I think any game or activity that results in the shedding of clothes is going to be a good ice breaker. I personally hate the awkward moments. You could even have a house rule that everyone has to shed one item of clothing every 20 minutes. The anticipation will drive you nuts. Then, after all of the clothes are off, turn on the music and slow dance. Bets are that you won't last through the first dance.
True; there is always that initial awkwardness (usually due to "the unknown"), but once we're all alone we kinda know where the evening is headed. So nothing says "let's get the party started" like a well-intentioned kiss!
My husband always says, well we are attracted to you. You guys wanna play? the bedroom is ready LOL
Just a note. "cutting the girls bra off" was a joke.
I always thought it was if guys could suck their own dicks...
I would not be happy if someone cut off my bra. Also, from the perspective of someone who's been unhooking my own and other women's bras since forever, I'm a little judgey about those who can't. However, I usually just undress myself the first time I'm with someone new. Starting things off with an eyeroll isn't a great look. ;-)
mayhem, speaking from a guy's perspective, access to tits is of PARAMOUNT importance. It's like that old joke that if guys had tits, we'd NEVER leave the house. :)
Mine makes it even easier. She wears no bra when we go to play ;-)
You're making me feel like The Fonz...most of the time it's just a snap of the fingers and Ayyyyyy! Breasts!
The Mrs wears shelf bras. It's like saying "Help your-shelf"
Having gone bra shoppong with the Mrs I realize that a good bra can easily be $40-$50 each. Add to that the difficulty in finding one to fit correctly and I can imagine a women being VERY unhappy with cutting one off. Thinking access to her tits would be the least of your worries ;-)
@4real - hahahahahaha!!
~rabbit~
Tried that. When I pulled out the knife, she ran out of the car. Cops arrived before I was dressed ;)
I just offer to buy a new one and cut the damn things off.
I’m damn near 60yrs old, and those things still kick my butt
No to brag but.. I could get those clasps undone with one hand. The ones that always got me were the ones on the front.
Hot, don't retract those words. It's just that some of us had more awkward high school trysts than others.
one pump
two pumps
three pumps
"AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH! Oh my God, LOOK AT THE MESS YOU MADE."
4Real: You're absolutely right on kissing. The Mrs. has a theory (confirmed through rigorous testing) that the man and woman of a couple both kiss the same. If she kisses one and it's a good kiss, then they'll both kiss well. If they kiss well, the sex will be good. If not, it's probably not going to work. She's almost infallible, in fact.
I guess it's like the theory on how people dance: If they dance well, then they'll be good in bed. If they don't, you're not going to have a good time. It's not about their moves, though, it's about how you move together, just like kissing.
As for starting things, for us it always starts with an expression of interest. Just looking someone in the eyes and letting them know I'm interested in a flirty, but colorful way, generally works. I (Mr.) am the more forward one, but the boss always follows my lead. If I start kissing someone and it's received well, she'll follow suit. It generally leads to nakedness. We might suggest going back to our place to hit the hot tub, but otherwise we don't fool with icebreakers unless we're traveling someplace where clothes are required.
“Fumbling about cluelessly, accidentally bumping foreheads, hands shaking, wondering who put the damned padlock on her bra clasps? Oh yes, the joys of high school seduction are sublime. :)”
You know, we often only remember what we want to remember. But yes, you have a good point. My words were ill chosen. If I could, I would withdraw them.
(never could get those bra clasped undone)
"It’s almost like a faint reminder of a high school seduction."
Fumbling about cluelessly, accidentally bumping foreheads, hands shaking, wondering who put the damned padlock on her bra clasps? Oh yes, the joys of high school seduction are sublime. :)
Sometimes, the simplest solution is the obvious one. Start kissing.
Last weekend, we were playing in a group. I was lucky enough to have a fine lady sit on my face while I was fucking someone else. When the play was near complete (changing of partners), we got up, and I asked if I could fuck her. She replied, she wasn't ready. 10 minutes later I met her again while making my wife a drink. The next thing you know her and I were kissing, and now she was ready to fuck.
Kissing can be very erotic!!!
We're not usually big on games, but there was this one somewhat newbie couple where we played strip poker and it worked out well. When someone was naked and lost again, the winners got to tell the loser to do a sexual favor for 2 mins. Of course the game ended very shortly after that as it had served it's purpose.
For LS parties the "pick a time" thing 4_real mentioned has worked for us. The problem with LS parties though is the flow can move you in and out of various situations and it just comes down to timing sometimes.
If we are 2 on 2 with a couple, it is really only that first time when it's potentially awkward. After that, a brush against an arm leads to a nibble on the neck and a boob is grabbed here and there and then....presto...you're naked and playing ;-)
I can count on one hand the number of times we’ve been playing within 1/2 of getting together. Even when we’ve invited guys over for a small, one woman, hotel gangbang, we sat and chatted for a while before getting naked. My wife likes a gentle warm up, before a hard finish. At clubs, we are often the last to leave.
In a perverse way, I think that we both enjoy those moments of awkward indecision. It’s almost like a faint reminder of a high school seduction. Anticipation is awesome.
If someone has the overall solution to the problem I'll be all over it. Never seems to be easy. On rare occasions we've had a couple that seems to click perfectly with us on things but more often than not we spend a half hour trying to figure out how to get things going.
We like the idea of a swing party at Applebees! Kind'a lends new meaning to having a Blondie for dessert... :)
Mr Mrs smith
Well,
It was Apple Bee's
