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Hall Pass
I REALLY want my guy to enjoy a "hall pass". I am not sure how to arrange it for him but it is definitely one of his fantasies. Ideas?
9replies1,812viewsJust saying hello!
Hey everyone, I don’t really have a point to my post – just saying “hi”. I’m used to online school and mom’s club type forums that usually have an “introduce yourself” thread goin…
22replies1,810viewsFirst time hotel takeover QUESTIONS
We are new to the lifestyle and trying to sample all the various activities available to us. We've attended some clubs, house parties, a local meet & greet, and met with a few cou…
12replies1,798viewsBeen away for a while getting started again
We have enjoyed some time with couples some time ago, its been close to 8 years. While we don't really consider ourselves newbies, as we have an idea on expectations and what we a…
by FredTammy18replies1,786viewsWhat'd you have better luck with?
The best answer to that is, YES. Take the first opportunity that you can to meet real live swingers. That could be a house party, meet and greet, club, takeover, resort, etc. If t…
by HollyBlue10replies1,762viewsNewbies Wanting to Learn!
What is the best way to get to know more long term members in the lifestyle? I think it would be amazing for newbies that want to education themselves to be able to match up with…
4replies1,743viewsDisappointing weekend
My wife and I are brand new to the lifestyle. We've decided to give it a try. We have contacted folks, texted back and forth and had 2 meetings set up for this weekend with differ…
by USMCRet19939replies1,733viewsMMF
Thanks for the feed back RonKathy! You're right, I do need to invest more time and creativity into my profile. My profile is currently awaiting changes, as they haven't been appro…
1replies1,712viewsBeing honest regarding age and location on websites (long post)
This venture into online swinging communities has been rather challenging for me (us). As my husband travels All-The-Time I took it upon myself to create our profile. He knows abo…
by MollieKen13replies1,697viewsMeeting Swinger Friends
Suggestions on how to.meet swinger friends? We aren't new to swinging...been almost 4 years since we started. But Jean and I are both painfully introverted. We go to clubs, sit al…
by midagehippie13replies1,692viewsLooking for a couple for our first time .
Hi! New to the lifestyle and recently went to our first party. Wow!!! That was a little overwhelming for me(her) and he has been to a few parties/clubs in GA but this was his firs…
by Blueeye437replies1,685viewsMeet and greets
Where do I find meet and greets near me I am in Bucks County Pennsylvania
8replies1,677viewsNerves nerves and more nerves
Welcome.. and I am saying this in all honesty after swinging now going on 30 plus years successfully. We have come across all sorts of people , singles and couples and some are ju…
by RonKathy6replies1,666views% of fake accounts?
What % of accounts do you think are guys just looking and their wife has no idea her photos are being used to further his photo collection?
12replies1,664viewsExchanging phone numbers
Is it common to give your wifes number to a select male to become so call connected prior to first meet and greet. Any advise would be appreciated
13replies1,651viewsJust joined an excited about it!
Hello everyone! I am a new member to this site and very excited to reach an meet new people! This is both inside and outside the bedroom. As new as I am to the site I’m also that…
by JustKain14replies1,644viewsWe’re Newbies
So we’ve never done this, ever! She has always had an interest in kissing and touching a woman but never pulled the trigger. So we’re looking to make that happen. ???? we just hav…
by Thecees37359replies1,626views- 8replies1,612views
First Meeting Advice
The wife and I want to eventually get to swapping with a couple but want to try a mfm to get things started (to see if we like it). The wife is interested in hooking up with a SM…
4replies1,599viewsPic Galleries
I have been trying to give access to my personal gallery to other members. Each time I try to do this, I click on the personal set of binoculars, and choose the time frame, when I…
by Jamesandzoey6replies1,599viewsWhat do you do for the first meet up?
Looking to see what others do on a first meeting specifically with single males. I know dinner or coffee are common but looking for other ideas? I like the idea of meeting with so…
by Here2play8985replies1,595viewsAre clubs newbie friendly?
Note: genesis Memphis is our closest club We aren't the club type per se, but from reading up it seems like they are the best chance to have our first encounter. I'm not into danc…
11replies1,591viewsMassage +
I'd like to find a man to give my wife a real massage . . . yes, table and all, a real massage and then, if something more happens that will be fine but, got to be a real massage…
by funcplfuncpl2replies1,579viewsIntroverted how do we meet people
My hubby and I are new to the scene. We’ve been to events and mainly go for the exhibition and voyeur. Our biggest thing is how do you make friends/ contacts in the lifestyle?! We…
4replies1,572viewsHung single guys
So for "us".. we have played with every size guy you can imagine over 30 years... big, small, average, and HUGE ( Coke Can) . We find it is the person who makes the experience goo…
by RonKathy3replies1,567viewsFirst time wife needs a playmate
A whole lot about what YOU (hubby) are looking for...…………., very little about what SHE is looking for. Many of us have seen this scenario many times before.
9replies1,561viewsHotwife Bare or condoms?
When tested or with a regular, we prefer bare no condom. Thoughts on your practices and what do you prefer?
by HWmami1replies1,551viewsWhere to meet quality people other than loud crowded clubs?
My bf and I just got back from yet another meet-and-greet in a loud, crowded club with no info from the host as to where the SLS group was meeting. Many people wanted around tryin…
3replies1,549viewsdefinitions for newbees
we're new to the sls site. Unfamiliar with the acronyms and code words. for example, I understand cuck means cuckold. what does hotwife/stag mean? Anybody?
5replies1,532viewsHotwife(anklet)
We were curious when a couple goes clubbing and wife is looking for a date, does wearing an anklet signifythe lifestyle. Or is rhere anything a wife could wear that only people in…
2replies1,526viewsMixers/ Meet and Greets vs on premise events
We aren't newbies but I thought this might be the best forum to post this question in. For my wife and I we enjoy the flirting and getting to know another couple or single partner…
by dman9649replies1,515viewsLady or Tramp? Or Both?
I'm open and excited about trying something new. Especially since he is not usually the one to suggest something new. And this one came completely out of left field. I'm still dig…
12replies1,515viewsContacts
Okay, I know I’m new here so please bear with me. I was all set to meet someone, but when I gave him my phone number he started bugging me to talk and text. I find this extremely…
by Mssuzieq6611replies1,501views- 9replies1,452views
Hotel Takeover
We are attending our first hotel takeover next month. Looking for any advice or etiquette tips. Not new to the ls just new to a takeover event.
by Brjes6214replies1,450viewsHow does a couple start with the cuckold process?
Mid thirties couple here with hubby looking to get cucked. How do we start that process. Hubby wants it but I’m not sure about it
4replies1,448viewsHedonism II
We are new to this and have never done anything specifically "lifestyle". We've been to a nude beach and webcammed. We had paid to go to a hotel takeover but had to cancel at the…
by CTCoupleCam2replies1,448viewsJust had our first experience!
Music city couple, just had a guy from the site stop by and please my wife! Hot as well, can’t wait to see what we get into next!!!
by Noobie2202replies1,429viewsNewbie Couple Looking for Friendly Couple/Mentorship
I am sure lots of newbies would have asked where to go from here. We are one such couple and clueless. We just want to get introduced and honestly looking for friendly couple or m…
by laveenia9replies1,427views1st time to a club
So the wife and I our looking to visit our first club. We read dress to impress. She already has her dress picked out. What do guys typically wear. My dressed up, is jeans, a long…
3replies1,425viewsFirst bi for wife - rub and tug?
As we get more into the lifestyle, my wife is a tiny bit curious about other women. She'd like to try something anonymous and fun. We were wondering if any ladies here have gone t…
by TandW787382replies1,425viewsPHOTOS ARE CROOKED
Nothing wrong with my camera. My photos sometimes come on here crooked. Other sites have a feature that you can rotate the photos. IM not deleting these and fooling around trying…
by MNJFLA4replies1,411viewsGang Bang in Hotel Room?
My wife wants a small gang bang with 6 bulls and I am trying to find a place to do it in. I don’t want to do it at our house until we get to know them better. I was thinking about…
by SandLXXX3replies1,411viewsGiving Up
We got into this lifestyle about seven months ago. I wish I could say we’ve had a good experience. We want to meet couples and singles, We are in the high end tier when it comes t…
12replies1,406viewsAsking for advice on the lifestyle
Hi all...I recently met a great man - who happens to be in the lifestyle. I on the other hand was solidly living a monogamous, conservative life...and I have decided to go on this…
9replies1,401viewsFear of Covid and STI's
I am new to this and this is covid season. It's hard to meet people even if just for coffee, what to do? Second, how do you know that people are "safe?" Or, free of herpes or hpv…
6replies1,388viewsGetting started
Hello, Let me start by thanking everyone who posts very thoughtful and informative posts here. Wife and I have been talking about getting into the LS. She is a body conscious alth…
by Savkris8replies1,384views1st house party
Going to our first house party in a couple weeks. 50 plus people attending. New to us. What should we wear/expect? TIA
7replies1,379viewsHow Can Divorcees find Another Lifestyle Partner?
I have been divorced for 5 years. Before, my ex and myself were active in the lifestyle. The girls that I have been dating, unfortunately, are not accepting of it and don’t want t…
by MichaelH159replies1,353viewsProfile
We have been in the LS for just a few years now and I have noticed a trend. Outdated profiles. We have met some great people and had some very good times but it is very frustratin…
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