I've heard that if you stare directly into the ellipse you can damage your eyes.
Not sure how true that is but then my eyes have been damaged over time through serial self help so I'll never no for certain.
If you look very, very carefully, there is an ellipsis at the end. ;-)
Where's the punctuation??
This is a very interesting question to me in fact I was going to make a topic of this question but thought that I would look as of right now I am a single woman soon to become a couple I have been in the lifestyle over 30 years and did start by the old school ways and what I mean by this is I was taught by a couple that were swingers in the early 60s they still are on the site and they're in their late mid 80s and to this day I know them both and love them very dearly I also feel that the lifestyle has changed and becoming personal with someone it's not what I'm after or when I become a couple it's not what we're after although I have known many people for many years I would not trade that for nothing in the world however lately I've noticed that there is jealousy between couples and the husband trying to get the wife to be bisexual when she is neither bi-curious or bisexual this is happened to me quite a few times and not to mention getting calls by the husband without the wife not knowing and of course this has happened to me too many times to mention as far as I'm concerned right now I am not going to become personal with anyone except for the people that I've known...
18 or 25 on the Macallan?
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If you wipe down the upholstery with Glenlivet after, your warranty remains intact.
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True story...Read it on the interwebs
I’m told having sex in a new car will void the Scotchguard warranty...
We just got a new car, might have to break it in. Ha
I feel your “keeps me young at heart line” ha. We have not had any on going people yet. That seems like it would be much better to me. Honestly if someone relaxed me in 5 min I’d be in the bedroom in 6 min. That just seems easier said than done.
I need to talk to people and something click so that I can relax and my personality come out. I don’t know if that would be considered chemistry. It’s nothing sexual, it’s how I am with everyone I meet. I basically need a level of comfortableness so that I can come out of my shell and get dirty easily. Ha. It’s not emotional toward them or anything. It’s much more about me than the guy. My hubby could have us in a threesome in 5 min but in the long run he wants whatever gets me acting bubbly. I really wish I could bypass my brain. Ha.
There's nothing wrong with either approach to the lifestyle, there's something here for everyone but the common thread is you have to be on the same page with whomever you're sharing yourself with. For us... getting kinky with friends is more fun BECAUSE they are friends vice IN SPITE OF. With the right folks we're willing to go wherever things may lead, but mutual trust and respect are what allow us to have a safe, secure environment where everyone can let go of their inhibitions. Just our $.02...
Just had to say this in another thread. This is Andrew, even though you're looking at Robin's tits.
We've been swinging for almost 14 years now. In the beginning, we were like the OP. When you do that, and are successful at it, you meet a lot of people. Some of those people are really good people, who you like a lot. Over the years, we had 2 relationships with other couples that were exclusive for months. We also met people who we were regular with for months or years. We weren't looking for that. It just happened. Don't piss away something good if you happen to find it. Even when we had the regulars that weren't exclusive, we still had a lot of random hookups at clubs and parties.
I, Andrew, am pretty much out of it now. Robin still does solo meetings with random people, but I don't anymore. It's been this way for a few months. There are two women who this happened with, that I met as swingers.
I developed real friendships with both of them, while we were fucking as swingers. Then, for different reasons, both became unavailable. One wanted to but couldn't, the other didn't want to fuck, but wanted to be friends still. That situation was 2 years for one of them, 1 1/2 years for the other. During that whole time with both, it wasn't like I was lacking pussy. Robin and I were still swinging with couples. But when they had issues, and one of them had serious psychological issues which she was working on for herself, I was the one who was on the phone or texting. Often daily with both of them, even though I wasn't even getting the pussy, because we were actually real friends. I'm credited with preventing 2 suicide attempts. I was there when they cried about dying family members. I was there to talk them through problems with their children. I was there for every bit of what most swingers would call DRAMA and avoid.
But I'm the fucking King Of Drama, and I can handle it. Through all that, I had no reason to believe that the status would change. One of them even said she was out of swinging forever and there was no chance she would fuck me or anyone else. Didn't matter. I considered her a real friend.
Then, this past March, the status of one of them changed. So I was the first one to get the call. We made a date for a Saturday night. So that was planned. Then the other one called me the Friday prior to that, asked if she could come over to talk. Of course. She decided that night that we were going to start fucking again. She was done with swinging because she hates men who don't care about her using her but she knows I'm a real friend and love her. So we had a threesome with Robin.
Wow. Then I had the date with my other friend the next night, which was also incredible.
After all that drama soaked time, they both fell back in my lap in the same damn weekend.
There's a line in our profile now that says I'm not interested in new encounters with anyone because I have 2 crazy girlfriends who I am happy with. I ended relationships with the women of two couples we were seeing regularly. Those women were not happy about that. I also stopped the random hookups at clubs.
They don't fuck anyone else, and I didn't even ask for that. They don't want to fuck anyone else. So I'm kind of poly now, I guess.
This week, we're going to D.C. for the big July 4th thing. One of the girlfriends is coming with us. The week after that, I'm going kayaking and to Put In Bay for 3 days with the other really crazy girlfriend. Her idea and she is paying for everything. She earns about 4 times as much as I do in a year.
So I totally moved from being like the OP, to this, because I met women who became very very special to me, and it all started because I was going to clubs looking for some swinger pussy.
When you start down this road, you don't know where it will lead.
Sex was always the first priority. If we became friends afterwards, that was a bonus.
This is a swing site, so like most, we're here to play provided there is chemistry/attraction all around. We're fine with first date play. We do like to converse about general topics & get to know playmates a bit as well. We have some playmates that we do vanilla things with at times. All depends on if you have similar outside the lifestyle interests .
@rabbit you are clearly reading way too deep into my words. The OP said he preferred one way. I have my opinion on what works for me, as everyone else did. You asked more questions. I clarified I was only referring to the OP and myself.
At no point did I say I was better, bring up any morals, or look down on anyone’s preferred style. Had you not replied to me, I’d have never said another word.
This life is about people doing what’s good for them. The OP asked why other people want it one way, I’m one of the people he want it that way, I have my perspective. I even stated many times I’ve slept with people without any of that too.
I don’t know what else we arguing here family but be well :)
We are more BWF benefits with friends vs FWB. Meaning yeah we are out to play first and foremost. Yes there has to be physical attraction before we play. But those who also have personally and chemistry are the ones that can develop into a friendship. So fuck first and if a friendship develops great. But the whole idea of all 4 connecting on all levels and going on multiple dates before any play is just too much.
"We have close friends that we play with. We hangout. We go to the lake together. But when we go out to a swing club we can hook up with complete strangers. Doesn't bother us either way."
yes this is us too. either way works for us
Well I'm gonna give my 2 cents worth. We have close friends that we play with. We hangout. We go to the lake together. But when we go out to a swing club we can hook up with complete strangers. Doesn't bother us either way. So I think whatever floats your boat is what you should do.
"Otherwise, I generally prefer to make friends and keep them, sometimes for years. I find that hotter."
It is our experience that the first time you are with someone there is a level of awkwardness and unfamiliarity that detracts. Only through repeated encounters can you learn each other.
I don't think a moral high ground is any part of why I want more connection. I can sport fuck with the best of them and my significant other doesn't even see why I want to know a guy's name first. That can be hot, but only because the person I love is there amping up the experience and giving me what I'm actually more interested in.
Otherwise, I generally prefer to make friends and keep them, sometimes for years. I find that hotter.
I’m with Rabbit & Scamp, Jinx and Minx on this. They have summed it up pretty good. I have found that too many use the whole needing to get to know you thing as if it separates them into some moral high ground. The LS is about sex, at the end of the night all you want to hear is the toll of everyone cumming. No one ever got super turned on by hearing about some ones opinion on their new tires.
We say we need to be friendly first, and that is true 90% of the time.
However, last Saturday at the sex club a tall, fit, handsome guy comes and sits next to my wife, puts his hand on her thigh and says " I'd love to play with you". Moments later we were heading to a private room.
It did not go as one would hope, so he hung out hoping for another prospect. 1am, we're just about to bail when a good looking guy comes in. I give him welcoming eye contact and a chin-bob sup. He looks around the club long enough to see if any one he knows is there... then comes sits next to us and asks if we want to play. Moments later, again heading to a room.
So, there are times we need a connection and other times just a good 3-way fuck.
I guess we're sort of in the flux on this one, we have great FWB's and we always look for new friends whether play is involved or not, but we usually ask to meet on neutral ground to see if there's a connection or see if we all "click", but the brutal truth is that we're meeting to make sure the attraction in person is equal to or greater than the attraction to the photos and profile.
Often times we've perused pics and read profiles and sent messages saying we felt we have common interests only to find that the person we meet isn't the people we perceived from the advertisement. Photos can be old or outright deceptive, profiles can paint a picture that doesn't reflect reality, and the attraction is as much mental as physical with us. If the personality is objectionable it will kill the mood just as quickly as foul body odor. Not exactly the "friends first" rule, but if we can't enjoy a conversation we probably won't enjoy much else. We haven't encountered anyone who have the hotness factor that just blows everything else out of consideration. Tea Leoni or Natalie Zea maybe?
I’m on board with my wonderfully perverted fiancée.
We are here for sex and we enjoy sport fucking. I don’t even need to know someone’s name. We’re sluts and happy to be so.
“I would like to know if she's a complete airhead or a NASA scientist.I would like to know if her husband eats paint or designs bridges.”
For us, as long as her head doesn’t float off and his breath doesn’t smell of paint we’re all in.
~slurry, shallow, rabbit~
You do you travelveteran.
We have made it quite clear in our posts that when we meet people for the first time, we chat to gauge interest and proceed accordingly. We don't need to know what she does for a living or what he does for a hobby, we simply see if there is a connection. Yes? Let's play. No? Nice meeting you.
Why do you feel compelled to keep telling us that you need their life story? We aren't going to change how we approach people, nor are you. Do you think your way is somehow superior? That you are a better person for it? If so, carry on!
~Scamp
