iey - one thing to remember is that when speaking of threesomes the order of the letters matters. MMF and FFM indicate same-sex interaction while MFM and FMF do not. With your profile stating he's straight you'll want to look for gentlemen comfortable with MFM not MMF.
@jey - Welcome to the forum. In time, you will learn going to LS clubs/parties is WAY more productive than trying to meet people online. That will only get even moreso as things get safer Covid-wise. There are a fair number of people that won't attend clubs/parties right now.
As far as rules, that is really between the two of you. Probably the most common one when starting out is "We both play or nobody plays." Not saying this needs to be one of your rules, but it is common.
Then you need to decide what "play" means to you. Is it full or soft swap only for example? Is kissing OK? Are condoms a requirement if you do full swap? Does it need to be same room play or are you OK playing in separate rooms? A big part of your "rules" are just an understanding between the two of you as to what is and isn't acceptable to you.
I always thought the whole "code words" thing was kind of dumb. If something is happening that you don't like/want, the code words "Fucking stop" work just fine ;-)
Without stating the obvious, I am new here! But i am wondering, is it better to meet people in a forum such as this or at a club/event? My husband and I are going to Pandoras on Saturday evening and think it might be better to meet people there. Also, we have been talking about "rules"...like what he would be comfortable with, what's a sign to move along, code words, etc. We've had threesomes before but always FFM, not MMF. Any advice out there? Are there any "rules" to the LS?
Many Thanks!
Looks like you are off to a great start and are applying what you learn. You may want to add in video chatting to vet profiles before setting a date to meet at a restaurant. Also be careful about going straight to a hotel room or home. Generally we think that only women should exercise extra caution. We know single men who have had some pretty horrible experiencses.
From the OP's tagline: To everyone messaging me. I’m sorry I’ve literally gotten 97 messages in 1 week. Hard to keep up.
There's a moral here somewhere.
You’re just upset because someone stole your swingline stapler. It’ll be ok.
BT
Best of luck my friend - a lot of fakes out here. if you get one response I would consider yourself lucky. Most people will never respond. I ha e been told it could days or weeks or even months for people to get back to you cause everyone is just so busy.
You didn't put this in the wrong section. You joined, you're excited, and this section is Getting Started, which is what you're doing.
You also need to spend some quality time reading Better Profiles threads. I read your profile before and after the changes and if you took the standard pieces of advice to heart, it would improve your chances. There's a certain amount of charm in being young and coming off like a puppy (many of us have a soft spot for the young of all species), but your profile could use some focus and polish. So, go read.
There are no worries here. Just don’t be a dick and you can make all of the posting mistakes you want.
...and welcome to the forums.
BT
Thank you all ver much for the replies. I’ve done some editing on my profile and now we wait for it to update! I’m also very sorry if I put this in the wrong section.
Profile tip:
Look at single guy’s profiles.
You will learn a lot about what NOT to do. You will learn why so many couples and single women are frustrated by single guys.
When viewing a profile, tap on the “Go to button”. Select Certs and you will see if that profile has been certified. Find a single guy profile that has a number of certs. That will give an indication that guy has been successful on this site.
Then, notice how that guy’s profile differs from the majority of single guy profiles. Model your profile and behavior after his.
For example, Bridgtender is the guy that posted just previous to this post. Check out his posting history. You’ll see a guy that’s engaged, friendly, and can talk about more than just getting his dick wet. Speaking of dicks, notice how many dick pics he has on his profile.
You will have your own style and personality, of course, so you do you, just try to borrow elements from the profiles of guys who get it right.
Disregard everything I’ve said, if you have a 12 inch dick
Definitely follow Onehorneywife’s advice; Go to the Successful Swinging/Better Profiles Thread and start a new thread seeking a profile review. Kain, If they’re able, you’ll you’ll get a slew of profile advice from your LS brothers and sisters ;-)
Good luck,
BT
You should go to the better profiles section for some advice. Other thing is to at least fix some of the spelling and punctuation in your profile post.
Also if anyone has profile tips I wouldn’t mind them either.
Hello everyone! I am a new member to this site and very excited to reach an meet new people! This is both inside and outside the bedroom. As new as I am to the site I’m also that new the this type of lifestyle. Although I have had multiple experiences I still feel as though I’m fresh. I would love it anyone could point me in the right direction. Help me out and get me comfortable. Like I said I’m not new but still pretty young an inexperienced. Feel free to messaged me.
