1: Don't listen to anything ncal spews.
2: There actually are single females out there interested in finding a single guy to, if anything, play as a couple in the lifestyle. Your best bet is in checking out clubs and local clubs. In my area there's a pretty big interest in singles only events outside of the club. It's hard to get the ball rolling so you might want to get the ball rolling.
MsMolly, it's actually 3 martini glasses, but I won't dispute the balance of your statement; That, like in The Princess Bride, Twoo Wuv trumps all.
Great advice in this thread once you erase Nutcal's moronic post from the whiteboard.
OP, take it easy..take it easy. Don't let the sound of your own lust drive you crazy...
Good luck,
BT
"OP, please don't do this. Aside from the shitty manipulation that needs to die a thousand painful deaths, female persons are already used to having men pay intense attention to them by the time they're 14 and most still manage to never get interested in swinging. tldr: ncal is an unreliable source of information about anything."
OP: your assignment this weekend is to write the above 500, no...1000 times. It's harse, but needed to counteract the ncal effect.
Tramp
Tramp, you have an unbeatable advantage that even trumps BT's two martini glasses: You clearly adore your wife. That is the sexiest, hottest thing in the known universe.
ncal: "That is the key, does she love sex and love to dress sexy and to have you show her off as men all look and drool at her. If she likes doing this then tell her how much you love the envy of the other men and how great she looks. Once you are both having a good time with sex and dressing sexy then slowly bring up swinging and how you would like to have a mfm with her and how hot that would be."
OP, please don't do this. Aside from the shitty manipulation that needs to die a thousand painful deaths, female persons are already used to having men pay intense attention to them by the time they're 14 and most still manage to never get interested in swinging. tldr: ncal is an unreliable source of information about anything.
Also, sidenote, I'm expecting a playmate in about an hour. I'm wearing yoga pants and Uggs. He won't care, except insofar as it's all easy to remove with one hand. So, the whole dressing sexy part is also bullshit.
The problem you have is that you where swingers and then got divorced. A woman is going to think that the divorce happened because you where having sex with other women and your wife did not like it.
Date a woman for a while. See if something is serious there and if she loves sex. That is the key, does she love sex and love to dress sexy and to have you show her off as men all look and drool at her. If she likes doing this then tell her how much you love the envy of the other men and how great she looks.
Once you are both having a good time with sex and dressing sexy then slowly bring up swinging and how you would like to have a mfm with her and how hot that would be.
A woman has to love sex and being sexy, if not they are not going to want to be a swinger.
"Two martini glasses. That part's important."
Alas, my martini glass pic situation seems always half full...sigh.
Tramp
Two martini glasses. That part's important.
Hi Michael. You've been dating the wrong people. Speaking from experience, it helps to be clear even before your first date about the things that matter to you and not wasting your time on someone who isn't intrigued. It's not just vanilla people either. Not all of those who swing are interested in doing so as part of a couple.
That said, there probably are clubs somewhere within driving distance that allow men to attend, at least once in awhile. And parties are your friend. They don't work very well for single women if there aren't also single men, so men are frequently allowed. Look for meet & greets too. They're purely social and a good place to make connections.
Common wisdom says there are so few single women on places like SLS that you have a better chance of being hit by a meteor, but it's not actually true. It helps to have a well written profile, particularly one without red flags, but if you do, you might well find what you're looking for on line.
Every area is different in terms of what sort of LS parties are available to them. In our area there are hotel room parties for women that enjoy the pleasures of multiple men. These are not gang bangs per se but it is not unusual to see a 2 to 1 ratio of guys to girls. We have seen a couple of single guys get together with single girls from these parties to form new couples.
If this type of party doesn't exist in your area, maybe it should. It's not rocket science. They can take a little while to get established, but once they do they draw some nice little crowds. Nothing saying you couldn't start your own party. As a template you can check out the Nooner parties usually held in Andover, Ma. In addition to pleasing the ladies, it provides a service to you and your fellow SMs and taps into a HUGE mostly untapped segment of the lifestyle, single males.
Welcome to the forums, Michael.
Let me be the first to assure you that nothing could be further from the truth.
Being truly single is what actually makes you eligible to SFs who would consider a relationship.
Being like the rank and file is what will block your success.
Some of the most prolific gentlemen philanderers of all times are divorcees. A couple of them will be found right here in these very woods (the forums).
The ride is slow, and it takes more than a profile (I suggest a Martini glass), but it's very, very doable.
Tramp
I have been divorced for 5 years. Before, my ex and myself were active in the lifestyle. The girls that I have been dating, unfortunately, are not accepting of it and don’t want to be a part of it. How does one find a lady that would be? It’s not like I, as a male, can go to clubs and events to find someone who is. They are usually open to only couples and single ladies.
Does anyone have any suggestions, or are a lady that would need a partner?
