Looking for advice on safe first meet.

Not really any different than any other dating strangers online approach. Ask lots of questions about the person (I'd use a messaging service like kik to stay anonymous). Questions should be phrased to access conduct and behavior, but also throw in getting to know you questions. Before a play date, you may want to setup a platonic meet and great in a public place.

I have some female friends that will tell friends where they are going, and request they call after a certain amount of time. Personally, I find that all a bit much. Of course, I'm a male, and a pretty burly one at that, so the the things I'm cautious about are more personality and potential mental illness related than physical danger. Never stick your dick in crazy boyos!

If you do decide you want to bang, I can't endorse going to a swinger's club enough. There is security provided if things go awry. If there isn't sexual compatibility, you can always see if someone else at the club fits your bill more. Being both a single woman, and a good looking one at that, you should have no lack of potential partners.

With Covid-19, some states are more locked down than others, so the club option may not work.

One other thought: if I were a single woman, I’d be leery about meeting a relative newbie. A newbie is more likely to have mistaken ideas about women in the lifestyle, eg “she’s on a sex site, so she must want rough, gangbang sex”.

“ doesn't hurt that the person/s you're going to meet know that they can be tracked down if anything were to happen.”

That is absolutely the main reason for going through all the rigmarole.

One friend likes has takes selfies with her new date, then texts the pic to a good friend.

Unfortunately, there are so many places closed right now. For example, an art gallery/museum, bowling alley, or other public fun places to visit. Everyone tends to go for restaurants, but you can't always have open discussions. At least that part is a little easier now because, if a resaturant is open for inside dining, they are spacing people out.

I think a close friend should have at least the name of the person you're going out with. In a worse case scenario, what would someone tell the cops? Something like, "She went out with some new guy and I don't know his name or what he looks like."

It's very unlikely something really bad would happen, but doesn't hurt that the person/s you're going to meet know that they can be tracked down if anything were to happen.

it does sound a bit confusing

Quite possible kitten and I did think of that but thought I would ask for clarification.

~Scamp

"straight m/f curious 2"

maybe she is looking for a straight m/f encounter, but also bi-curious?

Also think the screen name is a red flag. Profile lists bicurious, however, first sentence says straight. If you’re not fake news, you’ll have no problem finding whatever it is you wish.

Much like has been said meet up in a safe place. Make sure someone knows you are out on a "date" (does not have to be specific with who) and check in with them. What has not been mentioned is that you need to check in the next morning as well (in fact when going out this should be a thing). The reason for this is a lot can happen between say a 10pm checking in and 10am the following morning. Once again you do not need to give specifics but most people don't want a call or text past a certain time and if you head to a hotel (much recommended) it is likely you will be out way later than that.

Other than that all I can suggest is if it feels "off" for any reason at any time remove yourself from the situation. Trusting those gut instincts will save you from at the very least an awkward situation. Over the years there has been a time or two where one or the other of us ignored the initial gut feeling and upon reflection after the fact we said so. Had something been mentioned prior to things getting to the fall apart point we never would have been in the situation.

Welcome and heed the advice given so far.

I have one question, what was your thinking behind your profile name?

It reads as “straight m/f curious 2”. My first impression is you are a couple but you make no mention of a male here or in your profile.

It won’t matter to most but for some it could be a red flag because there are a lot of SF profiles where they have a husband or boyfriend they will bring along.

Other than that, I think your can expect a LOT of interest so be safe and enjoy!

~Scamp

What you have heard already is gold. Always stay safe and at least have someone you are texting with off and on which lets them know other people are communicating with you. Another thing that can happen the first time out is to either pressure yourself or give into pressure from others. I have walked away from many more than I have played with. If you aren't turned on then don't feel pressured to play or even stay in the conversation. Just politely thank them for their time and move on to the next prospect. Misrepresentation has been mentioned and it is a huge problem. Video chatting briefly before a physical meet helps you verify that someone isn't 20 years and 50lbs beyond their pictures. If you do run into that don't be surprised or feel like you need to stay for dinner or drinks. They lied to you and you don't need to stay.

Well if you are going to meet anyone make sure it is a public place first and take the time to get to know them a bit in person. Many on here are nowhere near what their profiles may say they are. If a woman you will know what to do. If meeting a man take it slow and as has already been mentioned make sure your first time together to play is at a hotel where you can have fun but also feel safe till you get a good feel for the person you are with. Most of all have fun!

a club or hotel party would be a safe place to meet someone. there are other like-minded people around, and if you don't click you have a chance to meet someone else

Str8mf,

I’m sure that you’ll get some great advice. It may help if you tell us a bit more of what you are hoping for. Are you planning on meeting another woman, a single guy, or a couple? Are you hoping to play on the first date?
Without details from you, it’ll be difficult to give you detailed advice.

The normal dating rules apply: make sure someone know where you are, or can standby for you to check in. My wife rarely goes on a date by herself, but when she does we arrange for her to check in early in the evening, and again later. It’s ok to tell your date that someone is waiting to confirm your safety.

Meet at a comfortable neutral place first, before going to play. I like the idea of a hotel (with security cameras). I don’t like the idea of a single woman inviting new people to her home.

A hotel party is a great place for the first play date. There should be a sexy vibe. There are lots of people, so it’s safe. There are lots of additional play partners wandering around.

Make sure you and your play partner(s) agree on rules and expectations. Will you be comfortable with them playing with someone else in your presence?

The number one rule is to insist on open and continuing communication.

Good luck,mans have fun!

I am new and planning my first meet imminently and wanted to get advice, dos/donts, ALERTs, etc. from experienced sls members. I want to make this first experience as memorable (in the best ways) as possible without becoming a memory, so to speak. Thank you very much!