My wife is the same way. She loves to have one massive orgasm that builds up over time. Normally she is done but at a party she loves sex so much she will keep on fucking away just because it feels good. Once in a while she will have a second orgasm.
After about four hours she is done and finds a corner to crash in until the party is over. Been a while since we have been to a party like that.
So, if a man has had surgery and cannot cum, but still loves to fuck, is he not having a good time? I know when he is fucking me It sure seems like he is.
we had a get together a while back. We get going and the woman states "I am one and done" never heard that before but I do love to go down on a woman...so I do and she orgasms in about 3-4 minutes. Then she just really laid there for the rest of the time. We could have had fun after that but that phrase really did mean, she was one and then done for the night!
I have a LS friend that can't orgasm due to the side effect of a surgery. She is still fun and although it's different this does not get in the way of a great time.
IN ACCORDANCE WITH THE PROPHECY
It was around 2006 when SLS started advertising private parties on their site. At that time swinging died because the people that where holding the parties saw a way to make $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ of promising single men NSA sex.
The couples got so pissed off that many quit swinging and the new couples got so disgusted by all the single men just wanting to jump their wives that they never got started as swingers. Jacks houseboat parties was the last of the private couples only parties. At the end around 2012 he could only get ten couples at the most to a private party. It was still a good orgy but it was the same people all the time.
ShePlays, I'd bet large that ncal is carving about 16 years off his age.
But, yes, at parties and clubs I went to starting in 2002, there were abundant single men. They were welcome, their presence wasn't heavily monetized, and if they wanted to continue attending those parties and clubs, they hewed to a strict code of behavior.
So, the whole 2006 thing is just wrong.
Those guys where not part of the private swingers groups, which only because commercial after SLS started adverting parties. As far as where they single guys where, every bar in the world was full of them
NCal … "She plays its not about how long a man stays hard its all about you being the goddess and the man making sex all about your pleasure just the way you like it. This is what swinging was all about until 2006 when single men got involved. The men that have been swingers for years before that all acquired the sexual skills to make the sex all about the woman and her pleasure and her orgasms"
I honestly cannot begin to imagine where you come up with this silly BS … SERIOUSLY? "Single men got involved in swinging in 2006" Tell me, who were those guys banging my brains out before 2006?
I'm not quite frank about my age … it is a woman's prerogative. I'm actually a couple of years older than you are NCal … I REALLY do not have any patience for any man telling me what's good for me. I am pretty sure I know what I want in men.
weluvswinging69: if you believe that I have a Nigerian Microsoft support specialist waiting on hold for you : ) I have ridden Harleys most of my adult life. Mostly on the back of my husbands bike and a lot on my own bike and my clit works just fine.
Nope in accordance to the demand of the private swinger groups
Who is NCal? Oh we forgot we blocked them because reading their posts was like trying to read a shit smear on a subway bathroom wall.
Had a similar situation with a woman a long time ago, she was in her late 40's and I was in my early 30's and she said because she rides Harleys all the time her clit had become desensitized to vibrations and couldn't cum...damn if I didn't give it the old college try for about 3 or 4 hours before my tongue, cock, and fingers tapped out!
IN ACCORDANCE WITH THE PROPHECY
She plays its not about how long a man stays hard its all about you being the goddess and the man making sex all about your pleasure just the way you like it.
This is what swinging was all about until 2006 when single men got involved. The men that have been swingers for years before that all acquired the sexual skills to make the sex all about the woman and her pleasure and her orgasms.
No man did rough sex or pussy pounding sex
I think this is actually much simpler than one would think, reading through all the responses thus far.
If she wants to be with you again, she enjoyed you … that should be enough assuming that you enjoyed her too. If she doesn't reach orgasm, so what … and don't let the knuckleheads that bless these forums tell you all they don't know about women, their bodies and their emotions.
Read my profile, I'm all about recreational sport sex with guys I find hot. While some guys (especially certain guys) want to preach, proselytize and pontificate, let me tell you with absolute authority how things are with ME … and I AM the TOTAL EXPERT on ME.
I hook up with guys because I find them physically attractive … I have a husband, he's my social world, so I'm really not interested in anything but the physical.
In the bedroom, I want a guy to be respectful … hit me, bite me or call me ugly names and this Norwegian Viking woman will punch you right dead in your face. I'm not there for abuse.
I want a guy to enjoy me, but I do NOT go for the guys who brag up their stamina. This is sport sex, not a marathon and I'd rather have four guys for 20 minutes than one guy who goes on and on for hours. Do I get off … sometimes I do have an orgasm, but just occasionally and if I've not had an orgasm within 20 minutes, it isn't going to happen.
I always totally get off on the thrill of it, it's not the same as an orgasm, but it rocks my world just the same.
It's totally simple … If you made her happy, sometimes that's all there is and if it's enough for her, it IS ENOUGH… if you enjoyed her, do NOT let your macho self-expectations and ego get in the way of a good time.
IN ACCORDANCE WITH THE PROPHECY
Good damn man why did you ok certs that say you are a complete idiot and lousy in bed?
"I am a complete idiot and bull shitter my certs say so."
Step 1 complete. Just 11 more to go.
fishincouple that's fine, your response is the first honest response. What you say is fine. I come from a world when swinging was all about the goddess and that men acquiring the skill to please the goddess. There where men that has could melt the clothing off a woman's body just with their words yet where terrible in bed. I tried to do that but all the women did was laugh. Its all in fun and for the pleasure of the woman. The skills I learned was all about touch and a woman's pleasure. The group Bay City Socials who owned the Edgewater Hotel required that men treat women as goddesses or you would not be allowed in the group...great group, on of the all time best.
Having skills sexually or of any kind in America is as obsolete as a record player. There are still a few around but not many are used.
But my god do I have fun making women cum!!!!!
"Sometimes a little sensitivity, feeling and letting the partner guide you along goes a long way to insuring a nice time."
Says a man who really does know women.
I'm sure your partners appreciate that approach.
Then you have the know it all king stool pigeon who not only adds nothing of use to any of the board’s content but also clumsily believes he has everyone figured out and a god given right to announce it; yet only colorfully describes them in his own visions and is just as big, if not bigger of an idiot than those he describes.
~Allen
Wow. I am shocked. Ncal is obviously a technical guru. Fortunately for me, I'm not into technically stuff. I simply want to go with the flow and allow things to happen. THIS IS NOT A CONTEST. My point was that this was a supprise. We worked it out and we both had a nice time. I just had to get my head around her needs, which was different for me. However, I let her guide me and let things happens naturally. Not totally what I envisioned, but we ended up having a nice time.
NCAL... I do not feel that being technically proficiant is nessecarrly the right thing in every situation. Sometimes a little sensitivity, feeling and letting the partner guide you along goes a long way to insuring a nice time.
123 and AandJ,
There are a few posters who have "figured it all out", dispensing advice and opinion as if it were fact. Nutcal is definitely the most proficient. The others will often argue a point with little or no supporting evidence, and when they realize no one is buying their BS and they're beginning to look like an idiot, they close with a mic drop/end of discussion/unsubscribe post.
In Nutcal's case, it took me quite a while, but I finally began to heed the words of wisdom below:
"Never play chess with a pigeon.
The pigeon just knocks all the pieces over.
Then shits all over the board.
Then struts around like it won.”
It's lonely and attention starved. So, better to ignore or block it. Either option will likely one day cause the tumor to shrink.
BT
Or maybe it's a minor waste of oxygen and a major supplier of hot, fetid air?
