Who pays?
@travelers: that makes sense if the couple is on vacation and/or already have a room. And yes I do offer to pay any meal or bar tab we may have as well....But if the couple declines my offer then I gracefully defer to their wishes...:-)
blackerthanblack
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Who pays?
If I am meeting a couple for a private meet I always offer to pay for the room. My job is to make it as easy and comfortable as possible for the couple to have a successful and fun meet. If the couple insist on paying for the room themselv…
How important is physical attraction as an element in the lifestyle?
Physical appearance is not that important to me! What attracts me is inner beauty! If the wife is a little plump but her inner beauty that shines through I am all over her....hehe!
MMF Etiquette
Any time I meet a couple for MMF play I always send them a thank you note letting know I got back home safe and enjoyed our time together!
First dates and fucking
I have done both! It all depends on the couple or lady for me. Many times I will suggest a meet & greet to a couple to see if their is chemistry and take the pressure off having sex on the first date! But that has failed for me so many tim…
Which one do you perefer Big Beauitful Woman (BBW) or Plus size woman
The best LS parties I have been to are the ones that cater to BBWs!!
Dick pics
Thnx @Hotluvrs for your comments! Hey @bridgetender - Your post were not taken the wrong way...We are good! Keep doing your thing and having fun out there!
Dick pics
There is no right or wrong answer on sending dick pics based on request....Everyone has their personal preference to send or not to send...It is just my choice not to send!
Dick pics
"Well that would not work for us" Understand, it is not for everyone...I missed out on or lost quite a few couples who wanted dick pics....But those who did not mind seeing it live we had a Blast!!
Dick pics
"So, one would just have to assume you have what they want if you won't share a dick pic?" Yes, but if they insist on seeing it then I have no problem showing them it live. Does not mean we have to play. We can do a meet & greet, sit in th…
Dick pics
I never send dick pics...I tell the interested couple if they want to see it they just have to see it in person
single male and vanilla side of life
I have introduced vanilla women I dated to swinging and most loved it. But you have to do it slowly and ask them about their fantasy. It's all about trust. They have to trust that you will keep it to your self and you will never hold it ag…
Saying hello
I met many couples and single ladies over the years on SLS. My first initial contact is always a simple hello in a sentence with a smile. I get way more non-responses then responses and that is ok. But those who do choose to respond I make…
Messaging Etiquette
@NYsingle - If I was a couple and saw your profile and comments I would RUN!!! If my shoes fell off while I was RUNNING I would just leave them behind and keep RUNNING!!!!!!!
What do you like to see under a skirt or dress?
No panties is hot as well as no dicks allowed!!!
Your First Orgy
Went to Le Trapeze couples only swing club back in the day in NYC and they had an orgy room....It was a Blast!!!!
Thick curvy wife
I enjoy BBW parties! Those types of parties are the most fun for me!!
Single Guy Guide to Success
Hi fraunhubby68 your original post is spot on for Single Males!
Unreliable Single Males
Your .02 is fine! Everyone is entitled to do what works best for them! And what works best for me is my current profile as is and all the wonderful people who took time to meet and give me great certs...I am having a BLAST....So why would…
Unreliable Single Males
Thanks ItalianGinger4u2 - Glad you enjoyed my profile and certs...For me they are key in my lifestyle fun and success...hehe!!
Unreliable Single Males
ItalianGinger4u2 - Sorry did not see your last response. Yes cert are not the end all or be all on a guys character. There are always other factors you should consider. Certs are just a tool to help you make your decision on someone. But,…
What is wrong with people?
mayhem8 - I think if the couples or ladies are over 50 they tend to be more open to repeat meets and become more like friends. I like that better myself cause I tend to become a better play partner as I get to know your likes and dislikes.
What is wrong with people?
Yeah, that is the lifestyle these days. Folk are not interested in repeating any more. The meet you once and move on to the next new person. But, lucky for me I have found a few steady's that I see on a regular basis.
Unreliable Single Males
Like I mention before in this thread, certs for single guys are important. You have mainly two types of certs. One which come from party hosts. Those I consider starter certs. Those are good but they just mainly verify the guy is real. The…
Hung Males
Just come with what you got and get good at using it!! Learn how to use your hands and mouth as well to enhance the women's experience. Most women love kissing. Focus on her enjoyment first rather then yours. Once you make her cum then you…
Unreliable Single Males
I always show up, on time and travel to the couple choice of location to make it easy on them. My question is does these single male have cert?
Messaging Etiquette
Yes, a thank you for their reply is always nice. Also, wish them luck in their future lifestyle endeavors
Fellas how are your ejaculations loads these days?
Mine is not as strong as it use to be. I remember back in the day I use to be able to shoot all over my lady back and hair while she laid on her stomach! Those were the good old days....hehe!
Fellas how are your ejaculations loads these days?
Fellas How are your ejaculations loads these days? Specially you mature men over 40. Are you still cumming & shooting your loads all over your lady friend or just dribbling a little or something in between? Ladies you can chime in about yo…
What Do You Do?
Yeah, I had a friend that was at a party sucking this guy dick when I was about to leave. I interrupted them just to wave good-by when she jumped up to kiss and hug me. I accepted the hug but had to divert the kiss to her cheek....lol I th…
A Glory Hole Peak
Sounds Hot!! I heard that Splash Mocha is pretty popular and big event!!!
A Glory Hole Peak
Any one out there who actually enjoy glory holes. I attended several parties where the host actually set up glory hole and persuaded other ladies to volunteer to be the glory whole attendant.
What Do You Do?
Fellas Let me set the scene for y'all. You and your lady are at a hot life style party. Both of you are having a good old time. Your lady is sucking cock like there is no tomorrow and having a Blast! Don't get me wrong you are loving it an…
Flakey Couples
Unfortunately, flakes & folk who ghost you have become part of the fabric and flavor of the life style these days. You just have to go with your intuition and look for any red flags. Also, make sure they have resent certs to see if they ar…
Single Guy Guide to Success
Hi Fraunhubby68 Your post is very good and on point. As a single male I pretty much live by this code and I am doing very well on SLS. The one thing I would add which I tell single guys all the time. "Never come to the dinner table hungry"…
A Glory Hole Peak
Fellas When you visit a glory hole, do you take a peak to see who the hell is back there or you just stick your cock in and hope for the best? Talk to me.....lol
Do you prefer a rude NO or no response at all?
I have have rude, no, not interested, kind, did you read my profile, blocked, etc responses! I don't take it personally. I just keep it moving and chat with those who want to talk with me,
Big Ass or Big Titts?
Her Tits look pretty good but can't really tell how big her Ass is. May need a closer inspection as well
To Shave or not to Shave that is the question
We can also add to this conversation if you prefer to be shaved or not in your private and/or facial area. Talk to me.......
How do most couples feel about a fwb situation with single males?
Yeah, I met a couple who I became good friends with. They welcome me into their home often and want to travel to other events with me.
To Shave or not to Shave that is the question
Yeah this happen to me a couple of times and I did exactly what Don95 said: "Politely declined and moved on"
To Shave or not to Shave that is the question
Fellas If you contacted a couple/lady on SLS, hit it off and the next step is to meet them in person. But to meet in person they insisted that you shave. By shave I mean private area or facial hair. Facial hair can be your nicely grown bea…
Older / single / limited experience equals Waste of Time?
It's all about confidence, positive energy and not coming to the dinner table hungry for single males! I am a mature single male over 50 and do very well in the in the lifestyle in the NY Tri-State area. If you show confidence in your self…
Are single males actually swingers?
Yes, I am a single male and consider myself a swinger. I have done very well and had many great lifestyle adventures!
School Teacher or Hot Momma?
Having both in one combination is HOT!!!!!!
School Teacher or Hot Momma?
For me I love the school teacher type. I find she is way more exciting , fun and hornier then the hot momma type!
School Teacher or Hot Momma?
Fellas - When you attend a life style party what type of lady do you prefer....the innocent school teacher type or the sexy hot slutty momma type? Talk to me!!
Pussy or Ass
Not a big anal fan myself....I love the pussy! But I do enjoy doing it doggy style and watching booty jiggle.....haha!!
The perfect gentleman
There is no hidden agenda or slang behind the phrase "A perfect gentleman" in the lifestyle. It means exactly what it says. It just let potential couples or ladies you may meet know that you don't act like a fool or behave strange in any w…
Performance Anxiety - Getting your soldier standing
First thing is to relax. If you have any blue type pill that will help ease your mind as well. Find a condom that works best for you. I get the thinnest condom I can find which is more sensitive for me. Work with your wife when playing. Ha…
Any real guys in here?
I agree 100% @nativesf. And I would add that SMs should take some time to invest in themselves to make themselves more marketable to others on here.
Singles or couples wanting to meet without seeing face pictures
Understand Ron & Kathy...There is no real right or wrong way to meeting folk on here.....It all depends on if it works for you.....If you not connecting with folk on here doing it your way then you need to review what you are doing...If yo…
Singles or couples wanting to meet without seeing face pictures
I have met several couples or ladies with out seeing a clear face photo. But most of the time I look for the chemistry between us. That is more important to me then just pure looks. If the chemistry is there all else is secondary. Also, th…
Any real guys in here?
My bad....that was my mistake! He said he meets a woman every 2 to 3 months. Which is reasonable and still good!!
Any real guys in here?
Hey TV don't look at my numbers as a measure of success. If you are meeting 2 to 3 women a month in the lifestyle and having fun that is successful. That mean you are doing something right to get their attention. Just enjoy!!!!!
Any real guys in here?
Oh ok.....Did not know that!! Yeah that is definitely a problem....lol!!
Any real guys in here?
I'm not trying to beat up you ladykiller! Your name has the right idea. You just need to use it to your advantage. But if you are having no luck meeting folk don't look at them as the problem. Take a look at your self and see what you have…
Any real guys in here?
Yes, location had a lot to do with it as well......That is why I keep telling single guys to be willing to travel some. If you are fishing in an area that has no fish to catch but an 100 yards away there are plenty of fish. Why would you c…
Any real guys in here?
What many people don't understand is that the life style is not your main course of life. Your vanilla life is the main course! The life style is desert and extra! No one owes you anything on here when it comes to playing. Like Forrest Gum…
Any real guys in here?
Well all I can say is that I am a SM and I am doing very well on SLS! Now I will admit that I am in a lifestyle sweet spot of NY. So, I have easy access to couples and ladies from NY/NJ/CT/PA. I think many of the guys on here spend to much…
Any real guys in here?
Viking go to a party that allows single males in and get the host to write you a cert and verify you are a cool guy. Hotel and house party host are usually pretty good with that. It's not exactly the cert you want but it's a start. Also, i…
Any real guys in here?
Oops meant cert definitely work not defiantly
Any real guys in here?
Certs may not be for everybody but cert defiantly work for me when couples make a decision to meet me or not. I had many couple state they decided to meet me solely based on the great certs I have!
Any real guys in here?
Certs are important! If a guy does not have any certs then you should think hard. Also, take a look at the couple of person who gave the cert to help make decision on them. Last thing do a non pressure public meet in a spot convenient for…
Nude swingers campground
You don't need a membership to enter Sunny Rest. You can go as a guest. Both you and your wife will need ID to enter.
Are there any orgies any more?
Me too...hehe!!!
One word that describes you
Adventure!
Message after blocking
Sorry to hear about your experience....But hope all is well now...The way the life style is now you will get a few knuckle heads from time to time.....Just shut them down the best you can and keep it moving until you find what you want....…
Nude swingers campground
Oh Sunny Rest will kick you out or ban you if you get caught playing......They got a list of folk at the front gate that can't enter any more.....Folk do play there but that is usually at night in their private camping area.
Nude swingers campground
I would love to go to one...Sounds like fun!!!
Are there any orgies any more?
Yeah that room is exactly what I'm talking about. It started in NY and was perfected and moved down to Florida. The owner in Florida is the son of the lady who originally owned the Trapezee Club in NY.
Are there any orgies any more?
We had the Trap in NY also which had an orgy room but since closed. I think it was the same owner as the Florida club you mentioned.
Are there any orgies any more?
mayhem8....Now that is the kind of fun I am talking about....hehe!!!
Are there any orgies any more?
Let me clarify.....The clubs I use to go to that had an orgy area, you can only enter/exit the club and orgy area as a couple. They had a monitor at the orgy room entrance to make sure everyone entered and exit as a couple. So, you never g…
Are there any orgies any more?
Yeah it make sense that the club orgy may have died out and taken over by a more private affair. When I went to th club orgy it was couples only and you had to get undressed to enter the orgy room. Folks seem to understand the rule much be…
Are there any orgies any more?
Ok cool! Was wondering because back in the day I attended a club that is now closed that had an orgy room that was well used!! Those were the good old days...:)
Are there any orgies any more?
That Got Damn mail man did it to me again!!!! Dang Diggity Dang!!
Are there any orgies any more?
I remember back in the day I use to go to clubs and an orgy would break out. Everybody would get together in the mat room, lay on the floor with pillows and it was free for all. Everybody would be touching everybody. There was generally an…
Big Ass or Big Titts?
I love a nice big round apple bottom on a women! Specially when she wears high heels and a short mini skirt that shows just a little bit of the cheeks of her ass. That is so HOT!!!
Talk about a sense of entitlement
The reason for that Ron&Kathy is that the life style has open the flood gates and let all these singles in without instruction. Before the lifestyle was more couples and a mature crowd. Now anybody can get in. Also, I think SLS should give…
Talk about a sense of entitlement
Hey Drbig8 Sorry to hear about your single guys troubles! As a SM am doing my best to help rectify that situation. So stay strong and hang in there...:)
Talk about a sense of entitlement
Yeah I keep telling single guys all the time to stop trying to meet couples/ladies hungry! Couples & ladies can sense a calm well feed man vs some one who is anxious hungry and desperate!!! Just be cool and they will cum....hehe!!!
Do you young men like older ladies?
Oh trust me you wont be thinking about family while I'm poking you....hehe!!
Do you young men like older ladies?
That's cool PhoebertAndWife! I will poke you with my big thick knitting needle too.....ha ha!!!
Do you young men like older ladies?
Ha Ha.....The grandmas I meet love when I call them that! While we are doing the Nasty I tell them..."Grandma you know you can't handle this! You need to go home and do some knitting or something! Or go play with the grand kids!" That just…
Do you young men like older ladies?
Yes, Yes & Yes!!! I love FUCKING grandma!!! Hehe!!!
Blocked for no reason
Thnx VA for the feed back, but guessing the reasons for getting blocked is too complicated! I will keep it simple and keep it moving....:)
Blocked for no reason
Yeah, I have gotten blocked and don't really know the reason on why most of the time. I remember getting blocked by one couple just for looking at their profile. But, I don't take it personally. I just keep it moving because I know there i…
What is the proper etiquette for odor?
Yes guys I agree! I always take a nice warm shower and wash well before I attend a life style event. Even after I play with one lady I immediately go to the bath room to wash my private area well before I play again with another. But, ther…
What is the proper etiquette for odor?
I posted this question in another thread but thought it should be better placed here. "What is the proper etiquette for when you going to play with someone who's has a strong odor coming from their body?" That odor can be coming from their…
When is it the time to quit swinging
I took the time to read through all of Jawwge profile. Based on their profile they are very approachable! I'm not sure if you can get more approachable then a hippie style couple. In fact, they are so approachable that you can bring your M…
Hunting
I remember going to a LS club and scoping out the couples. I decided on nice looking middle age couple. So I walked over to introduce myself and put on my bet moves. Soon, I had both of them laughing, smiling and enjoying themselves. I sug…
What do you find sexier?
I agree with many of the poster about women lingerie. For men it's like unwrapping a Christmas present. We just can't wait to see what's underneath.....hehe!!!!
Wedding Ring Poll
I love playing with married women with their wedding rings on...If they wear their engagement ring as well that is even HOTTER!!
What do you find sexier?
Updating the latest count on what the MEN think is sexy on a lady - Lingerie:22 Nude:9 Both:5 Other:1 Thus far it till remains Lingerie is 2 to 1.
When is it the time to quit swinging
Time_for_fun_couple I know some great parties where the crowd is mature, age 40 to 60+. I will provide the host your SLS account name and see if they can spark your interest. So don't give up yet...Maybe you just need to re-access and be a…
Hunting
I love the parties where the ladies are the hunters!!! Those are so HOT!!!
Hunting
Oh yeah, I been to a few BBW parties and those ladies ain't no joke they try to wear the fellas out....lol!!!
Hunting
Oh yeah, I agree!! The best parties are when the host keep track of the male to female ratio!
Hunting
Fellas what type of LS party do you enjoy the best.....Do enjoy a party where you do the hunting or where the ladies actually do the hunting? Basically do like to chase or be chased......Talk to me!