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This is one of my biggest pet peeves about this site. Twice this has "almost happened to us. We chatted with two different very nice couples within our age range, and other criteria. The longer we talked, pics got trades, and then the truth comes out.

The first couple obviously had not updated their ages, or their profile and "open gallery" pics in at least years. Needless to say we were very disappointed, and refused to meet with them after their blatant lies. The second couple was pretty much the same scenario.

I am in charge of our profile, I update the text.... and there is a lot of it, quite frequently. As for our pictures, I take down the old ones if they no longer represent us accurately, and add new ones that do. It's not that hard to do. Our ages are updated within the month of our birthdays... again, not that hard to do.

We are not model perfect, and we are getting older too. Our age alone is a big turn off for a lot of people in our area. We are honest though, and do not try to "trick" anyone into meeting us. That's just wrong. ~N

We have been in the lifestyle for a while but just recently joined here. We try to update our profile monthly or as we find new interesting things to add or things that are no longer relevant. At first we did not post our weight for much of the same reasons posted, but feel it was more important to be honest in our posting and its not like you can hide your size when posting current pictures, although I have seen some on here that I am sure were touched up A LOT.

Goodwife, you should do your own post in the Better Profiles section. Those of us who read and offer advise on profiles concentrate there. You're probably going to be lost in the shuffle here.

Can someone critique our profile? We don’t get much action on here unless we are in a chat room. Thanks for the help!

Probably so...

Understood and agreed Tramp.

I won't put words into the OPs mouth but my interpretation of the post is that the pics being referred to are no longer a fair representation of the people. That we seem to agree is an issue.

I'll give another example.

My default profile photo (the one you see now) is at least four years old. I can't remember for certain. But I was in a photo with someone last weekend while wearing that same suit, and I can guarantee you that you could not tell even the slightest difference.

However, at my age, a face photo of me that was three or more years old would undoubtedly be misleading on some level.

Most of us show age I our face more than anything else.

My point with all of that is to focus on having your photos give a fair representation of you. I get what the other poster is saying about old pics, but I'm just saying that there is no one photo age that would apply to all cases.

Can't argue with you Tramp.

That's why I think simply adding the date the photo was uploaded would help. No need to replace the photo and the viewer would have an idea how old it is and could make their own decision.

Talked to a couple at a takeover who told us that no one would msg them if they were honest in their profile. They were convinced that it was better to lie and set up a meeting and being found out to be dishonest. They preferred having the chance of a meeting and then were only emboldened when they would meet a couple who had done the same thing. It doesn't seem like that people will be dishonest when they think it suites them.
What bothers us is the persistence of people with false profile information who quickly accuse us of being fake. Just insert a plea or two in your profile about outdated pics etc.

As long as a photo still represents the person in it well, it shouldn't matter how old it is, IMV.

To say a two year old photo, across the board, is too outdated to be useful is a bit far reaching. A 32 yr old with a two yr old photo likely looks precisely the same, unless something drastic has happened.

However, a person in my age bracket can change quite a lot in 2 or 3 years.

What aggravated me more was the overwhelming amount of photos that are useless even when they were taken. Uggggg. ;^(

We're with you on this. The age thing is easily fixed by simply auto updating the listed ages every year. But the admins probably won't implement that.

Pics are harder but can still be addressed by simply showing the year they were uploaded. Of course, folks could still game the system by deleting and reposting the exact same pic. But that would require the effort they seem to be unwilling to put forth by simply keeping them up to date.

We have been in the LS for just a few years now and I have noticed a trend. Outdated profiles. We have met some great people and had some very good times but it is very frustrating to read a profile and see pictures of people and then find out after you arrange to meet them that they have not updated their photos in 2 years or that they are 8 years older and 30 pounds heavier than they claim. I'm not a shallow person and I'm not judging based on weight or age, but I am judging on honesty. We update our profile about every month or so. We make a point to represent ourselves in a truthful fashion. I know that some people don't update because the are afraid of being blocked for using "outside" or "unapproved" contact information. We got blocked for mentioning another messaging system. But these rules are in place for a reason. What is the reason for not being accurate or truthful on your profile? To find playmates? Trust me. Meeting someone in person who is not represented accurately on their profile is a bigger turn off than someone who has a few years and a few extra pounds on them and is honest about it.