Are clubs newbie friendly?

MILF night not mild night lol

Our anniversary is coming up next month, I said to my wife "you know what we should do for our anniversary?" and without hesitating she said "plan a trip to genesis?" We are always on the same page lol so we've booked our hotel and are going on mild night mother's day weekend, we are super excited

We are facing the same choices. In South Florida, luckily, we have many different choices and each has a different reputation. We are going to try one of them plus there is a hotel takeover which sounds like it could be less pressure

Oh wow that sounds great! The thought of us just going at it on our own to get comfortable never crossed my mind but now the thought is really turning me on. I'll make sure to tell my wife about this next time we go over things. This sounds like the perfect way to start to enjoy the community

At the Memphis club, literally anything goes in the play rooms upstairs as long as it’s between consenting adults who are respectful of the club’s rules and other patrons. Upstairs you can get naked, have sex with your partner only or with others that feel a mutual attraction for you guys. For your first time and depending on your comfort level you may want to simply go upstairs to a smaller room and shut the door/curtain and have sex with each other only. If you enjoy that, wander on down the hallway to the more open rooms and observe what others are doing (it can be anything from oral, soft or a “puppy pile”) and see how you feel about playing in front of others and eventually with another/others.

Downstairs is more for socializing, flirtations, kissing/groping on the dance floor, music, partaking of the snack foods and there used to be a pool table.

S

Thanks I think a club may be our best option for breaking in, we aren't expecting sex right away we are aware this usually takes a while. I think it would help to just play with each other in a public setting at first. So far this site has really helped us we have been talking to some more experienced people in chat that have given us some really great advice I'm really glad we stumbled upon this place

The real difference between newbies and experienced couples is that of comfortability and security.

Be approachable. She should dress as sexy as she is comfortable. He should be dressed nice. No torn jeans, or work boots.

Engage in conversation.

If you get board, and it's allowed, start playing in an open space where there is room for others to join in. This works for us many times when we are at a party where we don't know anyone.

Swingers are just like everyone else. We just have sex with other people.

Thanks for the reply uriah, I sent a mail message. So in the play area is it anything goes like could I go down on her or have sex right there(my wife and I) or are there restrictions on explicit activity? I think it would be a huge turn on for us to do that even if no one joined in

Genesis is only open on Saturday night, Single Males are allowed to pay a higher price and gain entrance to the club. Unless the rules have changed in the past year though Single Males are asked to stay downstairs where the Bar/Dance/socializing areas are....they are now allowed to just roam around upstairs in the play areas unless they are accompanied by a couple or a lady.

There’s a garden variety of people who go there. We know the owners and also can recommend a SM profile of one of our long-time friends who often tends bar there and is well known for his hospitality to newbies and networking abilities.

Email us if you’d like more info.

Shelly

Thanks for that advice that sounds like something we could handle for sure

First of all, the only swinger clubs where everyone has beach bods only exist in the movies. You will find a regular cross section of people at most clubs, younger, older, fit, overweight...just look around any local bar and that is how people will look in the club. Just with fewer clothes on.

As for being newbie friendly, many clubs have nights set aside for newbies, usually a Wednesday or Thursday. Friday’s are typically single male friendly if that is something you would be interested in and Saturdays are usually couples only and the busiest night.

Our advice? Go on a Saturday, get there early (9:30 to 10 is early) and explore the club before it gets busy. If starting a conversation isn’t your forte, at least smile and make eye contact and be receptive to a conversation.

You may also want to post a Hot Date saying you are new and would like to go to the club and see if an experienced couple would mind showing you around.

Finally, don’t have any expectations other than a recon mission. Don’t expect to play or be approached to play, just enjoy the vibe and if the mood suits you, just play with each other. In private or in public, whatever excites you. Then afterwards, talk about what each of you liked and didn’t like and decide together if you want to go back.

Oh and have fun!

~Scamp

Note: genesis Memphis is our closest club

We aren't the club type per se, but from reading up it seems like they are the best chance to have our first encounter. I'm not into dancing but my wife is, I'm not a drinker but she drinks in moderation, and we are just average looking people. We work out but we have 3 kids and have been parents for 13 years so we aren't cut and toned. My main reservation about a club is that everyone there would be beach ready as they say, and way more experienced, and we'd be ignored for having a nervous noob vibe about us. Is it like that in real life or are the people diverse and welcoming?