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Introverts of the world . UNITE!!
When we were younger we were both introverts, but as we got older we each came out of our shell. Unfortunately we've grown weary of "putting ourselves out there" and now it seems…
by twonluv6923replies2,425viewsHow to spot swingers
Going on a cruise shortly. This is not a swingers cruise, but is swinger friendly. Are there certain pieces of jewelry or adornment that denote swingers that you would recognize i…
by Cantakeitall11replies3,327viewsMeeting others (swinger signals)
So we have read many articles and posts about black rings, anklets, and pineapples but we dont see too many of those signs when we are out. Being in the LS, would you be opposed t…
by scorpionbull7replies1,649viewsbecause we new or what
Your profile pictures seriously need work along with the wording as well. Better Profiles could do you folks a magnitude of help. Good luck! ~Allen
by 888eatme8885replies1,100viewsSwinging: separating sex and emotions
Hi all. Lately we have been talking about getting into the lifestyle. The more we talk, the closer we come to actually going through with it. Our question is how do you separate t…
by Frependo28replies3,433views- 7replies1,064views
Awkward
OP: You folks didn't like the replies in the Men Talk forum so you created an identical one here? ~Allen
by 888eatme8885replies1,137viewsHow to cope with an average dick?
One of my common refrains here is "if you can't control it, don't let it bother you". Seems to me that this would apply here. Fact is, some women aren't interested in the full-on…
by sorillo100018replies2,681viewsWhen pillow talk becomes gossiping
I am sure this 3rd rail has been addressed Saying something to a couple in confidence Only to have repeated in pillow talk
by Bondageland8replies891viewsBest and worst pictures
Every now and then you'll see a picture that is extra sexy. Other times you'll see some that turn you off. What does this for you? For us, a sexy picture is very provocative but d…
by mayhem832replies3,457viewsWords that turn you off in a profile
As a newbie, I read a lot of profiles and try and steal what I like in other people’s profiles. That everyone writes “no drama” makes me laugh. No one actually writes that they ar…
by JTheartsong438replies27,261viewsWebsites
This may be a taboo subject but how many websites are people a part of? We have seen advantages to different sites. Is it common to belong to more than 1?
by JTheartsong19replies2,500viewsHow often do you change your profile?
I know this app has been around for a long time and you can see on a profile that people list an event that happened a long time ago or they mention moving but you never know when…
by JTheartsong10replies1,167viewsWe seem to have no luck on here
Hey!! We have been on the site for a year and nothing has been legitimate. Chat back and fourth here and there and then nothing.. is there a secret we don't know?! Help us out? ???
8replies1,566viewsHow to distinguish yourself in email
How do you open your emails to distinguish yourself?
by JTheartsong9replies1,009viewsFFM
We are new to the lifestyle and I know typically the man is supposed to have the fantasies about being with 2 women. It has never been mine until it became my wife’s fantasy and s…
by JTheartsong4replies954viewsDeclining ettiquette
On a few occasions, my husband and I have met a couple and we're just not attracted. Typically, I have been very kind, but truthful. I'll normally say something like, "we enjoyed…
6replies1,455viewsWhen do you consider yourself as Bi?
I wouldn't have thought this to be that confusing of a question, but I've seen may cases where a person will list themselves as straight and then post that they enjoy a Bi activit…
by mayhem895replies6,041viewsFear of falling in love with someone else!
Having sex with someone is very intimate! Do you ever worry that your significant other or you yourself will inadvertently fall in love with your play partner? I would think that…
by Insatiable618replies1,388views1 to 1 of 1 TOPIC: How was the first time you watched your partner with someone else
We all have Fantasized about watching our partner with someone else and the thought of that is extremely exciting! But when you actually set this up and it happening how did you f…
by Insatiable612replies1,618viewsHow was the first time you watched your partner with someone else?
We all have Fantasies
by Insatiable611replies1,190viewsFinding Canucks
When I search it is like Canada does not exist. Even using a city code it seems to be lacking. Any ideas?
by H_lustlover1replies636viewsPregnant swingers
Hey everybody me and my husband were wondering how does everybody feel about me being pregnant I’m I still accepted or should I just wait until the pregnancy is over
by Dak928714replies3,074viewsExchanging face pics
We live in a small town area. When we chat with other couples and agree exchange face pics sometimes the other couples claims to know one or the both of us then they refuse to sha…
0replies703viewsSeparate rooms
My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for quite some time we're very open-minded and enjoy it recently we've been discussing doing separate rooms we really like the thought of…
by Cnk052623replies2,993viewsWe give up!!
Ok, we're not really giving up but damn it gets frustrating. Why in the world would we agree to plan a hook up without ever seeing a face pic? I mean really people.. What the fuck…
9replies1,741viewsWife on a break
You need to talk to your wife. You would know her feelings about the subject better than us. Communication is very important in all relationships and key if you are in the lifesty…
2replies998viewsOur first hotel takeover
We have enjoyed many evenings out, met some really nice couples, and had some fun, but for New Years we are attending our first Hotel Takeover. We are approaching this much like w…
by FredTammy15replies1,764viewsCall us?
Have gotten email messages from 2 different people in the past few days giving us their phone number asking us to either call or text them. This is after an initial site email and…
37replies2,450viewsSwing Club Feedback
It looks to me that the Club section of this forum is for exactly as you describe, certainly a lot of threads there doing just that. To your second question, yes, I would think it…
1replies889viewsAttractive or not
We have been swingers over a year. Been on SLS over a year, we have been to the swinger clubs also. I have asked what it takes to attract other swingers and couples. Seems the sta…
5replies1,585viewsBuying gifts
" Am I wrong? Is this a line that shouldn't be crossed?" There's no manual for open/poly relationships. The determination for what step is too far is with you. And you're not happ…
18replies1,778viewsGame night ideas?
What are some fun party games?? We’ve done truth or dare, never have I ever, but what are some other fan favorites?
3replies791viewsLifestyle Clubs near San Diego
We are visiting San Diego in the near future and are having a very hard time finding a swingers club that is still open. Any recommendations? We are driving so please include any…
0replies514viewsEttiquette - splitting the room
Ok - we're new and have a question. We met a couple a while ago with who we hit it off. After weeks of life getting in the way on both sides we've finally scheduled a play date fo…
by AandJinNNJ17replies1,473viewsSwingers club for NYE .what to expect?
We are trying to make it out to a swingers club on NYE. Since it will be our first time ever attending one is it like throwing ourselves to the wolves? Any tips on how we can deal…
by Swirl5108replies652viewsNo condoms Then what?
Recently watched a discussion on a private FB page that that I hadn't really thought about. A girl hooked up with a guy. Did not require a condom and nothing was said as to what t…
14replies4,216viewsVegas LS Club Suggestions? NYE
We're headed out to Vegas for NYE. Anyone have suggestions on an upscale LS club to ring in the New Year? We're thinking we'll hit at least one or two others while we're out there…
13replies1,322viewsWhat does Friendship mean in the lifestyle?
We've been online for quite some time now but one of the common phrases we see in profiles is "Friends IN & OUT of the Bedroom". Our interpretation of this is, sometimes something…
by twonluv6960replies7,269viewsTried swinging seperate but I asked to scale back to couples only, wife upset.
Phew. Okay, I think you're being manipulated to hell and gone and I think the situation needs a few less "I love you" texts from you and a few more "yeah, your needs are your need…
2replies1,255viewsQuestions about traveling to Maui/Hawaii
Aloha all, I am contemplating writing a travel/lifestyle blog about swinging here on Maui as I get messages about just that every week. The blog would be mainly geared towards vis…
by WannaTry8084replies656viewsEmbrace Being Rejected. They just saved you a bunch of time and headache :-)
I know everyone is naturally disappointed being rejected by another couple but if you think about it they just saved you a lot of unnecessary chatting and time. When we have a cou…
by FunInMidwest11replies1,649viewsMeet and greet
The question has been asked numerous times in the forums about when meeting someone for the first time where do you go? Bars, Restaurants, are very common responses and we have go…
by Insatiable6111replies1,996viewsWho pays the motel bill?
I am asking that question because a single male took offense when I said he was to pay the motel room bill. I am willing to let him have his way with me, sort of that is, no ass p…
by valleychic17replies2,029viewsshared wife first time
Recently shared the wife for the first time at a party, it was amazing to watch....afterwards we felt closer to each other,more that usual. We have a great relationship, so we did…
1replies1,633viewsSame room swap
We are new to the lifestyle, still trying to get our feet wet. We have done the seperate room full swap and have started to venture out on our own and are have a good time. What w…
by PrettyNormal17replies2,716viewsCuckquean .?
Hello all. My lovely wife and I have been swinging for a few years now and we’ve had a truly wonderful time. We’ve fulfilled a lot of fantasies that most people would never even v…
13replies2,026viewsWhat does 'Soft Swap' really mean?
Met a couple recently that the profile said they were Soft Swap with a minor possibility of Full Swap. We met for dinner and drinks with no expectations. Nothing happened but had…
by fishincouple32replies4,671viewsJewelry - how much and what is appropriate
We have a question that may seem odd but it is a question we were discussing. At parties, clubs and now going to a convention what is appropriate jewelry when playing. He loves me…
by active2sum574replies1,382viewsFriends Who Run Hot/Cold
We tend to prefer friends with benefits. We have one couple we know who are very engaging and friendly when you get them alone (or at a party away from their main friends), but ca…
by Skiswap4replies742views
