room play, it's also very hot to imagine that it may be you playing in that open room some day.

Yes, the cottage is probably where we would start. The event we are looking at is the bra auction in a Saturday night. It says it’s an SLS event, so we thought that would mean plenty of other people there. We plan to go in with zero expectations of playing(with each other or others), mostly just wanting to see what it’s like, get a feel for how things work, and hopefully watch some playtime. Hopefully that will lead to some amazing playtime for us once we get home.

I assume you're going to try The Cottage since I believe that is the closest to you. Yes by all means try a club. Go with no expectations. Dont expect to play with somebody 1st visit. We are a host couple at one of our area clubs and we have seen both ends of the spectrum for newbies ... some look petrified, some sit back in a corner and observe, some just play together themselves, some jump in with both feet and get down play with others all night. Do what makes you comfy, and make sure you communicate with each other and have your rules agreed upon.

Every club is different. Try different ones. If you werent crazy about the 1st one (presumably the Cottage), go try another (The Korral is somewhat near you). We have never been to the Cottage but have been to the Korral a bunch of times. Also, don't judge a club based off of one visit. Some nights are small crowds, some huge, also depends on the event, theme, and if any groups are going that night.

YES! Try your local club. Don't worry about what you think is "expected", how you swing is all up to you. Clubs are where you meet the REAL people. If you feel you need to say something to a given person about what you are or aren't looking for, say it. I'm sure you've seen all the forum threads by people bitching about this or that aspect of trying to meet people online and the problems with it. Throw all that away and go out to your local club. As long as you aren't one of the terminally shy types, you'll do ok.

The hubby and I have just made the decision to try swinging. We’ve set our boundaries/rules with/for ourselves. Not totally sure if we’re looking to make new long term friends or just find short term/one time playmates. Would you recommend that we take an evening and go to a club? Is it expected that you will keep in contact?