What'd you have better luck with?

Thanks for welcoming feedback. Here are a few thoughts.

I agree that photos help give life to a profile. Of course honesty is important, but I would not highlight newbie as if you are tenuous but then you are clear in aiming someday for full swap separate. Those give me a contradictory impression as to what you seek NOW. All the suggestions posted to me seem good especially as far as enhancing your profile. We in fact note that in ours -- that we are continually enhancing our photo collection. And every so often we change or add a few sentences to freshen it up.

That said, I would also suggest you consider occasionally posting a Hot Date. That is another way to catch the attention of potentially interested couples.

Best wishes and of course ask away!

L.

Thanks for all your tips! Will work on our profile...

Will agree to tweaking the profile a bit. Try and move away from screaming that you are new and inexperienced. However, the biggest issues most likely affecting your responses are your pictures. You really need a default image other than gumbies. You also need some pictures with both of you that aren't locked away in a gallery somewhere. Start a thread in the better profiles section and put your helmets on.

I just read your profile. UMMMM.... aaaaaahhhh.... hmmmmm... I'd start over.

It simply takes a lot of WORK. Yes WORK. Yes definately go the the parties. Send emails. Tweak your profile. (if it needs) Getting hookups takes WORK and a large helping of patience.

We are in the exact same place, nervous newbies.. we have gone to S&S in A/C twice, and will be attending the New Years eve event. Both times we have had a good time, felt completely comfortable downstairs well, more so the 2nd time. We are hoping to do better at socializing this trip. At this point our aim is to watch and be watched, we are both open minded and have a " lets see how it goes" attitude.

I've found it curious that the response level from any contact I have initiated here is very low. We aren't pushy, really just want to interact, speak to others whether there is physical attraction or not, its a social thing too, we have plenty of friends we would never want to see nude and are still friends ;)

We will be at Borgata Saturday night, have other social obligations and anticipate being in the casino bar around 12, we are hoping to meet a couple or single woman for at least a drink and discussion

I know one thing for sure it is easy to meet people now than just 40 years ago.tech has made all kinds of people pervy.yeeaa

I know one thing for sure it is easy to meet people now than just 40 years ago.tech has made all kinds of people pervy.yeeaa

I am reminded of one of my favorite life philosophies, credited to Wayne Gretzky, great NHL player...…."You miss 100% of the shots that you don't take".

We have been to very good house parties AND very lousy house parties; also to very good clubs AND very lousy clubs. Impossible to generalize either.

The best answer to that is, YES. Take the first opportunity that you can to meet real live swingers. That could be a house party, meet and greet, club, takeover, resort, etc. If there is place that is local and you have been curious about it then go. When you do, be sure to be friendly and not afraid the start conversations. Typically, people are tentative when it comes to initiating things. Take the plunge and be patient. Sometimes being new can be a turn off for some but don't let that discourage you. It doesn't have anything to do with you all. Most likely they could have had a bad experience prior. Good luck.