We’re Newbies

We were all newbies at one time and it’s ok to be nervous and apprehensive.
The one thing I would say is communicate, communicate, communicate and then communicate some more.
Sometimes the fantasies we build up in our heads don’t match up when the rubber hits the road. That’s why communicating about all possible scenarios is so important.
The Champagne Room in Ft Wayne, is a club that you may want to check out. Go at the pace of the slowest. Better to have a ‘what if’ moment than an ‘oops’ one.

The Timber House may be a good option for you all in addition to the the clubs in Indi and Anderson. There will also be several hotel parties in Indi coming up over the next couple of months. Good luck.

If you go to the left part of the page and click on Hot Dates - Events for days that you're free, you can see what SLS advertised parties exist in your area.

It's been a while, but you never really forget that "nervous excitement" for your first party. Ours was just a Meet & Greet, meaning there was no on-premise playing. That is actually not a bad place to start.

House parties would be the next step up because they typically offer on-premise rooms to play in. Many will have open rooms where you can actually see people getting naked and playing. The first time we went to a house party the Mrs and I grabbed a room and shut the door and played with each other only. We could hear others around us and I'm sure they could here us. It was pretty hot to us at the time.

It's good to give it time to feel comfortable in a venue and that takes at least a visit or two. In the meantime, you will meet people and the thoughts of what "could" happen will likely supercharge your sex life.

Once you decide you actually want to do something, if the party is listed on SLS you can look at the RSVP list and potentially reach out to other couples. Perhaps it will be ones you already met and talked to in person. It is still exciting to think of the possibilities while you discuss with potential playmates what your hopes and expectations are. It's likely that many will be very welcoming and helpful as we all had to start someplace and it wasn't so long ago for us that we don't remember what starting out was like,

In our area you would only need to go to a social event or house party, the ladies tend to be very welcoming to one another and you should be able to explore and play as much as you like. If people push your limits you simply have to let them know, or decide to broaden your horizons on the fly if your partner agrees. We've never met a guy that doesn't enjoy watching his lady make out with another lady.....

That’s great advice. Thank you

A club should be a decent option for you all then. As a general rule of thumb at most clubs and parties there isn't much pressure to play. You go there to mingle and meet people with the prospect of playing. The biggest thing is that it gets you to where real people are and you can talk to couples and see other normal people doing what you all are considering.

We’ve discussed with each other what we’re ok with and not ok with. We aren’t in any rush to make it happen. We really would if nothing else just like to find a female or couple that we can just hang out with. No pressure to do anything more than just have a good time talking drinking whatever and if more happens great if not that’s ok too. We sometimes can be home bodies so finding someone to get us out of the house away from the kids sometimes would be great.

Find a local club or a hotel party. The internet can be frustrating when attempting to make initial contacts. Find where you can meet real people face to face. You will need to be friendly, forward, and patient. Be sure to communicate well and let people know exactly what you all are looking for.

The biggest thing is to be sure both of you know what your boundaries are. Be sure both of you know who you are looking for and respect one another in this journey. Most likely you all may feel pressured to go in a direction you haven't discussed yet. Don't do it. Make sure both of you are on the same page and make all of your decisions together. It can be a lot of fun but can also be a disaster if you don't walk together through your swinging journey. Good luck.

If you ever decide to try bi, your young enough to enjoy decades of it.....I was around your age when I had my first bi experience, my girlfriend watched and enjoyed, made it easier to explore having a supportive lover...Mary Jo

So we’ve never done this, ever! She has always had an interest in kissing and touching a woman but never pulled the trigger. So we’re looking to make that happen. ???? we just have no idea where to start or get past the first time jitters.