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Question for single guys
Would you be offended if a couple you were planning to meet messaged some of your certs asking about you? We had a guy block us for it. Should we have handled it differently? Coup…
by njopencpl32replies2,673viewsWife to LS
We have been to a Hedo twice but how do guys get their wife’s involved in full LS? I think she wants to but ......
by kcdan12a7replies1,350viewsIf you could give only one piece of advice to others in the LS what would it be?
Imagine you had the opportunity to impart ONLY ONE snippet, one sentence, one pearl of wisdom to others who are whatever variety of ethically non-monogamous. What would you say?
by Esperanza91135replies3,722viewsBest swinger club- venue in Las Vegas for a single gentleman
Thank you for looking and hopefully leaving some POSITIVE feedback/ information. What is the best swing- adult club in Las Vegas for a single gentleman on the weekends? Any and al…
by Dr2Dr77772replies554views- 1replies462views
Swinger vs Lifestyle?
Hello. We are new with 4 months of experience in the LS. Actually, experience isn't exactly accurate. We're more at the "still grinning & shrugging shoulder's" stage if you recall…
by nakedducks7replies871viewsI'm new he's not IDK what to do
ey! Sorry I just don't know what to do. My boyfriend is into almost everything that is possible here. I'm not and I have made that abundantly clear since our relationship began 2…
31replies2,838viewsThe right time
Welcome and lets just say if you dont give "us" both the respect we want and will do so in return to you.. you are not going to screw her.. she is her own woman.. makes all decisi…
by RonKathy2replies583viewsplay parties
We have done years of finding Parties and Clubs on Hot Dates Now we are being invited to private parties, and most are very clear, in for some finger food then game on Is this a n…
18replies2,644viewsMale half wants to join in on a gangbang
What is the best way to find or join in on a gangbang? We aren’t sure of all the proper etiquette or if there even is any.
by Twodivine25replies1,138viewslive stream or video and photo
Good morning, my wife had her first hotwife experience about a week ago.It was a blast and we both love it. She told me even though I was not physically present, my name was menti…
by mamipapi792replies558viewsMixing LS friends and family members
Your request was reasonable , honest and clear cut. As to the couple bad mouthing you. We have found that those who speak ill of others are to be avoided. They are for the most pa…
by lcmim14replies1,546viewsDo you voice verify?
When you meet a new couple or single off SLS do you voice verify before meeting?
32replies2,290viewsJealousy
Hi, my partner and I are new to this site. My partner has no problem, and encourages me to be with other men. Hence, my question. Why, when he is going to be with another woman je…
10replies1,518viewsManscaping
What is the best kit to use for manscaping? Also, is it better to be trimmed or shaved?
by Newstuff249replies2,142viewsWhat to expect at Parties, Clubs, and Events
I have never been to a swinger party, club or event before. What am I to expect if I am ever invited to one? I do not want make a mistake and cause a misunderstanding.
by Newstuff2427replies1,693viewsBias against single guys
We keep reading profiles that want to meet couples and singles. They lay out very clear requirements for both. - Single females: As long as she is breathing, she is in. - Couples…
by moekathy218replies7,559viewsWhat does active in the lifestyle mean to you?
This is an off-shoot from another thread, but I'm curious to hear what frequency of play people think qualifies as being active in the LS. I made an assumption that the middle-of-…
by mayhem813replies1,023viewsUsing kik is a bad idea
I have experience majority of sls users who wants to use kik, they turn out to be fake or not serious? I personally use google voice to hide my real phone number till I get to kno…
122replies9,761viewsTo say, or not to say?
I'm looking for a bit of etiquette advice, realizing that many people may be shy about mixing their vanilla and lifestyle worlds. I've noticed a couple on SLS, whose pics, even th…
by bobbyjoelong10replies1,597viewsToo Much Honesty
We recently received an IM from a single guy, for which our first reaction was that there might be a good potential match. His third one-sentence (each) message was the inevitable…
5replies901viewshotwife experience with a male in a committed relationship
Good morning friends, we are asking for an opinion. We have been in the the lifestyle now for 5 years now. We have done almost everything in the lifestyle and now because I am 400…
by mamipapi799replies1,020viewsWorst opening lines through messenger
Cmon I know you've all seen them "I'm in town tonight want to hook up with a big cock?".... And why is it always the single males here that think they can throw out a one-liner th…
3replies786viewsBeing outed by someone you know.
With the current job and family issues, we try to keep this part of our life private. How do you handle being outed by someone from the website. My former boss also uses this webs…
17replies2,999viewsBLOCKING PEOPLE
I periodically block people. There are those that never respond, those that keep viewing us looking for new photos, many of them state they are looking for a female but advertise…
by MNJFLA17replies1,912viewsMy Gal Slept with a guy
So this is your first post.. welcome but sorry if you have not worked out these issues prior to swinging and coming on SLS do so.. take a step back and talk about all issues. Only…
by RonKathy10replies1,928viewsExcuses to give “pants on” friends?
We live in a very small community where everybody knows everybody. We have a few very close friends that are definitely not in the lifestyle and they have a very tight pulse on wh…
by Ballgamers10replies1,457viewsYour lifestyle journey
When we first started, it would have been a big deal for the Mrs to just flash her breasts. We were nervous as hell going to our first lifestyle (LS) party and some amount of that…
by mayhem87replies809viewsPlay scinarios
Going to guess that just maybe you haven't included your wife in the discussion as much as she needs to be. Both of you should work together in every step from deciding to and how…
by HollyBlue5replies848viewsGhosting
Yes it is.. some want a one and done.. some just didnt like what happened.. some enjoyed the moment.. get over it and move on.. its life! Swinging well over 24 years and some have…
by RonKathy12replies1,620viewsHow can we not be rude
We know this is an age old topic. But for the life of us we really understand that all single men are not bad. But that stigma follows them due to others just not getting the hint…
20replies1,707viewsHall Pass Love/Hate Venting
Not sure if this is the correct subforum for this (perhaps it should be posted in the "Getting Started" forum for maximum impact), but here it goes... #beginvent We both yearn for…
by calcanfun250replies3,243viewsConfidence
We have be in the lifestyle for years. Just recently we starting attending a local swingers club and really like it. The atmosphere is good and the people are great, but we still…
5replies808viewsWhy You Don't Get A Response Message Back ?
I had seen this list on another platform which is kinda interested of reading, and it's a reason why some people do not get a reply message back who they write to. I hope people t…
12replies1,894viewsFWB at couples parties
How do couple's feel about friends with benefits going to clubs or parties where they allow couples or single females only?
by Jackn20206replies878viewsOutdoor Sex Location?
Putting this here because we are asking for advice. First we need to say we understand the legalities and risks involved here so please spare us the lecture. We are not talking se…
by RusticMagic22replies2,947viewsLifestyle friendly couples counseling
If you are having some difficulty and LS activities are a big part of that and don't want to be stared at oddly you may consider a sex therapist as an initial stop. Even if you ca…
by HollyBlue10replies1,410viewsHow to convince my wife
I would like to convince my wife to share this lifestyle, but unfortunately she is not very open minded.I have commented something to her but she always says that she would not li…
by jajajtoto50replies5,825viewsIdeas About Starting Up Again
With all this virus stuff going on we’re struggling a bit with how to decide when to start playing again. We’d like to make an objective decision while recognizing there won’t be…
14replies1,482viewsReally wired experience
Been in lifestyle for 20 years as both a couple and single. Connected her in chat and exchanged emails with lady over about month due to isolation. She mentions she was into BDSM…
by newmanfor174replies1,126viewsCouples Hypocricy and jealousy - We have hurdles to overcome.
We have shared a couple briefly at Caliente in Land O' Lakes, FL in 2012 (first time and disappointing because I was not attracted to the female and the guy was short with a small…
6replies1,234viewsUnsure partner
My wife and I have a amazing sex life she is freaking amazing swallows everytime no matter how long it takes and she deserves more ive suggested she can have a female relationship…
by Horniest736replies1,098viewsFirst time as a single male questions
At your age nothing should go wrong unless it is a mental block. Typically this revolves around another male in the room, not being used to wearing a condom, or drinking too much.…
by RusticMagic4replies887viewsadvice and help in tampa area
Hi there. all. We are in the tampa area and looking for some advice or answers.. When we lived in Knoxville Tn there were a couple of hotel lounges and bars that were swinger or l…
1replies788viewsNeed Advice
Hey all, despite being pretty experienced we have encountered a problem and are unsure how to solve it. We often like to travel, especially Bliss cruises. There is a group of peop…
2replies827viewsCareful what you wish for
First off this post is all true and posted in a very lighthearted manner. The weekend was fun and I have ZERO regrets. Last weekend a new couple came over to meet and have some fu…
3replies1,351viewsPlaces not to meet
I was debating putting this here or in the single male area because it was a single male that sent us this suggestion. We had talked enough online to where we were considering mee…
by RusticMagic7replies1,413viewsMessaging Openers
What are some of the messaging openers that you have either used that got good responses or messages you have received that you felt compelled to respond to? Or is it all about th…
by KLandALFL5replies938viewsUnsolicited advice from me to you.
It would be a bare minimum, if swinging actually worked in the manner you believe it should. :-) ~Allen
by 888eatme88811replies1,725viewsNew members, any advice?
Hi, wife and i have been in lifestyle for some time now. We had started a profile years ago and had some luck, but decided to take a break. just started up a profile and want to g…
by Clarke24replies983views
