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Both are good but the extra, forbidden nature of anal sex adds to its attraction. Plus, the different feel around ones cock is interesting. I have a playmate that I see every so often and she is amazing when it comes to anal. You almost ca…
Masscouple: The easiest (and one that worked for us) was to see if another married couple would be willing to exchange threesomes. Often, if one member of a couple travels, it's possible to arrange a mid-week event. The bottom line is that…
Don't say "alternative messaging platforms" too loudly. The admins might be listening!
We agree that a follow-up message is not necessarily a bad idea. Most of those we follow-up with are kind and the usual responses are that they missed it, didn't get it, or forgot to answer. We've received messages and, with real life inte…
It bothers us when we are asked out of the blue to open our galleries. At first, we thought it was just more rude people than in the past were joining SLS. Now, however, we see that it is a "function" of the phone app. If you are looking a…
It is also very important that the SMs not ignore or embarrass the husband! Remember, both the husband and wife are selecting her extra partner. If you don't engage the husband and if you embarrass him in public, you will go nowhere. You m…
As with most things in the lifestyle, the answer is, "It depends." If we've written a message to someone and they don't look at our profile and don't respond, we write them off. It's obvious we aren't their cup of tea. However, if the coup…
We have to agree with RusticMagic on this one. We've never understood the need for a deep 4-way emotional connection when the desire is to have sex. We can have sex with people we like. However, we don't necessarily want them involved in o…
We also wish there was a way to "tag for later" so that if I'm going on the site and the wife is busy, we could tag couples/singles of interest for later review together. There doesn't seem to be a way to do that now. I also think the over…
I (the male half) agree completely with Mr. mayhem8! When we first entered the lifestyle years ago, I felt that it was the woman in the couple who drew the men. Later in our journey, I came to realize that it was both the men and women who…
We were recently traveling and changed our location on the site to our destination. While in that location, we got a number of views of our profile. So far so good. Before leaving, we changed our address back to our home area. Here's the i…
We never asked for donations. Rather, most people offered to bring food to share. We did provide water, beer, wine, and mixers but otherwise, it was BYOB. We found that we inevitably had more food than we needed but were not overwhelmed wi…
The disappearing message glitch on the website seemed to disappear but now it's back. I've had to copy and paste a message three times on two succesive days to get it to post. It's annoying.
More good information from SCswingingCpl and hotluvrs! Thanks for adding the plastic sheet covers. We attended a party and I played with a young lady attending with a friend. She didn't mention she was a squirter and my goodness did we mak…
One additional piece of party advice is the hosts should not forget to have some fun, too. We've attended other people's parties where the hosts were so busy taking care of party things they forgot to enjoy themselves. Most people are pret…
I have to concur that while contacting other attendees you are interested in beforehand is a good idea, your plans probably won't be realized. However, it does give you someone to talk to at the party and that is a real plus. You are alway…
As with many couples, I (the male half) do most of the online work. If we are contacted or I find an interesting couple or single, I send that info to the Commander in Chief who makes the final decision.
OK, we hosted about 4 major house parties a year for 10 years so we may be able to help. You can send a message if you have questions. Here's our basic advice: 1. Do not invite anyone to your house party you don't know or who isn't vouched…
Yes, we are talking about apples wandering around like sex-crazed people! We've done hotel takeovers, hotel suite parties, clubs, and house parties. For us, house parties with a reasonable number of guests are the best venue. However, when…
Since the lifestyle involves realizing that sex and love can be separate, we also separate sex and friendship. That is, we can meet people and have a fun sexual experience without needing them to be such good friends that we invite them to…
When we lived in Maryland we would hold rather large house parties every other month or so. We did that for about 10 years so we have some experience in this area. You've received a lot of good advice and you should take heed. Here is our…
I know the Who Viewed Me list shows the last time the viewer logged on but can it also tell me when that person viewed my profile? If I sort by anything other than chronologically, I have no idea when my profile was viewed. It would help t…
Whoever came up with this notification from the app should be drawn and quartered and then shot as a warning to programmers everywhere. Talk about an intrusive, rude, and blatantly garbage idea; this is it. So, we're sitting here on SLS an…
Joey, do you mean like a real, 21st Century website? Golly, I wonder if SLS will ever leave the 19th Century of electronic communications.
I was wrong. They still have Favorites and you can add to them. Now, the question is Why?
I don't think we can add anyone else to our Favorites. It looks to me like that's going to be closed eventually and replaced by the new Friends. So, from now on, you can't be added to someone's Friends list without your consent. That's not…
While the majority of these new "features" from SLS appear to be poorly thought out, I think the new Friend Request feature may be a good one. At least now you won't be on someone's Friend List without you saying OK to it. This may be the…
Thanks. I looked for prior threads but must have missed it.
Has anyone else noticed the new "feature" from the mobile app that allows people to send requests that you open your pictures to them? Getting that kind of mindless, rude, insensitive drivel really turns us off. We put a line in our profil…
We noticed that pictures in the "Friends Online" and in other locations now have a new attribute. It's a little outline of a person with a + sign superimposed on it. Does anyone know what this means? What it does? Why it's there? What new…
If we wanted a "Wall" where people could post silly things for us to ignore, we'd use Facebook. We really, really, really don't need to see a continual stream of single males telling everyone in a 50 mile radius how they want to meet a cou…
I am going to assume that due to the arcane nature of the SLS programming, we needed a new feature called "Friends" to replace the old feature called, wait for it, "Friends." It's also interesting that they were able to move all my "Old Fr…
I can understand suspending posts regarding large gatherings, especially in public spaces. However, it would seem to us that limiting the ability to post a hot date between individuals or couples might be a bit much. This is a site for adu…
That's an interesting point. We also have found that, for the most part, older couples are less likely to be here for flirting, going to parties to dance half-naked, and then go home and say what a wild time you had. We're vetted. We've be…
We are on some other lifestyle sites and they include the field of "Last Updated". We try to keep ours reasonably up-to-date. It would be nice if the profile showed that information.
It might be worth adding a field to the display of each member showing the last time the profile was updated or pictures added. We can see the date the member initiated a profile but that's it. We often wonder when reading a profile that i…
We're members on another site and they've instituted an interesting feature. When you look at a profile, it shows friends you have in common with the target profile. It's a good indicator of who you might have something in common with if y…
Have to say we agree with Mayhem. When we moved to the DC area about 15 years ago (we have since moved again to be nearer to the children and grandchildren), we didn't know anyone in the area and especially no one in the lifestyle. We enga…
Couldn't agree more. We are fortunate to have friends (and playmates) of a wide variety of ages. We are even "out of spec" for some of them! It just doesn't seem to make sense for SLS to filter based on the age criteria. Quite a few people…
This change to the Hot Date and calendar function is dysfunctional at best. We have friends in the lifestyle of all ages. It sure would be nice to know when some of our younger friends are attending an event or will be somewhere we might b…
This change to the Hot Date and calendar function is dysfunctional at best. We have friends in the lifestyle of all ages. It sure would be nice to know when some of our younger friends are attending an event or will be somewhere we might b…
I know what you mean, yeaokay. I wrote a complaint here and tried to voice a similar sentiment in our profile. Management not only blocked my posts they suspended my account until I "fixed" my profile! That, and the profile changes must be…
I see where SLS is once again asking members to review mobile photos. No thanks, SLS. You asked us before and we did. We asked for our email back and you said no. Now, I say no.
Go to Tools Manage Homepage and you should be able to add it back to your home page. nnvacouple
There should be a way when checking a profile to see: 1) What groups that couple belongs to. 2) What SLS events the couple is planning to attend. 3) A reverse friend list (who has put you on their friend list) 4) A list of the couple's hot…
With regards to how your profile is written, one thing we try to do (and like in other profiles) is when the author writes in a personal tone. That is, when we read your profile, we want to hear your voices telling us a little about you, w…
Lifestyle success is like sales; you have to make a lot of cold calls to have some "hot" sales! We lived in the DC area for 13 years and found the lifestyle scene very active. If you are club people, Tabu is very close and is a good venue.…
@softtail - True, we can communicate using the new system but I don't think we can communicate well with other members. The new system lacks the subtlety and nuance possible with the email system. To us, it's a brutal and terse system. We…
I just submitted a formatted support request. The system converted it into an unformatted, strung together lines of text. Ugh. This is the result: "We have tried the new IM system and it is really lacking in usability. The limited characte…
When we lived up in the Washington, DC metro area, there was another "alt" site which was quite popular with the local swinger community. In fact, when we moved up there, the lifestylers we met said no one used SLS anymore but they'd all s…
@num1scamp, that's so true. The fact that you can still email your "Archived Mail", receive bulk emails, and receive special SLS emails tells me the code is still there. They've just disabled it for the regular user to initiate a new email…
Yes. And the number of photos listed on the flyover is often different from the number actually in the galleries. Right now, ours are correct but it will often change for no apparent reason. nnvacouple
And don't forget the subtle move where they lean in to listen to you and somehow manage to give you an excellent view of their breasts. Or when they stand next to you and you can feel them pushing their breast into your arm or side. Both a…
There is an app on the Apple Store called SLS (it's not the first one that comes up by the way) which you can download and use. It's not perfect but it might be what you are seeking.
How about we have a "Reverse Friends Lookup" capability? That is, we need a way to see who has us on their Friends List. Since we don't have to confirm these sorts of things, it would be nice to know who has put you on their list.
Much like @jnjlovetoplay and @chimera66, we are still in the game but playing at a slower pace than we did several years ago. Part of the issue is we moved from the DC area where lifestyle activities were plentiful and playmates abundant t…
For a "non IM versus email" suggestion, it would be nice when looking at Who's Online or search results if one could see if those members found had a hot date posted as well. Better if there was a link to their Hot Date posting. That way,…
@Sorillo, Which phone app did you download and install? I haven't seen an app for this site on the Apple App Store yet. nnvacouple
Don't expect SLS to listen. I submitted a "Support" request for the email system and it was closed with no response. Then, I tried to change our profile to suggest people email us on other systems and our profile was suspended until I dele…
@softtaild7 The APG hot dates system isn't as good as the one here but they do have one. You select the date and describe what you are doing. The problem with APG is geographic. Their membership base is centered in the Washington, DC - Bal…
I submitted a Support Ticket asking for the return of the email system and it was closed without comment. Really, really terrible customer service SLS. You've sunk to new lows.
I would suggest we consider a site like altplayground. They have a functioning mail system. Plus, there are no free or trial members so the people you see are legit.
I want my email system back and I want it NOW!
Well, if you are close to the Washington, DC - Baltimore corridor, you might switch to AltPlayground as an alternative source. We used it when we lived in Bowie, Maryland. It's a good site with an easy to use interface. Best of all, it sti…
The message system should also tell you when and if your message has been read/opened by the recipient. Otherwise, you don't know if they just missed it or have actually read it. In truth, that was one thing I hated about the mail system w…
Describing your situation is a good idea. It is always better to tell the truth and it will make it easier for potential playmates to understand why may be difficult to meet. nnvacouple
I just went to review photos and they said there were no photos for review! Perhaps we did them all or they changed the rules. nnvacouple
The little tag at the top of the page is gone but we are still being asked to rate pictures. There's that link on the right side under review profiles and pictures to rate some more. It was interesting to review the pictures. People really…
"Way too logical nnva, it will never happen. ~Scamp I knew there was a flaw in my otherwise brilliant plan!!!!
Just a thought for the site admins on this picture review issue. Would it be easier for the admins to move all existing pictures from the public gallery to the private gallery? Then, as members desire to move a picture to the public galler…
As I read the "cropping" rule, it seems to forbid cropping the picture such that all one sees is the torso of the people and not their faces. You can crop a picture but as long as the faces are visible you're OK. I agree the "straddling an…
First, I'm not trying to be snide or condescending. However, if we say, "What makes this worse is that a person needn’t pay for a membership to run across my default profile photo. In fact, a 15 yo kid (like my nephew) could see this app i…
Some people didn't do the readings. The point of this exercise was explained in the pop-up box when I started reviewing photos. 1. SLS is not "being put on Google" (whatever that means.) It is not being made "open to the public" nor is it…
Could we please go back to the old system where the ability to receive messages was user controlled. I really don't like the message feature and prefer emails. Allowing anyone to send us a message just seems like an invasion of our space.…
There is the new "flyover" feature where instead of the mini-view, you have to click on the picture and get an expanded profile view. Does that count as a profile visit and show up in the other person's feed or is it still a "non-counted f…
