Generic profile advice
in Better Profiles ·
Someone, it may be a warning that trouble-makers won't find success, but could also be reassuring to others that they don't want to cause relationship drama. That's my guess.
Young2Ginger
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Generic profile advice
in Better Profiles ·
Mayhem, how does it show up in a profile when you select "Needs Work" in the approvals? I don't want to be mean, but seriously, two lines? If they just say they want to meet "like-minded people" that's too vague and I sent them back to fix…
Care givers for spouses no longer active - who miss the intimacy
in Senior Swingers ·
I love hearing happy stories!
Care givers for spouses no longer active - who miss the intimacy
in Senior Swingers ·
Lw, it can be tricky! Women are known for saying one thing ("Nothing's wrong!") and expecting men to realize exactly what that means. It's often NOT "nothing. But in the LS, we've found more of a need to be honest about feelings. We didn't…
A lot of smokers
in 3-Some ·
My mom quit due to cost. They had gotten up to a dollar a pack.
A lot of smokers
in 3-Some ·
Quitting was easy for me every time: I would get really nauseous every time I got pregnant. I'd stop until I was done nursing, then start up again and within a few months, was pregnant again! So I got my tubes tied and didn't start after t…
First bi for wife - rub and tug?
in Getting Started ·
T and W, don't be discouraged by Esperanza. They tend to be rudely blunt, and quite judgey. Many of us may be blunt, but will preface those comments with a disclaimer that it's meant to be informative rather than mean. As for your original…
Made changes
in Better Profiles ·
Try reading it out loud to each other and listen to how it sounds. It's a little awkward. I agree that they're really isn't a point to a close-up pic with giant blobs covering half the photo. If you don't want to show your faces, do some w…
Same room or Separate room FULL SWAP?
in Straight Couples ·
Sometimes it just depends on the situation. We're fluid when it comes to play time but regardless we discuss. If a dynamic changes, and part of the foursome wants to break off, it might be as simple as a head nod and wink. Occasionally the…
Profile review thank you
in Better Profiles ·
The first time you fill out your profile can be tricky, but look at others' to get an idea of how to organize yours, and keep the headings in mind. Also, use Word or some other app to write it up, then copy & paste. It's so much easier to…
Advice and comments on profile
in Better Profiles ·
More pix, and I agree that you should look happy! To be blunt, you look constipated or angry, but those often look the same to me. Your profile pic is the first thing people see, so if you can't get someone to take your pic, set the timer…
Pineapples
in 3-Some ·
It really comes and goes for me. Sometimes I think I think I see interest and sometimes I don't see shit that's right in front of me. It's really a crap shoot but I'm also a bit forward and likely to gently question a couple about their...…
Nudists are not all swingers
in New Forums ·
We haven't noticed any indicators of swingerism and shaving at the nudist resort we go to. Most of the people shave or wax pretty much everything. Some swingers love a big bush! There is, however, a greater concentration of swingers at nud…
Pineapples
in 3-Some ·
This reminds me: my pineapple sticker is almost completely faded now, and it hasn't been on my car long. I should get a new and improved one!
On This 4th Are You Proud To Be An American
in Politics ·
Yes. (Mostly. I don't think anyone feels it's an absolute answer either way)
favorite song lyrics
in Games ·
New fave: I'm just tryin' to keep my daughters off the pole, my sons out of jail; tryina' get to church so I don't go to Hell. I'm just tryin' to keep my wife from findin' out thst I married way up, and she married way, way down... -Walker…
favorite song lyrics
in Games ·
Let's Enjoy: we have some friends who play guitar, and they were singing it the first time Hubby and I heard it. I thought they wrote it, because it's the kind of music they write! It never gets old lol
Public exhibition
in 3-Some ·
We just like doing it outside. Not TO GET caught, but because we MIGHT get caught. However, we try not to because of the aforementioned family of hikers or church group. That said, Young has pressed me up against a hotel window or five in…
Mask and Swingers
in Open Forum ·
I recently visited an assisted living facility that had an outbreak of covid. The only people who had it were 100%, up-to-date, fully vaccinated. Let me say that another way: NO UNVACCINATED people-- residents or staff-- were sick. It took…
Mask and Swingers
in Open Forum ·
As I was teaching this, I thought you were describing a roll-playing situation. Then realized your playmates were serious. Yikes! I finally caught the covid-cold, was sick a couple awful days, then was kind of tired for several days (partl…
Live in boy toy for wife
in Fantasies ·
To us, a boyfriend wild be a romantic relationship, and we just don't want that complication. Fun with friends? That's the ticket.
Shave or wax?
in Men Talk ·
We also use Dollar Shave Club for several personal items, not just shaving supplies. I (wife) get a Brazilian a few times a year. for special occasions. I've tried home wax kits on Young (ONCE, on the base of his shaft) Here's a tip though…
Turnabout is fair play
in Better Profiles ·
P&W: I hadn't even thought about saying in our profile that I'm the one on here, rather than Hubby. I like that, since it seems to be the men that run most profiles, and it could make things more fluid. We have trouble getting away for the…
Lol red flag ahead
in Getting Started ·
RM: I've noted the assumption that the initial contact from couples is the husband, so when I send a message I make it clear that I'm the wife. Hubby is straight (for real!) and I want to make sure whoever I message knows that it's not a "…
In search of a unicorn?
in 3-Some ·
I see it as a descriptive word (or phrase) like "dom" or "older couple", or "single male" that is used to signify exactly the type of person someone is looking for. Treating anyone as an object, whether that's your thing or not, is between…
In search of a unicorn?
in 3-Some ·
I understand the view that "unicorn" is somehow not ok, but I think intent is more important. I don't use the term maliciously, so don't feel In doing anything wrong using it. People change their views on what is PC so often, it's hard to…
Breeding
in Fantasies ·
A small GB, yes but I don't own a uterus, so that part is out. Before my hysterectomy, I was very fertile, and it hadn't occurred to me to not want to know who the father was, nor did I ever need more than 2 months to get pregnant after go…
Lol red flag ahead
in Getting Started ·
DB, I also like using kik because I don't use the SLS app, and I get notifications right away. We've also created group messages that include all parties, so we know who we're actually chatting with. Yes, that CAN be faked, but there are u…
Happy St Pattys Day
in Open Forum ·
DBCooper- we are getting so many costumes for events we go to that we have a couple small totes with them. And one of just accessories. Nudists LOVE to dress up! The next event has a steam punk theme, after that is drag queen, and it goes…
Happy St Pattys Day
in Open Forum ·
Happy St Patty's Day! I've got my cute leprechaun fingernails (I wish we could post random pix in the forums!), and we're going to the nudist resort for a big SPD bash. I got Young some boxers with a leprechaun on them, and I've got a purp…
Sideways Pix
in Better Profiles ·
Thanks, Wayne. The pix I wanted to use were taken and wild be tough to reproduce, but I'll send them, fix them, and hope for the best.
Steal and Blow Job Day
in Fantasies ·
7-11 was doing whole pizzas for $3.14 yesterday but I didn't hear about it until it was I-don't-wanr-to-leave-the-house o'clock. I've had worse pizza, too.
Swinging with a family
in 3-Some ·
P&Wife-- we have a multi-generational household right now: is my step- dad, my daughter and, about half the time, her daughter too. My daughter knows but does NOT want details of course, and we have a caregiver for lunch time for days a we…
Steal and Blow Job Day
in Fantasies ·
I had to see if that was a real thing so I GOOGLED and there it was! I showed the web page to my adult daughter, looked down at the casserole she was making and realized she had put a row of provolone on top, with one extra slice beside on…
Is one enough?
in Getting Started ·
I hadn't heard of messages disappearing... although now I remember it happened when there was some kind of update to this site. But I'm not aware of it going on other than that. Maybe a message just to ask if the first one went through mig…
Sideways Pix
in Better Profiles ·
I know I've seen info here SOMEWHERE about how to get my pix to not be sideways on my profile. They look fine on my phone, and I can't tell if they're upright until they get approved. (And they aren't supposed to be approved, I believe.) S…
Are pictures of prior exploits in the gallery of a single male profile a turn-on or a turn-off?
in Better Profiles ·
The question is whether it's a turn-on or turn-off, so I'll address that first. *It depends on the picture. What you've got mostly are artistic, tasteful pix and those are almost ALL turn-on pix to me! Yowza! *A turn-off pic would include…
Same room or Separate room FULL SWAP?
in Straight Couples ·
A couple of our most memorable same room fun times have been in groups, and nobody had intercourse. The last one had Young with the two youngest and hottest women at the resort climbing in him like he was a tree. I kept watching to see wha…
favorite song lyrics
in Games ·
Granger Smith: "We're back-to-back undefeated World War champs! 'Merica!"
Bi-Mart
in Bi Couples ·
Wow! I just found this and I'm going to try to get a picture of us in front of one. I won't have any trouble getting one of the employees at our local store to take a picture, either: Young used to be a supervisor in the Hardware Dept. We…
PENIS SIZE
in Open Forum ·
It's more than annoying when a really hung guy doesn't bother to gage my reaction to his moves and I have to tell him the whole thing won't fit. I don't say it to stroke a man's ego; I seriously have a short vagina due to how my hysterecto…
Nude swingers campground
in 3-Some ·
I was going to see where the members are who first posted but they don't exist now. Anyone else? Where would it be?
Same room or Separate room FULL SWAP?
in Straight Couples ·
With some of those Male Enhancement pills you should drink a lot of water and not do anything really strenuous for a little bit. I'm sure it depends on the formula, though.
Nude swingers campground
in 3-Some ·
I know some people who go to Laguna del Sol in CA and they've said it's LS FRIENDLY but only mildly. It's an aanr resort, so you won't see blow jobs by the pool, but there is a higher level of tolerance than most aanr sites. This is hearsa…
Nude swingers campground
in 3-Some ·
There are nude sites that are more LS-friendly that I've heard about from vanilla friends at the nude resort we go to. They're just aren't any we know of within about a day. Except for nude beaches (5.5 hours away) and dunes hot springs, b…
Largest cock
in 3-Some ·
Andy... I'd only complain if you tried to stuff that whole thing in! Some bigger guys don't know how to gage depth, and it can be pretty painful. But if you don't have complaints, then you probably have it figured out.
Exs in your 3somes
in 3-Some ·
We've had a few weekends with my ex and his girl, but the ex and I weren't interested in each other. Side-by-side play at a club, then Hubby and his girl banged several times. The ex and I still hooked up shortly after we broke up, but mos…
What's your WOD (workout of the day)
in Fitness ·
I've been focusing on cardio and my butt. I usually do 1-2 miles on a treadmill at various speeds, trying not to drop below 3 mph. That's average walking speed, so if my back doesn't object (osteoarthritis in my tailbone area), I'll do 1-m…
To Bi or not to Bi…
in Better Profiles ·
Hubby isn't interested in men, but isn't afraid to get touched either. If the male is listed as bi-anything, that's fine and won't scare us away, but during pre-meet discussion, we'd talk about limits. I'm with the crowd: state your situat…
Creampie Eating
in Fantasies ·
Well, thank you (curtsies deeply) I'm sure we'll be able to do that again with them!
Do you young men like older ladies?
in Men Talk ·
I AM a gramma, so I don't care if someone says it lol But I go by "Grammy". Just not during grownup play time!
Do you young men like older ladies?
in Men Talk ·
I don't consider that I (wife) am in fantastic shape. But just this morning as I was doing countertop push-ups (we felt lazy and didn't go to the gym), hubby walked into the bathroom and said, "You don't look like a 53-year-old woman who h…
Creampie Eating
in Fantasies ·
We finally had our first one! We've got a friends-couple we've known for about 2 years. Somehow, we hung out but nothing much happened. Over new year's we popped by their place and, well things just happened. Young got inside her, making h…
Same room or Separate room FULL SWAP?
in Straight Couples ·
Our LS journey is still progressing. We've found ourselves unexpectedly in a situation with a couple we've been trying to get together with had a friend over. It's at a nudist resort, so there weren't many clothes to start with! It was pos…
Asking for galleries open?
in Getting Started ·
Yikes! That's definitely pushy. We don't have many options in our small area, so driving 80 miles for an initial meeting isn't a big deal, but we'd prefer people who are closer. We frequently go to a nudist resort 120 miles away, usually a…
Asking for galleries open?
in Getting Started ·
Slender, I wondered about that, too. At first. But sometimes I read something in the forums that leads me to check a profile for answers. Or sometimes it's curiosity, especially when someone points out conflicts between forum statements an…
Watching your wife get fucked
in Fantasies ·
Variable speed for the win! I usually am a jackhammer kind of gal, but slowing down right before I come, pausing, then giving me a release is the best!
Just looking for some pointers
in Better Profiles ·
A few things: Your pix look almost all the same, so yes to the full-body shots and variety. If you're worried about how you look... don't. Many of us have real-life, non-model bodies! I'm just assuming that's why the pix are same: you look…
Recent TV Series
in Open Forum ·
Thanks for the info, Rider. I have rarely watched a show that wrapped up logically or not some bullshit ending. "Episodes" with Matt LeBlanc had both a logical and satisfying ending. It's funny, naughty, and there are a lot of WTF moments.…
What do you find sexier?
in Men Talk ·
I'm clearly not a man, but have been involved in many conversations (usually at the nudist resort) where the men are saying how much longer they look at women who have something on. They try not to stare, but sometimes it takes a second to…
Recent TV Series
in Open Forum ·
I'm going to need to watch some of the previous season of Lost in Space so I can remember where we left off. I had to do that with Lucifer, too, after not watching for a while. Oh dear Lord, the Fallen One is HAWT! Speaking of 'ol Luci, I'…
Recent TV Series
in Open Forum ·
After recommendations here, I looked at Squid Game and decided it wasn't something I'd like. And I hate trying to watch a show and read subtitles. If the plot is good, they're distracting; if it's not good, it's certainly not worth it. But…
How often do you update your profile pictures?
in Better Profiles ·
How often? Not often enough, sadly. We usually get so caught up in whatever we're doing we don't think of pix, but maybe we should just add some vanilla pix. I've got lots of those, and try to balance pix of me, Hubby, and couple pix.
2021 Bitch of the Day
in Open Forum ·
I AM demanding! I want to spoon someone's skin lol
2021 Bitch of the Day
in Open Forum ·
SPOON! AAGHH
2021 Bitch of the Day
in Open Forum ·
I can't blame everything on the politics of covid, but who else has noticed that since restaurants were allowed to open waitstaff seem to have forgotten to serve a skin with tea and coffee? MAYBE once in the last year (not including comple…
Military Swingers be discrete
in Getting Started ·
It seems like I've read about a high- ranking military man being discharged recently because of swinging. By recent, I mean within the last 5 years or so.
2021 Bitch of the Day
in Open Forum ·
I like dogs in general. What really bugs me is when their humans don't care enough to train them, yet take them in public where they misbehave. The worst may be small dogs who aren't trained to stay off people. Yes, I know it's a little do…
Question for single guys
in Swinger Advice ·
When we're interested in someone, we check Certs, and usually check out those profiles. We haven't contacted them, and don't see a problem with it. But it should be done tastefully. Questions like "Were they punctual?" "Were they polite? "…
Military Swingers be discrete
in Getting Started ·
I thought there was a new signal lol
2021 Bitch of the Day
in Open Forum ·
ES animals: we had a tenant state she had one AFTER asking if she could have a pet, within days of moving into a place that said NO PETS in the ad. I told her if she has a support animal, there's a form she needs to fill out, then I send i…
Have you ever had sex with someone that you were absolutely not attracted to JUST to get fucked.
in Open Forum ·
I believe Young had a thing with someone for a short time who he liked, but they were basically using each other. Although, I've seen pix of her and we'll just kindly say she isn't his usual type. His luck had improved immensely, mostly th…
Lost Underwear!
in 3-Some ·
The fun thing about going to a nudist resort isn't wondering where your panties are, did I even wear a shirt... pants... ANYTHING? Happens ask the time when we leave the bar! I always know where my shoes are though lol
Wife gets extremely nervous
in Swinger Advice ·
We get "First Date" butterflies but that sounds different than what you're describing. *ASK what makes her nervous. *Remind her that she needs to be comfortable with it all *It's OK take it slow but new sure the other(s) are comfortable, t…
Watching your wife get fucked
in Fantasies ·
Jndlr...I like seeing the difference in skin tones, too. I'm pretty tan for a natural redhead but there are a LOT of men darker than me! Seeing the chocolate of a man disappear into the cotton- candy pink of me and the pale skin of my thig…
Recent TV Series
in Open Forum ·
We've been watching Hot Ones on YouTube. Famous people eating progressively hotter wings. We just watched one of their specials with two contestants (Bert Kreischer and Tom Segura) playing Truth or Dab. We also watch Demolition Ranch (guns…
Same room or Separate room FULL SWAP?
in Straight Couples ·
We prefer separate rooms, but our first full swap was same room, because that's where everyone's comfort level was. I actually DO like watching him with someone else, but it distracts me from my play partner. We kind of go both ways on thi…
Do women really enjoy a larger man?
in Women Talk ·
I don't have a cervix anymore, so there's isn't that fun little trampoline at the end of my vagina. So long is not a selling point for me. And if it doesn't fit, trying to MAKE it fit will just it's me off and you'll leave sad. Young is a…
What would do.
in Men Talk ·
Young tried sucking and getting sucked by a bi- male and it also did nothing for him. He's totally straight, but I appreciated that he TRIED. He was curious to find out if a man sucking him would turn him on, and... nope. I'm on with that,…
Pineapples
in 3-Some ·
-The pineapple sticker on my car is already starting to fade! -I just got my "Lifestyle" badges for my Subaru, and wouldn't it be cool if there was a pineapple?! -I have had several people comment on our black rings, but almost everyone wa…
Generic profile advice
in Better Profiles ·
Excellent point about F on F play. Our profile actually states that it happens if the attracon is there, as with any play partner. I've changed a few things over time as our tastes and boundaries have changed, but also in checking this sec…
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
JCpl2, not being able to easily read a profile sucks. I get that autocorrect assumes Iwant to say words I've never heard, but I definitely try to correct our profile right away! I'm a big fan of taking the small step to my laptop and using…
wife want's to spend night alone with lover
in Men Talk ·
Wow, what a lot of good info and points of view. My first thought wasn't "If you have to ask, that's your answer. " But maybe a better answer would have been, "Not yet" For us, it's not about jealousy, but comfort. It's hard getting used t…
Split roast
in 3-Some ·
It can be a LOT of fun! Hubby gets to see me getting banged and then watching me blow someone else when we change positions. It's great for me, too!
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
Joroman, you're right! There are only so many ways to say the same thing, but if there are some fun phrases thrown in, it shows more personality. And we may not need to know everything about a couple, we like a good sense of humor and comm…
Need help
in Better Profiles ·
Wow! Pix: You both look like someone said, "Stand here and don't let anyone pass!" and you take that job very seriously. Words: I don't know what the profile was like four days ago but there is punctuation, although the grammar could use a…
Words that turn you off in a profile
in Swinger Advice ·
For us, the turn-off words are generally activities we don't enjoy, like tv game day get-togethers, potty play, and incest fantasies. Also, the ones with a long list of what they DON'T want (ours is pretty short), especially if they're isn…
House Parties - What do you like to see as a guest???
in Getting Started ·
*Games--It seems like whenever we go to a house party, there are new people, whether it's us or someone else, so we enjoy icebreaker games or other ways to introduce everyone to each other. *Music-There is usually music, which is nice IF i…
Hosting first house party
in Getting Started ·
I've been paying attention when we attended house parties, as we are hoping to get to a point in our lives when we can host a few couples at our home. We've only been to themed parties so far, and they have overwhelmingly been successful i…
We would like some feedback back on our profile
in Better Profiles ·
Reread the last section. It's got typo, is awkward, and a bit confusing. Pix are pretty good, though
Profile rejected by Support
in Better Profiles ·
I'm still getting used to the approval thing. Sometimes when I scroll to see more of a profile, it disappears and I don't know where it goes. I've used the reject button when it looks like there's a url that doesn't look right, but what go…
Actually looking like your pics
in Getting Started ·
Wow. That's a big difference! Hubby varies from about 275-315 (keep in mind he's 6'4"), depending on the time of year and what we've been focusing on in our lives. But I feel like he's pretty close to the same visually. Maybe it's because…
What brout you to SLS?
in New Forums ·
We had been to a club and wanted to be able to find people who weren't 4.5 miles away. I thought, "You can find anything on the internet!" And I was right! I tried s could other sites but didn't like them, plus I had to spend more money th…
Wife wants bigger but .
in Men Talk ·
TN79-Hubby is a good "average" and I like how we fit together. Longer is not always better, especially if a man doesn't know how to "pull his punches" and tries to shove the whole thing in. I don't think I can handle more than about 8" and…
Actually looking like your pics
in Getting Started ·
We also like having some older pix that show our interests, even if we haven't gotten to do those things lately. I feel that we look pretty much like our pix but we don't really do selfies and the cool stuff happens when there aren't other…
Meet and Greet Etiquette
in 3-Some ·
It may look like you've brought your fun with you and it COULD make you less approachable. There a couple we know who bring the husband's girlfriend and they never seem interested in having anyone else join them. That's the extent of my "b…
Window sign, flash cards
in Fantasies ·
I've had an upside-down pale in the back of my car (daily driver and normally what we take on trips) for a few months but no questions about it. ...yet...
Women run the lifestyle - but men drive it (observation)
in Swinger Advice ·
The dynamic of our whole relationship, both here and in pretty much every situation, is one where I (wife) do the correspondence. I contact suppliers, tenants, family, and potential play partners. I keep Young advised of anything he needs…
Red flag Couples
in Swinger Advice ·
We're numbers of a family friendly nudist resort, and there are quite a few swingers who live and visit there. We know to behave even when dancing nude in the bar, but they don't suggest that couples aren't allowed to show any vanilla-leve…
Window sign, flash cards
in Fantasies ·
We took a trip and had a sign that said, "Show me your boobs!" we got several looks and a couple guys lifted their shirts for us! Sometimes I (wife) drove and that got us even more interested looks!