Meet and greet

There’s some great suggestions and experiences here. The bowling is one I never would have thought of.

We mostly like a quick drink & apps Furst with those we’ve interacted with on SLS or other sites. We have read & heard the horrible experiences others have had with no shows and less than accurate profile descriptions. It’s a feeling out process where we all are looking to verify each other.

We generally know in the first 5 minutes meeting a new couple whether we’d want to take things further. And we’re sure the other couple know the same about us in 5 minutes.

We’ve become friendly with couples we regularly play with, and we’ll often go to dinner before heading to a club or hotel. Sexy talk is always among topics discussed, and there are times we have noticed people at nearby tables try to get themselves into a better position after they’ve overheard something we said. When we make eye contact with them, a smile and a nod usually lets them know that we know what they’re doing.

One of the places we met a couple that actually worked out quite well was a bowling alley. Wound up having a surprising amount of privacy doing moonlight bowling. Had decent food and drinks too at very reasonable prices. Not someplace many would likely think of.

We're adults and we are out and about to have our fun, as long as it doesn't directly affect others, it's none of their business.

We go to bars, bar grills, strip clubs and if we have been out with them before, then a motel, their place or our place...….sometimes we swap partners at the table, sometimes on the ride to our destination or even all load up and swap out seats along the way; we talk vanilla and lifestyle stuff at the table. Shook quite a few neighbors and coworkers hands as they make their appearance be known, even picked up a few waitresses to join our couple's nightly endeavors.

We like watching others do the greet hug or the bye hug at vanilla places. We laugh and usually one of us says to the four of them, we're next as we pass by. The laughs we hear from that!

~Allen

We meet in a public place link a bar or restaurant for a drink and a little appetizer. The talk is normally pretty vanilla, more a get to know you conversation. We would have already had most of the racey conversation via email and text or phone. We have already agreed that after the meet will send via text our address to meet to play. If no address is received it means we passed. It also gives them the option to pass by not arriving if they received the address but choose not to meet at the agreed address and time. Helps to reduce the stress of the meet if both parties know there is a easy way to pass if desired. Works for us....but I'm this wouldn't work for all.

Not concerned with what “Strangers” hear or think.

For us it's group meet and greets, you can find on this site's hot date calendar, clubs or hotel parties. We don't do first meets at our house because if it doesn't work out we don't want them knowing where we live. And we don't get out too often so one-on-one meets can waste a night too.

Unlike many folks here the Mrs and I don't really do the formal meet and greet. 95% of the time the other guy or couple just come to the house for play. We basically get the meet and greet done via kik-text etc beforehand. I'll ask about their political affiliation after we have sex. Haha

We will usually plan on meeting at a bar that's reasonably quiet with a little bit of privacy, not our usual hangouts like sports bars, dance places, etc. Our ideal is to arrange to meet at a meet and greet, so in case there's a no show we can hang out with other friends. And as a previous poster commented, you all know why you're meeting, so on the "first date", whether it results in play or not, you're just getting to know each other. So we have no problem with vanilla conversation leading to the fun stuff.

We like large hotel lobbies and lounges - plenty of room to maneuver, bar is present, couches along far walls, hidden corners, waiting areas - always can find a place with not ears and no need to yell like in a crowded restaurant. Hyatt, Westin, Marriott to name a few.

The biggest thing is to realize it isn't unusual for people to meet each other in public or go over to someone else's home. Generally, as mentioned, most of the conversations are quite vanillish because you are simply getting to know one another. If you are super nervous about it, talk in code and send out a decoding text ahead of time. If you are at a Mexican place just substitute chimichangas for well... Doing it this way can be super hilarious and a ton of fun. Then later in the evening you can roll fajitas together. The biggest thing is to not let nerves get the best of you when meeting others.

We've met a lot of couples at bars/restaurants. We should all know why we're here. If you've exchanged a few e-mails, seen each others pics & spoken on the phone before meeting most of your sex related questions should be taken care of. We talk about a lot of vanilla things getting to know a bit about each other. If anyone sitting nearby should hear when we're discussing the lifestyle let 'em get a thrill. :D

The question has been asked numerous times in the forums about when meeting someone for the first time where do you go? Bars, Restaurants, are very common responses and we have gone to bars but we are also very uncomfortable in a public venue, because eventually the conversations will turn to the lifestyle and trying to be discrete in a public restaurant or bar can be quite difficult. Does anybody else have the same concerns?