Cuckquean .?

We haven't done video before, mainly because a lot of our play is at parties and it's not allowed. I can see where that would have come in handy more than a few times. Not as much now as when we first started, but on occasion the Mrs has gone into sexual overload. She's basically on autopilot and just doing what feels good in the moment. Later she doesn't remember the details when I say, "Honey, that was hot seeing you do blah, blah, blah'.

Having a video of some of those times would have been really hot, but they are burned into my brain at least. On a weekend morning I will sometimes lay there and think of some of those things and it leads to some awesome wake-up sex. Of course the Mrs would probably prefer I not be thinking about them at 6 am on a Sat or Sun morning ;-)

Hot, right? ;-)

My experience is that video is even more effective than photo. I've learned to love the recap, even when the recap is on the phone. It's not quite like reclaiming sex, but still great when there is distance between you.

“Heh. That is awesome news! I did wonder if that would happen to you. I don't have an exhibitionist streak at all, but there is something about being closely observed by someone who cares about me while I do something taboo that never fails to be exciting.
I'm so glad this worked out so well!”

You are not wrong!
We always preferred separate room because it allows us to focus on the new partner. The idea of being watched was a bit unnerving. What’s more I was worried that she would get jealous.
Oh man wrong on all counts. after our vixen left we had some amazing sex, then had a recap of the night over ice cream. She absolutely loved it, and I got off so hard knowing she was getting off on it.
I have a three week business trip to Oklahoma City starting next week and she’s already told she wants me to find some fun and send pics lol.

We've only been doing the separate (close by) room play for about a year now but I will agree. Hearing your mate with someone and imagining what they are doing can be every bit as erotic as actually watching them.

"but there is something about being closely observed by someone who cares about me while I do something taboo that never fails to be exciting."

Amen. I get almost as much enjoyment from the Mrs. watching me as I do from watching her in action. As a recent playmate pointed out, you can get the same thrill from being in an adjacent room and listening to them enjoy themselves, and vice versa.

Re: overthinking

If you really think about it you may begin to wonder what the hell it is about sticking your dick in a warm wet pussy makes you feel so damn good, and not have a good answer. Then you'd really be fucked, er, not fucked. Um, you know what I mean. Don't overthink this ;-)

Heh. That is awesome news! I did wonder if that would happen to you. I don't have an exhibitionist streak at all, but there is something about being closely observed by someone who cares about me while I do something taboo that never fails to be exciting.

I'm so glad this worked out so well!

Well a bit of an update, hate to leave a thread with no resolution.
We tried it, we liked it, and my wife is proudly calling herself a cuckquean now lol.
Holy hell. I was overthinking it a lot. She gets off on watching and it seems I get off on her watching. I guess we’re all full of surprises.

re:FPC
Do you enjoy seeing her have a good time? I know my wife enjoys seeing me have fun with other women as do I enjoy seeing her play with other guys.

So the only thing that might be a little different is if she ONLY wanted to watch. If we find ourselves in a 3-some, generally we all play, however the Mrs isn't really big on Bi play. I can see where she could be at a point where just watching might interest her.

For the most part though we do a lot of our playing at parties and there are multiple people to play with over the course of the night. Unless one of us was sick I can't see us going and only one of us playing. As much as we both enjoy watching each other it would be rare that both of us didn't play at some point.

I have come to find out that I am a unusual sexual beast ;-) I have unknowingly been "edging" myself all of these years and the result is that I many times have what can only be described as a mini-orgasm. My body goes through all of the same things as a full on orgasm but there is little to no ejaculate. I basically grunt, pause briefly, then keep on going.

When I do full-on cum the Mrs refers to it as my "Mighty roar"...lol There is no mistaking what is going on. She has been in another room playing and stopped what she was doing to come watch me because for the past couple of years I wind up after-shocking for sometimes 5 mins afterwards. She LOVES watching me do that, so if you have something particular you do it should come as no surprise that your Mrs would enjoy seeing that too.

If it isn't a kink you share, it can be a little tough to understand just why it's so exciting and satisfying. For those of us who do share it, your bafflement is a little baffling. What could be more amazing than watching someone you love get off by getting someone else off? I mean, no, that's not the only way I play, because I'm a generalist, plus I have more kinks than a corkscrew and they clamor for equal time, but if someone said I could only pick one thing to experience for the rest of my life, that would definitely get a lot of consideration.

I think you're letting your own lack of comprehension color how you see the difficulty here. And maybe overthinking it. ;-)

I've never had any trouble finding women who were amenable to playing with my partner while I watched and I've done it for others as well. It's not a big deal. Couples with hot wives are a good bet, as are single women (and I refuse to believe they're unobtainium, although on line is not the best place to find them), but, really, I've done this for other couples at parties without thinking anything of it and found one of my best partners in crime at a club. She got off on the same thing and we just took turns watching.

Thanks for the replys guys. MsMolly thanks for some of the clarification in terminology.
I guess I just don’t know how this could be? I keep waiting for the other show to drop but the more we talk about it the more she just laughs at me and says stop overthinking it lol.
It’s just hard for me to understand how she could enjoy watching me with someone as much as she enjoys playing. I don’t mean to judge I just don’t get it. I don’t want jealousy to become an issue because she’s feeling left out or she’s feeling used, but she tells me that really she’s the one who’s using me to get off hard.
It just seems counterintuitive but again, her fetish not mine.

So all that aside, where do you go to find women that would be amicable to such a thing? I figure SLS is going to primarily be swinging couples and unicorns are unobtanium in our area. Would tinder and such be appropriate, or do we go out and start hitting bars like we’re 20 again lol.

I would think that, online, it would likely be a lot easier for the female half to find women that would want to play like this than it would be for the guy.

There is a difference between a cuck and a voyeur who receives maximum pleasure from watching their partner fuck someone else. The difference is some level of humiliation, either implicit (you're not allowed to join, no matter how much you might want to) or explicit (sounds like you've watched the relevant porn, so like that but with better dialogue).

But it doesn't really matter what you call it, because you'd have to explain precisely what was wanted to every potential playmate anyway.

As a voyeur who likes exactly the scenario you outline, I have to say you already have the answer as to how to proceed: "She wants to be in control of the process of selection and interview of potential partners. " That means she has to go hunting for them as well. I haven't looked at your profile, but if this is your only interest at the moment, your profile should reflect that. Then she should be looking for single women and hot wives. Maybe consider clubs and parties as well.

If the two of you find women you're attracted to, it shouldn't be a very hard sell. It's super hot to be part of this (without the humiliation, thanks), even if it's not a particular interest.

Hello all.
My lovely wife and I have been swinging for a few years now and we’ve had a truly wonderful time. We’ve fulfilled a lot of fantasies that most people would never even vocalize.

As we grew into swinging by acknowledging our kinky interests we are continuing to evolve. Recently my better half has said she’s very interested in perusing being a female cuckold or ‘cuckquean’. At this point she’s interested in simply watching me with other women while she takes care of herself, not into the humiliation BS you see in porn. She wants to be in control of the process of selection and interview of potential partners.

So I guess what I’m trying to ask is for the other couples who have perused this how did you proceed? To me swinging was pretty easy to get into because it was my wife and I doing it together, the ‘math’ worked out. With this I’m a bit unsure where to start and would love to get feedback from others who have successfully added this genre of play to their lifestyle experiences.