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As I understand it, in theory, HIV can be transmitted during oral sex although there have been no documented cases. That said, there are other STDs that can be transmitted during oral sex including herpes, chlamydia, syphilis, and gonorrhe…
As I understand it, in theory, HIV can be transmitted during oral sex although there have been no documented cases. That said, there are other STDs that can be transmitted during oral sex including herpes, chlamydia, syphilis, and gonorrhe…
Hedo2, more than likely we will do just that. Either visit a club or a lifestyle resort. Contrary to what some may think, I do not believe that we are the culprit at fault and totally to blame for the lack of interest. Our location, the he…
I appreciate all the responses and most make perfect sense. It seems that there are many couples out there that would be ideal for us to meet, but for them living over 1000 miles away. Living in the buckle of the bible belt. the really goo…
We are about to throw in the towel on the lifestyle due to a lack of interest in us. To the point, we are an attractive, fit, well educated couple who like to start off with soft swap and evolve to full swap. The journey to full swap is a…
If all lifestyle enthusiasts had the same view of the lifestyle as Mayhem8, there would be a lot more people involved. They have the unique ability to think of someone other than themselves, and that goes a very long way for those of us wh…
Some people just have all the luck.
Mayhem is right, "enjoy the baby steps along the way...". Problem that we've had is that most people just want to skip the baby steps and do the long jump and land in bed. The baby steps is what really turns my wife on and makes her want t…
I get up to 11 pellets placed in my butt every 5 months or so. I'm pretty active so it uses it up a little quicker. It definitely make a difference in the gym and my overall energy level, but as far as sex, well, it does help with the libi…
I think that you're already very close to answering your own question. The LS is dominated by those in their 20s to 50s, leaving the opportunities far and apart for those of us 60+. Not saying that it can't happen, but let's face it, we're…
When I fantasize about wife with another guy, yes indeed, size is a factor. To her though, I think small would matter but 6-7 would satisfy her completely. AT least that what she tells me.
Well said Knip. That's exactly how we are and unfortunately I keep running into the dive in, head first, sewing machine type of guys who use the LS as a means to satisfy their personal sex addictions and simply cannot fathom anything less…
Ron and Jenn, there is some truth to what you are complaining about, but I wouldn't go so far as to place everyone on this site in that category. I have experienced quite a bit of frustration as well, and I have personally witnessed the ba…
Don't read too much into profiles on this site. People have a tendency to say what they think you want to hear rather than the truth. They also post pictures that are more than a decade old. They lie about their ages and their weight, and…
I think the SLS site has become more of a social networking site than a site to actually hook up. I'm not saying that it doesn't happen, and I'm sure that it does, but not as often as one might think. My take is that the real meeting for t…
My opinion is that when the SLS site basically eliminated the free members, most of the people that remained were the more experienced couples and they seem to almost always look for full swap only. To each his own of course, but soft swap…
GGMM - I appreciate your advice and it is well taken. I fully understand the need for a pic of him, however there are too many people in our city who know both his face and physique. He was a competitive bodybuilder and power lifter in his…
Not baling out just yet. Still have a few weeks on the paid membership. We'll see what happens in the interim. I've extended about as far as I can so if nothing happens I can live with it.
First, I thank everyone who took the time to respond to my post and offer their advice. It was all good, well taken, and appreciated. That said, I'm sorry to say that we are about ready to throw in the towel. I have modified the profile a…
I really appreciate the good advice. I have opened my profile up to single ladies so that they may offer their advice as well. Fact is that we are pretty much newbies and due to our occupations we have to be very careful about any pictures…
Good to hear some of the problems with LS newbees. I had the same problem with our first, and only, full swap play. I was so nervous that my heart rate had to be well over 100. The Mrs. had a good time on her end while I was in max panic m…
We have very little experience and would like to generate some interest though our profile. It's been suggested, more than once, for me to post in this forum and solicit some advice/comments from the more experienced people. I admit that m…
I can fully understand your rant as I am having some problems myself generating any interest but at least part of your problem may be due to you wearing your frustration on your shoulder. I've updated my profile a dozen times in the past 2…
Soft swap is pretty much anything goes short of intercourse with the other couple, however. to avoid those unwanted awkward moments better to talk about it first. My experience on this site has been that soft swap is pretty much a show sto…
Getting started in the LS is not an easy thing to do. The majority of couples are full swing only, regardless of what their profile says, and the female is commonly bi or bi-curious. If you're a straight couple that is not quite ready yet…
As I have found to be the usual case, there are some very good points raised in these responses and I appreciate them all. Sadly, I am close to accepting the near obvious fact that although we would like to play in the SLS sandbox, it's li…
I have to somewhat agree. Drawing any serious attention is not all that easy on this site. We met one very nice couple and probably swapped before we were really ready. We wanted to hook up again and take it a little slower, maybe meet a t…
My wife and I found out that one of her old boyfriends was now a licensed masseuse. We talked about it and agreed that she would set one up and just see what happened. Well, it happened. He was doing the massage and kept getting closer and…
I must say, my post has received some really good and helpful comments and suggestions. I guess we maybe trying to step into the SLS like it's a minefield ready to blow up at any time. We both want to do it but at the same time we feel nai…
For those of you who believe that our profile could use some "fine tuning", I would probably agree with you. I know that my writing style tends to be less than inviting. I am a lawyer and I really don't know any other way to write and yes,…
Thanks, that's probably about the best advise that anyone could offer. Sad thing is that most everyone is full swing and really have no interest in anything else. We would like to move on into full swing but no one wants to play 2-3 times…
I have joined this site off and on for over 10 years. When I first joined there were numerous couples that eased into full swap by starting off with soft swap, and then after a few times, if everyone agreed, they moved to full swap. Now it…
No still means no, and it doesn't have to be taken offensively. There are a multitude of reasons why a couple may not want to play, so you just can't take it personally. If their ego is that sensitive they may be playing in the wrong sandb…
I have little experience in the LS but my interpretation of "swinging" is whatever you want it to be. My wife and I are a soft swing couple but hope to evolve into full swap. Soft swap for us is a good place to start and to shake off those…
My wife and I are relatively new to the LS (two encounters), and one of the couples had watch/soft/full on their profile. Being naive I guess we assumed that this couple were open to all levels of play. Come to find out, after an awkward m…
I think any game or activity that results in the shedding of clothes is going to be a good ice breaker. I personally hate the awkward moments. You could even have a house rule that everyone has to shed one item of clothing every 20 minutes…
My wife and I are new to this as well and I am having those same back and forth thoughts. I have watched her with another guy a few times (same guy) and it was a great turn on. I still get excited thinking about it. I would like to expand…
Although it seems that "soft swap" is a dying sport, my understanding is that anything goes except intercourse with the other couple. Really pretty simple. Just take profiles with a cautious eye. "Watch/Soft/Full" usually does not mean tha…
