FWB at couples parties

More than one club we've been to has had a "triad" or bring a friend special price. If the friend was a single guy, the rule was he was to stay with you and not wander off by himself. In fact he was our responsibility and our reputation in the club was on the line based upon his behavior. Fortunately, the two or three times we've done it, the guy we brought was someone with whom we were good friends. Bonus for him, although he was with us, he got to make connections for future fun.

As long as the party or club makes it clear that's part of the evening, everyone can see it and choose to go or not. Fun is fun.

At lot of good points made by everyone, thank you for your input. I posted this question because I recently visited SMI in Desert Hot Springs, CA. with a friend I met on Tinder (believe it or not, I asked on the 2nd date and she was just as curious and eager to check it out as I was). While in the hot tub, two other couples sparked up a conversation with us and inevitably the questions; how did we meet/ how long we've been together, came up. I didn't notice any sort of negative reaction when I told them, but as I was telling them our story I began to wonder whether or not they were okay with the fact that we weren't a "couple". My thought process stems from assuming, and this is only an assumption, that an exciting part of couples playing with other couples is that they are in a relationship. Although, the responses I've read so far pretty much debunk that.

As far as the Golden Ticket theory goes; Me?! I resent the assumption...In all seriousness though, I wouldn't take a friend for granted like that.
She lives in a different state but we stay in contact and plan to go back in July if things mellow out =)

WE actually take our single male FWB with us to many parties around USA.. and in return he has flown us first class to Costa Rica just last year.. he is lets just say in high demand and his personality and sexual abilities are fantastic.. well known by many in the lifestyle.

So with that said its a great thing for all.. we have had times he goes off and pleasures a single female or we have been asked to "borrow our friend " by a couple.. we also had a SLS new couple seek us out while in SC.. they asked if he and my wife could play with his wife while he looked on.. It was a great 3 hours and we all end up in bed after!

As far as it goes if you arrive as a couple then you are a couple. It would be the same as if you were not married but in a "committed" relationship. Some married couples play solo so the dynamics are the same. That said (and it has already been said twice) the problem is when one or the other part of a couple are using the other half as a ticket in. Now in the case of two singles it is likely the male would never have gotten in the door without the female (never heard of a party restricting single females) so it can be a big problem if after he walks in the door he goes all "single male idiot". Then again some married couples are like this as well where the wife is only along so the husband can do his thing.

Of course sometimes it is even worse when she actually does want to play but only as a couple yet he goes off to do his own thing and never involves her. We have seen that and the sadness in the female when the male slips off with someone else and she is left sitting alone nursing a drink. The response when you talk to her is she is waiting on him so they can go play. We watched the guy come back and they leave in a short time because he is done leaving her hanging. This happened twice and we never saw them at a party again. The point? Always remember that if you came with someone you need to make sure they are also enjoying themselves and having as good a time as you are. Coming as a couple means acting like one.

I know that we don't mind playing with singles (either as a couple or individually) that arrived as a couple. We have one set of single friends that are such close friends that they don't play with each other because it's more like a brother/sister relationship, but they play seperately or in the same room with others.

If it were obvious that one or the other just brought someone along for the ride and they were not happy about it (like the golden ticket thing), we'd avoid both of them. The same applies to couples though. The worst is the guy whose wife/gf is just going along with it because she's afraid she'll lose her guy if she doesn't. Why a woman would even want to stay with someone like that is beyond me, but it happens.

Over several years of play, I’ve attended a number of events, house parties, clubs, and a few takeovers, with a FWB. It’s never been an issue, but I’ll add that we arrived together, we played together and separately, I checked in on her to ensure that she was safe, and at the end of the night, we left together.

Trouble starts when SMs treat their date like they’re the golden ticket to the Wonka Factory. ...and the same is true for SFs in the company of their SM FWBs. For all intents and purposes, for that evening, you’re a couple. As long as you act like it, my guess is (and since you posed you’re question to couples, I’m sure they’ll chime in) that people will be fine with it.

For some reason, I have Sinatra’s Luck Be A Lady running through my head... except in this case, it’s ok for her to blow on some other guy’s dice... encouraged, even...;-)

Good luck and have fun,

BT

How do couple's feel about friends with benefits going to clubs or parties where they allow couples or single females only?