Swinger Advice
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Best place to look.
We are a young couple looking to get into the lifestyle. Where is the best place to look for couples or a third? We are both bi and we are in Indiana.
3replies1,064viewsEmail frustration
New phenomenom seem to be occurring, at least for us. We have sent 3 emails over the past couple weeks to different people. All 3 show unread unreplied. Are we just finding rude p…
by Wvillecpl11replies1,145viewsORGIES
We've attended three orgies and really had a great time. They consisted of about five couples and one or two singles. We want to know how to find out about these around our area.…
2replies966viewsWife
Not sure how to start this. However, over the past few years like most couples the spark has diminished in our sex life. As you get older, that sometimes happens but the desire is…
7replies1,481viewsReminiscent
So hi! I'm Pebbles and I'm quite shy compounded with anxiety, people say "don't be shy", it doesn't work that way. BamBam isn't the least bit shy, but he's very quiet, is uncomfor…
by AZBedrockers13replies1,725viewsFirst Time Alone At A Club
I have a broad question. My partner and I have always played together, but do to family and work he will not be with me this year on my birthday. We would both like for me to go t…
by OwnedinOH4replies818viewsHeight
This isn't a cry baby session, but I have a question. Is it important to 'you' as a couple that the female be what is considered hot or Bi when finding compatible couples? Also Is…
by hedo2forus27replies2,705views1st time full swap
To be clear, you have a couple coming over to swim and are asking if it’s ok for you and your wife to play separately? This is a question you and your wife need to talk about and…
2replies1,205viewsSwinging while pregnant?
Would you? What about soft swap only? Would you swing with a couple that was expecting? Would how far along she was make a difference? Also, why or why not?
by F_and_M15replies3,199viewsAre my expectations too high?
Ok.... let me set stage... we host parties. This time around everyone has a kik handle so we started a kik group. I started the group to allow for some chatting and pg13 picture s…
by kinksterhere17replies1,705viewsCouples Dating
We have been in the lifestyle for over 12 years now and have made many friends along the way. We recently have become very good friends with another couple who brought up the idea…
by cpl4newfun310replies1,786viewsgetting the play started
Please, oh please, can someone suggest a better way to get playtime started than "hey, lets fuck"? We have heard that the awkwardness really never goes away. Is this true? We are…
by PrettyNormal73replies6,052viewsNo sexual attraction
We are new at this, so people please offer some advice... What or how is the best way to tell a couple that there is a friendship connection with all parties envolved, but there i…
by PrettyNormal23replies2,185viewsbi female in a couple.
Is being A bi female/straight male couple looking for a female swinging? If not please let us know. Couple/couple swinging is not my thing.-Ericka
by KINKYGOATS16replies1,531viewsWife has a policeman/cop fantasy
She has a fantasy to play with a cop, she likes state police and dnr most..... so, how would a couple/ married wife find a cop to play with, must be legit.
9replies931viewsShe says 'I don't orgasm'. I'm perplexed
My wife an I met a nice couple the other night at a clothing optional resort. After a few drinks and good conversation we decide to take to the room. We paired up, got touchy feel…
by fishincouple49replies3,451viewsNaturally hairy
What percentage of swingers do you think either like or don't mind the unshaved? We like our pubic hairs on each other. On others, we are happy with whatever makes them happy. We…
25replies3,318viewsCommunication/Emails
Hello all, we are not new to the lifestyle. Curious to knw if anyone has had trouble w/ sending/receiving emails? We don’t like the feature that a person/couple can read an email…
by KingDMelonE9replies1,118viewsThe goddess and how to treat a woman as one
i keep saying that the women who are swingers are into swinging because they get treated as a goddess. I treat my wife this way as well telling how good she looks all the time and…
by ncalcouple64replies3,501views- 12replies2,202views
HWP
I have a question for anybody to respond. What is considered HWP these days? Some people are looking for HWP people only.
by yzman110replies6,343viewsNeed Serious Help
So I created profile and seeking another male or couples for me and my husband. I am a former dancer and always been on my game when it comes to confidence. Recently my experience…
by Erottica26replies2,160viewsWhy is this so hard?
We are new to LS. I have reached out to sever couples for a get to know you dinner or drinks. A few responded and agreed to meet but then they back out or just don't respond after…
by Qapla33replies4,007viewsHow should this be handeled
Well THAT's some confusing convoluted shit right there. Was your plan to use your girl as barter for the legal work? Was any payment arrangement made at all? Have you spoken to th…
7replies1,329viewsNew!
Hi! We are new to this lifestyle. It's very exciting but it seems that we are fumbling our way around and trying to learn the ropes, via online, and meeting people in general. We…
by DestimY1510replies1,594viewsHouse Party Hookup
So we attend some local clubs when we can, and have only just started meeting local couples for "dates" which we really like. At the club everyone seems to already be a part of a…
5replies1,363viewsSwinging in central mn
Hello, i am new to this site. Im am wondering how easy it is to meet up with like minded people through this site. How do you meet people? Maybe i just have not explored the site…
6replies954viewsThe no drama couples
In our experience over the past few years we have noticed something. Why is it the couples that say "no drama" are the ones that bring it? Anyone else notice this too?
14replies1,825viewsSingle male lack of chivalry
That is why my wife loves married men. They threat her as a goddess and are always so grateful that a woman is nice to them and just wants to borrow their body for sex and nothing…
by ncalcouple8replies1,227viewsShaving, or not
I always see these profiles that say "shaved baby smooth and expect the same". For me, that "might" last one day. The next day it's prickly and, if I shave again the next day I us…
by mayhem8124replies7,638viewsWell endowed
I too am curious though from the other perspective. When a gent says he is well endowed should I run or smile? I absolutely agree it is subjective.
84replies13,075viewsSingle men are the ruination of the ls!
Lady what you tried to do never works. Couples have shown up at parties or clubs that allow single men and the woman feels like she is under attack by the single men. So many sing…
by ncalcouple75replies4,604viewsShow the EFF UP
Yes- we've been doing this long enough to know 'IT HAPPENS'.. But still the window shoppers, and the people who aren't serious are driving me insane. We are not huge picture excha…
by justjj6616replies1,858viewsWhy aren't single is men interested in ls travel/conventions?
In my opinion they aren't actually single.
32replies2,181viewsBlocked for no reason
We are not new to the lifestyle. And we have never been blocked. We responded to their email. And now that couple blocked us without a reason. Really doesn’t make any sense what s…
88replies7,719viewsRules of attraction
So for us there has to be a physical attraction first, you might have a great personality and be the life of the party but if you're 5'4 and 300lbs with bad breath and very few te…
by BeachedCPL17replies2,195viewsSure I'll have se with you, but don't expect to mix with my Vanilla friends
So what's everyone's take on this? Let's face it now all people are as discreet as others, some have no issue posting face pics here, or even discussing the Lifestyle in public, s…
by BeachedCPL19replies2,412viewsMen who hate parties?
It has been my unfortunate experience that many "supposedly single" men hate big parties. Is it performance anxiety or, if they're cheating, fear of recognition? My past experienc…
by LadyBlueSF32replies2,993viewsHow to break the news to a couple
Hi folks. We're curious to hear how others tell people thanks but no thanks. It's difficult enough to get three people be on the same page but four seems exponentially tougher. We…
by necouple911122replies3,653viewsHow do YOU read a profile?
Thirty-one views and not a comment. That is a little sad to me. It's not surprising, but it is a little sad. It's sad because I find this OP to be a really good topic. A good ques…
108replies6,677viewsMy wife going out of town with her boyfriend
My wife has a steady boyfriend that she sees about once a month. They have known each other for over three years, but only recently started meeting intimately. The have met 3 or 4…
by Flicker3717replies2,353viewsHow to Identify a Hotwife?
I'm a straight single male. I was wondering....... When out in public, such as a bar or grocery store, is there a way to Identify a hotwife or swinger wife from the other vanilla…
by Willy6000027replies5,884viewsHow to deal with sheer rudeness?
Hi All-- I'd appreciate your opinions. Last week I met and played with a couple with a lovely and very enthusiastic wife. By all accounts, they are experienced swingers and have b…
by phil_45138replies2,846viewsRimming made better
go to general dollar, spend 1.15 for cherry flavored chap-stick. it's 9.00 and you just showed for your night out. grab your chap-stick and apply it sparingly to your anus/ass get…
11replies2,790viewsAdvice for Bliss Cruise
Male half here. We just signed up for the 2018 Bliss cruise and we both are very excited about it. Wife threw me a curve the other day, saying she wanted her old boyfriend to come…
12replies2,513viewsplaying separately
Hello all, wondering what others feelings and experiences are on this? Wife and I have been in lifestyle for about 3 years now and had some really awesome experiences! We had a co…
52replies5,464viewsBlack rings
p Do swinger couples wear black rings on their right hands /p p when they are out to signify they are in the lifestyle /p p and open to meeting others ? If so you you wear them ou…
by Sexyfuncpl36116replies22,578views
