Couples rules

We don't own a king bed so we solved the problem with couples who like the same room by having two queen beds in the master bedroom. When the vanillas ask, "I kick too much during sleep" is our standard answer.

“ If you have a guy shaking the bed violently as he fucks someone”

@Moe: Haha! That happened to us! It was a major chore to be in a 69 with this food’s wife and stay on the bed. WTF!

We play separate rooms upon request, mainly in homes and I specifically remember every time we played with a specific couple, the female half questioning the missus’ loudness, I could only refer to the walls banging loudly too. She never asked Mrs. 888, yet I could see jealousy brewing over her male half fucking like a beast every time we got together, as she liked slow and sensual.

~Allen

If you kids can't play quietly in the house, you'll have to go outside.

@moekathy

Your "distraction" comment reminded me of a couple my ex and I used play with. At the time, she and I preferred same room because it turned us on to see the other having sex with someone else. Before the first time we played with them, he warned us that he makes alot of noise when he's having sex and she said "yeah, he sounds like a horse." Sure enough, we're swapped in the same bed and he's over there literally whinnying LOUD like a horse. His wife and I were having sex and had to stop as we looked at each other suppressing our giggles. Next time, we went to separate rooms in their house and we could STILL hear him whinnying!

I agree with the distraction point. If you have a guy shaking the bed violently as he fucks someone, while yelling at her and calling her names, instead of focusing on your partner, all you could think of is how to keep the filings in your teeth from falling out,. It is time to grab your partner and go to another room. This is exactly the event that got us started with it, and we loved it ever since.

Just this past Sat we we at a friend's. They had porn on and it was OK, but wasn't doing anything for me.

Then the Mrs and male friend started groping and soon the Mrs was naked from the waist down and her sweater pulled up exposing her breasts and was getting them licked and her pussy fingered. THAT got me hard, where the porn didn't.

I LOVE seeing and hearing her have fun, but again, everyone is different.

At that point me and his girlfriend got our own room, but even just hearing her happy sounds really does it for me.

Their logic was that they were too distracted by seeing each other to be able to focus and perform.

This is exactly where I am. Now Mrs. Outdoor isn't bothered to much by it. I can't concentrate at all. Listening to her moaning and howling like a lost calf just distracts the hell out of me.

Probably depends on what the definition of "is" is ;-)

Moekathy,

As it pertains to confirmation or denial of said event occurring, I can't speak to its occurrence or non-occurence. There are known unknowns. and unknown unknowns, etc, and so forth.

We were kind of typical in that we worked up to seperate room play over time. We have encountered at least one couple that said they were working up to same room play.

Their logic was that they were too distracted by seeing each other to be able to focus and perform. Made sense actually. We just happened to really get off seeing/hearing each other playing, so it added to the experience rather than detracting from it, but everyone is different.

I think that some of these rules (kissing, same room, cuddling) are based on some insecurites. We felt them too at various points in our LS journey, but realized that it was worry for nothing that was actually limiting our fun. After 36+ years of marriage, neither of us is the least bit worried that our fun is going to hurt our relationship. If anything, it has only added to it and allowed us both to enjoy some really beautiful people, inside and out.

Over? so you neither confirm nor deny, as we say here in DC, right?

Separate rooms can definitely add an erotic element. If you wanted to get real creative, and one of your partners is a fair amount younger (or even if not) you could roleplay a sleeping with the baby sitter, girl from the neighborhood, or pool boy scenario... This may or may not have happened organically to me before

I am surprised at the number of couples who say no separate rooms. They are missing out on a very erotic scenario. We threw rules out of the window long ago.

My theory is some couples like same room because they worry about their partner being too intimate with the other, implying there is a level of intimacy reserved only for their spouses. There is also the bi factor which is understandable. On the other hands, we also met couples who insist on separate rooms because they do not want to see their partners fuck some else.

Kathy always says: "One day I like chocolate ice cream, the next day I want vanilla." So just try all flavors, and you might like some new ones.

No Conehead Sensor Rings!

That's where we draw the line.

Had a couple once that "no cuddling" was one of their many rules.

I thought. What the fuck is that? I didn't ask.

"If one of their rules is separate rooms, they need to bring 2 copies. "

Two HWP and DTF copies lol.

@Rabbit

I am disappointed.

You lowered your demands. Didn't it use to be that the separate rooms one had to be notarized?

“ Britney always says that her only rule is that there are no rules.”

No safe word for Britney!

~Allen

Britney always says that her only rule is that there are no rules.

This is why we state in our profile that couples’ with a lot of rules must bring a large print, laminated copy of said rules for quick and easy reference.

If one of their rules is separate rooms, they need to bring 2 copies.

~rabbit~

Can’t say that we ever head out with a be all to end all set of rules, however, if we did and a single male broke a couple he considered “minor”, there wouldn’t be a next time.

As a single swinging guy, I always respect the rules established by the couples. I sometimes forget a few minor ones, but if everyone gets satisfied and has fun then the rules next time we meet tend to be more relaxed. This one couple I met recently, they said no kissing, anal play and wear condoms upon penetration. However, after we met the second time they pretty much said everything is okay except piss and scat. We all were much more relaxed and had a cumtastic time.

Rules are reasons to not have sex. Our rules evolved and have been the same for nearly 20 years. Our rules are simple: No pee, no poop, no pain.

We can and sometimes do play solo. My wife has been known to go and visit a few of her single male friends and fuck. I have been known to visit some single female and even married females that we know solo. We were going to a house party 250 miles away. The day before she started to feel sick and got in touch with the host couple and suggested just sending me there for the weekend. The hosts were Ok with it and off I went. My wife went on a trip to the East Coast and for 4 days and 3 nights. She had a different guy every night.

Our solo play has one rule. We have to let each other know after the fact. Yes, after the fact, not before the fact. The reason is that plans change so much that half the time they get canceled anyway. One thing that we have done is kinda funny. Somehow we send each other a picture of a cum filled pussy. That lets us know what has happened :)

When we are at parties, we seriously prefer separate rooms and DEFINITELY separate beds if it has to be in the same room,. The reason for separate rooms was a lesson taught us over 20 years ago. It was from a German woman and in her strong German accent, "How can you focus on your lover if you are staring at your spouse?" That epiphany was huge. It suddenly made the sex much better. As far as to separate beds, my wife is 73.5" tall. She is not a dead fish. When we shared beds, I would get kicked, punched, etc. It made having sex with another woman difficult. So for my own safety, the safety of the other woman, and out of courtesy, it will always be separate beds.

Now, what rules that couples have that stops us? A LOT. No kissing, see ya. Same bed, see ya. Same room, possible. Girl/Girl, see ya. Condoms, see ya. Have to interview us first, then re-meet again, more than likely, see ya. Into the cuckold thing, see ya. Into pain/humiliation, etc., see ya.

Just like everything in life, finding people that have similar rulesets makes things so much better. Because of that belief, on our profile, we are explicit. We realize it will exclude some and that's fine. We are not trying to be the desire of everyone.

LOL @ Welov and rabbit. :)

WeLuv- well, virgins are the sacrificial preference, but the lifestyle being what it is....

~rabbit~