I would be happy he was honest on message two and not replied after that. We get emails from people all the time that aren't rude but given our profile and theirs we clearly aren't a match. After a while it can wear on you. But then.. you see another profile and like a squirrel you're off in a new fun direction.
I would have passed after his comment followed by a block.
Well there are a great many sm's that think a little dirty talk is flattering or hopefully preps the runway. I will cue in on what Soaring Ill O said, he could have gotten snippy because you got snippy with him. Look at how you communicated with him. Don't expect unsnippy when you throw it out to start with. You could have easily said, "Sure we can open those galleries. We just need to see who is sending messages so that we can see if there is any initial interest. Thanks." Was he real or not? Maybe he was or maybe he was a pic collector. Keep in mind there are many different approaches taken here by both couples and singles. There are some general rules of thumb and also successful outliers on either side. A gumby without a gallery is different than a gumby with a gallery. Try to throw a little grace into the mix and don't threaten cutting guys off to start with. We know of one sm who politely declined playing with a couple after meeting with them when she didn't resemble her pictures. (Neither of them do, actually.) They then initiated a smear campaign against him and he was forced to start over and went gumby in the default gallery to hide from them. Crazy happens on both sides... try and be a little more gentle out of the gate.
Should I be worried for the puppet or does he like it?
I don't think the guy was intentionally being insulting. I mean, I'd like to think so because the alternative is worse, but no. I think he just really doesn't understand that this isn't porn, that the women here aren't for his pleasure and amusement (provided they have the right kind of pussies), and doesn't understand why anyone would object to his completely reasonable request to give him what he wants.
I was at a club with someone I'd been playing with for awhile and a friend of his walked up and asked him, "Hey, can I have some of that?" I think this is like that, except with more words.
Sounds to me like he quickly realized that he wasn't getting anywhere and decided to passive-aggressively be insulting, just to be a dick. Unfortunately, all too common.
I try to be positive, but the cynic in me keeps whispering that people suck. And I can't help nodding my head in agreement sometimes. That's about the time that I go play with my brother's dogs, take a good brisk walk or beat the shit out of my Batman hand puppet, all of which leaves me in a good mood again. :)
We recently received an IM from a single guy, for which our first reaction was that there might be a good potential match. His third one-sentence (each) message was the inevitable request that we open more pictures.
After a reminder that we had ELEVEN public pics, and he had NONE nor had he opened his galleries, we left the door open by saying “your response to this message will determine whether we might have a future of actually meeting, or not”.
So he responded….”i only wanted to see if you had a fat pussy i like bbw or older thicker women with a juicy kitty. Please excuse my language (sic)”.
We then suggested that his response was a bit rude and crude, to which he replied…..”Those words weren't meant to be rude or crude i was only telling you my reason for you asking to open your galleries . Different strokes for different folksi hope you enjoy yourself in this swingers world. I am a gentleman im not desperate to hook up with anyone sorry that i offended you (sic)”
I guess we should be encouraged that he did not intend to offend anyone.
Sometimes maybe single guys should be just a little less honest. Does anyone have an extra copy of that book “What Not to Say to Impress Ladies”??
