When do you consider yourself as Bi?

Ron and Kathy, I know who I would put on the top of that list...

Fortunately that’s something I’ve never had to deal with. However, I’m pretty sure that’s why Esperanza is such a miserable bore.

I know the feeling, NnN. I grew up in the PNW. When I finally moved to a place with sun, my mood dramatically improved!

How happy would you be if you lived in an area that was cold 10 months per year? Wake up almost every day to clouds, rain or snow. You look across the breakfast table and see a person that hates their life. If that were my life I’d be pretty miserable too.

Hmm so its funny all these negative people are the ones we have blocked.. maybe they should start a swinging Drama club and sign up.. they can piss and moan to everyone who will listen.. !

Mr & mrs Esperanza definitely has label issues and probably one of the biggest hypocrites on the forums. They demand respect for the LGBTQ community but don't return it. They don't listen to reasoning and to be honest probably just enjoys the shit stirring because they're bitter and disappointed in the website.
I hope they're not like this in real life. They'd kinda suck at being a human being.

Esperanza just has some issues with different labels. Just being technical, nit picky, and splitting hairs is all.

Esperanza911, your post was good up to the last sentence- where you got unnecessarily rude. Informing people is one thing, chastising them is another.

Do you EVER hear anybody call themselves "gay curious" or "lesbian curious"??? Did you call yourself straight curious or heterocurious before you had done something with someone of the opposite gender?? It's one thing to be unsure about sexual orientation, in which case, that's exactly what you say.

My wife is bisexual. She's not straight with me and bi with women. She is bisexual.

How about taking the time to learn about the LBGTQ+ community?

Neither relationships nor sexual activities are "straight" or "bisexual" or "gay". PEOPLE are. PEOPLE have sexual orientations based on to whom they are sexually and/or romantically attracted. If you are attracted to your own gender as well as other genders, you are bisexual, whether or not you have actually acted upon that.

For a lifestyle that's all about being open, it's beyond depressing to constantly find people who don't even have a basic understanding of gender and sexual orientation.

I never quite followed your point other than you think the term bi-curious is wrong .

And the personal attacks come out, further demonstrating my point. Bravo.

...speaking of great names for rock bands... The Exasperanzas seems like it would be a good one. Just saying...

BT

Why can’t I get Billy Joel’s Angry Young Man out of my head??

I don't understand the modern fad of creating an obscure and narrow new term for some offense, when it can easily be covered by the tried and true term "being an asshole".

Then again, I shouldn't bother responding to seagull posts.

KUDOS.. MAG we blocked him a long time ago because of his hatred.. amazing! How funny worked with guys and gals who were BI there entire life.. we talked frequently and they never ever had issues in the real workplace of our GVT entity and were paid top money in their field.. why.. it was their great dedication to work !

We can only imagine what he stated again.. !

Wow. Quite ascended. Much social justice, very cool!

You only get to label and judge yoirself, esperanza. Most people have stated before, if there were more options to choose from, we wouldn't use "bi-curious" get over yourself. If you haven't noticed, few care about this bi-erasure thing because it doesn't exist in the lifestyle. It's simply an sls narrow feature. In real life, i don't identify as bi-curious or bi-sexual. Many people's self-label just isn't an option here.

If you want to stay mad, you're wasting your time and effort on the wrong people and you haven't changed anyone's opinion on the matter. I get the struggle bi-sexuals face in the lgBtq community, go bitch at them. Ironic that B is in the middle.

This entire thread is oooozing with biphobia and bi-erasure. Congratulations. Great job.

It could be. I don’t really know; My obsession is with the Rock Band Thread.

BT

Is one of the band names "Animotion"? Because some people have an OBSESSION with this subject!

If you saw me out and about would you assume I was bi? Mary Jo

Contrary to my reputation here, I have a big heart. I mean, I even “feel” for most of my adversaries here. (Most of them anyway)

But...

Here is the thing. People have an unparalleled ability to rationalize anything they want. Here is the bottom line guys:

If you want to play with another guy (on any level), or if you are willing to play with another guy (on any level), then you ARE Bi in the mind of most people...in or out of this lifestyle.

Come up with all of the provisions you want; deflect, rationalize, define, redefine, whatever; it changes nothing.

Now...

I understand completely. In this arena (and elsewhere as well) there is a negative stigma attached to male bi/homosexuality that doesn’t apply to females. and I completely understand why no male wanting sex with females would want to take on that handicap.

However....

Consider this also. No Black,, Indian, Hispanic, Female American gained any level of advancement by claiming to be otherwise.

It’s a hard thing to take one for the team. It’s a hard thing to sacrifice your own personal gain (as it takes generations some times for change) by just being who you are. However, chance never occurs by you being someone you’re not.

Tramp

Be serious?... your expectations are much too high ;-)

...sure...but proceed with caution...

BT

Can I be serious here for a moment guys?

Tramp

Tramp,

You’re giving me much too much credit. I’m generally witless and as for being cerebral, err on the side of using the opposite end of the spectrum more often than not.

I’m nobody. Who are you? Are you Nobody too?...

It’s all good, my friend.

BT