If I am meeting someone privately (i.e. not at a party or event) I'll exchange phone numbers for logistical reasons. I have a Google Voice number for this purpose. Someone doesn't get my "real" number until I've met them, and possibly for a while after that.
In all our years doing this, all the people we've met, and all the people we continue having relationships with, only two couples have received our personal cells and contact us that way. When we first started out we gave our cells to a couple that reached out to us here. Unfortunately, they taught us a hard learned lesson to never do that again. It's just not worth it for us.
Aside from those we already knew on the outside before getting involved in this way we have met the children of one couple
The extended family and friends of another couple
Have become facebook friends with a different couple
Have been to the homes of three couples
This is just how things have shaken out for us. Everyone does things and is comfortable with their own way.
This is why we don't bother with this crap. We go to clubs and parties, and meet real people face to face. If we fuck you, and it was good, then real numbers will be exchanged.
We align with the others who have responded: unlike email addresses that can be readily changed, phone numbers tend to stick around and there are sufficient other ways to communicate that we tend to protect our phone numbers until we have gotten to know --and trust--people in person.
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There are some options who want to use voice calling. One is to use a VoIP application such as Google Voice. Another is to invest in a low cost phone exclusively for LS activities. The VoIP applications tend to be low-cost or no-cost in the US, and a separate phone with a minimum voice-and-text plan is also fairly inexpensive, especially compared with the value of privacy.
We do not give out the wifes phone number. If guys want to chat with her or her with them, we use Kik. Been working great that way for over 4 yrs now.
Same here hotluvrs.
It's meant some folks aren't interested in meeting with us because they want to spend time chatting and texting prior to that meet. Oh well.
Nope, we don’t do it.
Lots of couples are comfortable with guys having direct contact with the wife, but we’ve had issues in the past. As a matter of fact, my wife is reluctant to give her number to men, women, or couples. She’s really not into extended social contacts with our lifestyle friends. We
We do not give out her phone number anymore. We did when we first started but it got abused. We had a couple of guys who were unhappy when she didn't want to make it a regular thing. Like spurned boyfriends, they kept reaching out and then got aggressive and nasty.
I prefer to use the SLS message system to chat with someone until I feel comfortable giving out my Google Voice #.
I never give out my regular phone # as it’s too easy to search on - and get my private info (name, address, family member names, etc).
I strongly suggest getting a free Google Voice # to use for regular texting and talking to strangers.
I replied to this in your other thread and if you are both comfortable letting her talk to the SM directly, go for it!
It is always a good idea to use a google # or burner phone to avoid potential stalkers but for some, it adds to the excitement knowing she is getting sexy calls and texts from a guy.
~Scamp
No... we I'M , see if we have some initial chemistry, set up a meet with "Rons" cell, and see if we all connect to what we seek ! Once we do vet them and they are real... didnt lie, etc we give them my cell!
If they get to crazy like why didnt you call or text me, or a pain in ones butt with being needy.. we block the phone number and them on SLS!
we are the same as AandJinNNJ, this way, the man of the couple can weed out some bad apples before the lady has to deal with it.
Do whatever you're comfortable doing. We tend to keep comms, at least initially, between same sex counterparts. Avoids drama.
Is it common to give your wifes number to a select male to become so call connected prior to first meet and greet. Any advise would be appreciated
