Husband's, how did you do it?

After we had been dating for about four months we had the talk.. so what else are you into? What are your fantasies? I (husband) said, I want to see you fuck another guy and me at the same time. With one eyebrow up, she looked at me like I was insane and trying to call my bluff, said sure. So I whipped open a web browser to a site like this one, searched on single guys, and said pick a guy with certs. Trying to call my bluff again, she did. Two weeks later, after a bunch of emails, we met the guy at a local restaurant. 90 minutes later we were back at our place.. botta-boom, botta-bing ;-)

We stayed friends with him for maybe three years and got together every once in a while. In the first ten years we only hooked up with an extra guy (all the attention for her) and in that time met only three guys. After that we began to meet couples.. which was a whole different dynamic- getting four people to connect. She seems to like a good house party with extra guys. I really like themed (Halloween, naughty school girl, St. Patricks day) hotel parties with lots of couples because sometimes you can get together with three or four couples for better mixing and matching. So we've done a little of both and met some great people along the way. The last couple of years our getting out has slowed down a bit because of family and professional things but it's still really exciting when it happens.

Support has switched my profile. Sorry for any confusion and thanks everyone.

And maybe change that tagline to "Have fun with ME"

Customer support can change it from a couple to single ... we've had friends do it

freefly69 once again you will have to contact support. I don't think even they can change your existing profile from couple to single. Best thing to do is create another and then see if they will transfer the membership or since you are not a lifetime member wait for the subscription to run out or not and buy a new one on the single male profile. Memberships are fairly cheap in the scheme of things. Of course the picture change is good but you may want to edit the wording to reflect you are now single and not a couple until you figure out the rest.

Got the pic changed now but still don't see how to switch the profile from a couple.

freefly69 I have seen others with similar issues. You will have to contact support. I believe most set up a new single profile and had them transfer membership but I cannot be certain as we have never done this. For now though I would suggest you at least change your pic and profile to reflect you are now a single until you can work it out.

Im trying to figure out how to change the profile now.

I was wondering about that too. He mentioned they separated yet has a couple's profile. This is the exact reason we search the forums for what people may have posted if we have an interest. This "confusion" would earn this profile a hard pass.

You keep mentioning your ex. Are you a couple or a single male?

~rabbit~

We were drinking one night and me knowing she didnt have a tight pussy, i mentioned id like to see her fucked by a BBC. Within a couple hours we found this site and a few others. It lasted a few years before we seperated

I rented a three story house, then subleted rooms, she was one of my tenants. Found we had a lot in common both second oldest, myself from a family of boys her a family of girls.

This is the cart and horse scenario.

Are you looking for a wife?

Are you looking for someone to swing with?

Are you looking for someone super hot?

Now rank them. You can't have all three be number 1. Once you put them in order you can work on finding the right fit.

I have known about swinging since I was 15. I figured I would be involved in it. A previous poster mentioned going for out of his league. I have done that my whole life. I am not butt ugly, but I am not classically good looking. Women do not see me and throw their panties at me. However, pretty much other than my first wife, every girl I went out with were models. How? Dude, it isn't because I have a 6 pack. I have more of a keg :) But I found the gorgeous woman who happened to model. What I found with my current wife was that we were rapidly becoming best friends. We became very good friends and really enjoyed each other's company. After a bit, we wound up becoming an item and getting married. Two years into our marriage I made a bet with her. We were playing miniature golf. I said, "If I win, we go to a sex club. You win, you choose." Other than throwing the ball into the water, I could not lose. She was nervous as fuck. I waited a month and we went to Plato's in South Florida. We wound up liking it. That was over 25 years ago. We moved at a snails pace but we were happy.

That's how I did it. My priority was a woman who I was compatible with. If she would have said NO, we are not going to a swing club, I'd still be with her. That was not #1 on my list.

Good luck in finding what you are looking for.

When Hubby and I started dating, we were just a couple of singles (duh), and had our first threesome when I briefly dated someone else. We had several other threesomes until we decided to expand our horizons to include couples. It was a progression in our relationship, that developed as we explored more. Also, I really like boning other guys, and most of his experience had been since we've been together. I've gotten him more pussy than he EVER got on his own! We his wing-wife lol
The thing is, only you can decide who the right woman is for you, and when the time is right to bring up the subject of swinging... unless she starts that conversation.
If you're on Tinder or something, put it in your profile, but be on the conservative side, even then. It's going to be easier to add more options than to back-peddle to make your new woman happy.
Of course, if you meet at a house party oer other singer event, she'll KNOW, but it's still important to have specific rules within your relationship.
Good luck, you sexy beast!

Echoing and amplifying some of the prior responses, marriage is a partnership. Every LS couple of our ken--those who are durably in the LS, comfortable in their own skins, truly enjoying their lives--made that partnership commitment and live that partnership commitment. All of that decision making and commitment pre-dated the LS. In many cases, by decades. During that interval, the couples all realized that marriage was not some ethereal romantic pairing, but gritty and challenging much of the time. Many if not most faced hardships--brushes with death or serious illness in themselves or someone close to them, or in their line of work. What you might see as "HOTT!" is not just that they look after themselves: rather, they look after each other, they are confident in each other, they are curious and like to explore. All that is acquired only with time. Bottom line, choose someone you want to grow with; ground the relationship in values that are meaningful to you; and grow together. Really.

The problem here is your line of thinking. I would wager for most of us married guys the whole finding a good wife came long before the "discussion" of getting into the lifestyle. In fact I will go further and say it was likely less of a discussion and more of a situation and things happened we wanted to try again then wanted to explore further. I will wish you luck finding a single woman already in the lifestyle who would want to get married (most we know are not looking for a serious relationship) or woman who does not drop you like a burning hot rock when on one of your first few dates you mention the lifestyle to her.

The moment she pulled out my friend’s cock, wrapped her mouth around it and started to slowly suck it while sliding up and down like she had no where else to be soon, I just knew she was the girl for me.

:-)

~Allen

Our story isn't going to help you since we were married 29 years before getting into the LS. What WILL help you is to get yourself out there. As a couple that is not really looking for single women, we run into a fair number of them at LS parties. We have a number of SM and SF friends that we play with and so even the supposedly rare SFs are out there, but you'll likely do a lot better in person than trying to meet online.

Since you'd be meeting at LS events, you already know that they are in the LS and a surprising number of them are actually looking for a nice guy. Key is to make friends first and let the sex happen if/when it does.

First, let me address your profile. You are obviously looking for a partner and you spend a lot of space talking about that. This is not going to be attractive to many couples if you are really looking to play with them. Most will read the first few paragraphs and move on. This is a swinging site. Try and gear your profile in that direction and shorten the looking for a partner pieces of the profile.

Now with people and swinging it seems like you have covered all the bases when you asked the question. You will find quite a bit of variety when it comes to how people made it into the lifestyle. You directed your post toward the men but it isn't always the husband who is the primary mover. It can be pretty common for someone to be thinking about LS play but really just not feel comfortable raising the issue. That's why the advice you have already received is gold. Get it out in the beginning of the relationship. You have a well written profile. Put that out there on some dating sites and it will help you find who you are looking for. When a lady who has been thinking about the LS but was scared to raise the issue reads your profile that will catch her interest.

Good luck.

On another note. Great job showing face pics! Seriously... We wish more single guys would do that.

I think looking for a potential long term single lady that is open to swinging on this site is likely going to be a waste of time. My own "OPINION" is that you would be better off to simply find a girl that you are interested in (wherever) and bring up your interest in swinging right away. I think you might be surprised at how many people are into the idea they just never really thought about it.

For the record. My wife and I just got lucky and found each other. Hell we didn't even know sls existed.

I should have originally posted this here, so if admin could be kind and leave this one and not the one in "swinging single" if one has to go. Thanks

I see so many hott couples of all ages, men sporting GORGEOUS women that are into living this lifestyle, and I always think to myself, "how do these guys end up finding such attractive mates who are undercover freaks?! Do most of you just kind of ease her into it over the years haha, or did you start off right away with the naughtiness, I mean, did you just put it out there right off as far as what you were into and hoped she went for it? All chips on the table? Or did most of you meet on sites like this, or clubs where you knew there was already interested women available, but even so, there are SO few single females in proportion to men. I know that waiting patiently and searching hi and low without being pushy is key, but fellas, tell your stories, how did it all go down??