Age differences

It's exactly why my husband and i play separately more often than not! its so rare to find a compatible couple!

[quote=EdandBritney]I never understood why people say that age is just a number .... when it is clearly a word[/quote]Lol 100% agree

I was reminded of this topic because I ran across a couple where the guy is 59 and the girl is 19. This is probably the most extreme I have seen. The profile listed them as a May - Dec couple, but was thinking this is more of a Mar - Dec couple.

The Mrs has a rule of "nobody younger than our kids", however we now have a 40 year old kid. Needless to say she has broken that rule a few times in the heat of the moment. Younger guys in general seem drawn to older woman and she has been propositioned by 20 somethings that want to play with her.

In the case of the couple I mentioned, she'd have no problem with a 59 year old guy. I always assume that a girl that much younger would have no interest in a guy my age, but I'm less bothered by age than the Mrs. I have played with 20-somethings in the past and we both had a great time.

On the opposite end of the spectrum we have played with 80-somethings and also had a great time. Age IS more than just a number, but for us, it alone is not a reason to say No.

Clearly, unfortunately, that is not how a large portion of swingers interpret taking one for the team. Thus my issue with it.

I think they parked his Rascal by the pool. They were were doing the senior citizen toe bounce toward us after descending into the water. They were actually a pleasant couple to talk to and easily the kinkiest 80 something’s we had met. M asked them what their profile name was remarking he hadn’t seen that they signed up for the party. “ If remember correctly, doesn’t that list you all as mid 50’s?”
“Oh honey, everybody does that! How else would we meet anybody.”

We just found it pretty comical and then he decided to make his play. He tried to bounce in close. He pointed down toward his drawstring. “ I know ladies like you enjoy looong sessions and mine stopped working ages back. I also have to watch my heart too. That’s why I had them put it in.” When he said this his mrs.’ eyes got big and she was nodding her head. “All I’ve got to do is push the button and up it goes like a rocket! I can lay down and take a nap and you can play with it for hours!” Her hands were on his shoulders and they leaned in eager for a response. It was about this time that the pressing desire to get ready for the party overcame me.

irishrose22 - Yes, there is that. Some couples will only play as a couple. While rarer, we've seen it go both ways where a couple will only play 1 on 1 and not usually together.

One time that I can remember seeing this was specifically due to age preference. Their Mrs only played with guys way younger than her and the hubby preferred women closer to his own age. My Mrs played with him a couple times and I just found someone else to play with. They had fun, and the key thing is my Mrs had fun.

If something like this does happen, there are usually plenty of other people for the Mrs or I to play with at a party.

Irish I was going to say the same thing. For couples like us that don't play separately it doesn't work. Hence the entire reason for the take on for the team agreement

" the option exists for either of us to play with the one we like and the other to play with someone else. "

That works fine if the people in the other couple are ok with it too...not all usually are.

Re: taking one for the team

Again, this is where parties rock. If one half of a couple is not to either of our liking for any reason, the option exists for either of us to play with the one we like and the other to play with someone else. We always attend parties as a couple, but we do not have to play as a couple. This lets both of us have the maximum fun.

Though the Mrs has played with some younger guys, her typical minimum age preference is mid to upper 30s and her ideal tends to be 50+. I have less of a problem with age than the Mrs. It's really more about maturity level for both of us though, which can be independant of age.

How we look at "taking one for the team" is that if I'm really into the woman and she's not into the guy or vice versa then that couple is out. We would never have sex with a couple if both of us weren't into both of them.

To answer the OP question, age gaps are out for us if the woman is younger. I'm not into younger girls and neither is my wife.

Never have we nor would we ever meet without seeing face pictures prior.

It was very early in our swinger lifestyle meets. We learned quickly

NEVER will we do this.. even some with photos when we meet lie and or used other peoples photos!

Its a swing site and our journey begins with a great profile.. and nice photos with smiles. That tells us a lot!

Yes have done it 2x
Never again

I agree, we've met people after agreeing to meet before we saw pictures. Never again will we do that.

I cannot fathom how anybody can say with their whole chest that it's okay to use a person to get another person into bed. If you don't see the SA in that, you're part of the problem.

I never understood why people say that age is just a number .... when it is clearly a word

I absolutely can and will judge people who "take one for the team" because the other person is literally being USED. And the only way that is acceptable is if they CONSENT to being used like that.

thn - "She could easily pull 28 year old dudes..."

My Mrs is 10 years older than yours and she can STILL do this. It seems there are a lot more guys looking to play with mature women than the other way around. Plus, lots of guys are just horn dogs, which makes age less important to them than it seems to for younger ladies.

Yep ~ it can be a challenge. I'm 11 years older than my wife. So when she was 34, I was 45. She could easily pull 28 year old dudes but their 25 year old wives were less than motivated to hook up with.. the elder wand; usually. What worked best for us were hotel parties- themed ones with big crowds. There you could connect with two, three, or four couples where the mixing and matching is a lot more workable. What we have noticed though, the older we get, the less age seems to matter to the people we meet. Good luck :)

We also have been having more luck at clubs. At least the people are real.

We have seen some comical underestimations over the years. It is why we prefer meeting new people at an event or club. We can have other options if Funcouple321 is a few shades north of being as spry and as chipper as they once were.

Hehe....underestimating.

That's a lot of fucking around.

As a comment on the last few posts..... We really don't care who other people want to fuck, why they want to fuck them or how much they like or don't like fucking them. We will fuck whoever we want to fuck as long as we want to fuck them and they have no problem fucking with us.